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More Than Looking Good, We're LOOKING STUNNING!

@lookingstunning

I'm LookingStunning and I'll eventually put stuff on my youtube channel probably. Anticipate the trainwreck. Embrace the spirit.

Yall do NOT hop on a cosmetic surgery hate train during an ongoing campaign against trans Healthcare I am fucking begging

My tits didn't smaller themselves, fuckos. Either you believe in bodily autonomy or you fucking don't.

The sacred bond between trans people who've had plastics and cis people who have had plastics is fucking sacred and I will not tolerate anybody in the queer community trash-talking plastics no matter what it is and who is getting them and for what reason!!!

I want there to not be a line between 'costmetic' and 'necessary'. If there's a line, then insurance companies and whoever-the-fuck-else will decide everything is 'cosmetic'. That happened to me with getting my jaw rebuilt when I was A CHILD. 'oh it's cosmetic' My insurance wrangler lady and the surgeon had to write SEVERAL LETTERS to the damn insurance company detailing out just how graphically I would DIE if I did not get my face rebuilt before I was 18! If 'we won't pay for cosmetic plastics only necessary ones' wasn't a thing, that wouldn't have had to fucking happen!

So you know what? I don't want to hear the word 'cosmetic' out of anyone's mouth. it's ALL just plastics. And all plastics are still 100% the person's choice to get, I don't care what the reason is, all reasons are your business and should be honoured and that's as it should be. As Sweaterkittens said, you either believe in bodily autonomy or you fucking don't.

Signed,

A Transman who has had exclusively plastics for all FOUR major surgeries throughout his life.

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I mean, treating yaoi as the opposite of yuri just doesn't make sense mathematically: boys are not the inverse of girls. The actual opposite of yuri would somehow have to involve fewer than zero girls, and that's not an easy thing to characterise.

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It has been proposed in the notes that shonen anime, Hideo Kojima games, and police procedurals where all the women die by the end satisfy the criterion of having fewer than zero girls in various ways.

Identifying the common thread of these proposals, we may thus conclude that the opposite of yuri is Supernatural.

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("Doesn't that just put us back at square one with respect to positing that yaoi is the opposite of yuri" well, no, because Supernatural is also, for unrelated reasons, the opposite of yaoi.)

Hey, so...

…”Will you tag (something that is not a common phobia or trauma trigger)?” is always an appropriate request.  Even if you’re asking “will you tag for the letter ‘e’,” you’re not crossing boundaries unless the person you’ve asking has already said, clearly, that they will not tag for a thing.

However, “no,” is an equally appropriate reply.  It’s nice to have reasons (no I will not tag frogs because I post too many frogs and I forget, meaning that the tag will not protect you; no, I will not tag Disney princesses because it says “Disney princesses” in my blog description and you knew this was a dead dove before you took a bite), but they are absolutely not required.

“Will you tag for birds of prey?”  “No.  Please unfollow me if you require that tag.”  is a perfectly polite exchange.

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It amazes me when people forget this is a common courtesy. Also, if you like following someone in particular and they post things that trigger you, you can sometimes find ways to creatively block things they don’t tag for and continue to enjoy their other posts. 

For example, Seanan posts a lot of frogs. Pics and vids of frogs squick me, and are related to some personal triggers, so if I’m already having a bad mental health moment seeing those can make it much worse. I love everything else she posts about and would be sad if I had to unfollow her just for the frogs. So instead, I have the name of the blog she usually reblogs frogs from as a blacklisted tag on xkit, and that knocks my chances of seeing frogs on her blog down to like, 5%. Doing that keeps my dash a safe space for me to relax and have fun, without asking her to second guess posting the things she relaxes and has fun with.

Sometimes you need to unfollow people, for the sake of your health in internet usage. And sometimes there’s workarounds you can put in place yourself to tailor what you see of someone else’s blog. But putting all the work of protecting yourself on the internet into someone else’s hands is unfair, to them and to you.

Many people have this idea that if someone doesn’t say yes or bend over backwards for them specifically then it must mean they’re a terrible, shitty -ist or -phobic person who doesnt care.

No, sometimes people just have boundaries and those boundaries can conflict.

No, sometimes people

just have boundaries and those

boundaries can conflict.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

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