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Layla || 26 || USA || 🇬🇧🇩🇪|| they/she || lesbian || femme enby || TERFs can fuck off || occasionally horny on main || antifa || dealing with past trauma || I like video games, makeup, anime, intersectional feminism, and vibrators || nerdy as fuck || My RedBubb

Obligatory intro post.

I’m Layla. Pronouns: she/they. Gender: who cares, but AFAB if you must know.

Been on this Hellscape of a site since 2012.

I’m pro choice, feminist, antifa, trans-inclusive, sex positive, sex work positive, and just an overall progressive. Honestly I’m as far left as they come.

I’m really into Splatoon and Overwatch as of late but I blog about other shit.

Enjoy your stay.

PS, I have bills to pay, and I plan on putting more stuff on my RedBubble soon. Check it out, please!

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it also made me very sad at one point one of the kids said her dad was being hateful towards drag queens and that he had a very skewed/incorrect view of what a drag queen was and wouldnt listen to her and told her she was “too naive” when she tried to explain

and i replied “if i remember correctly when youre at this age it seems adults will wave off any of your life experiences even if they lack their own because they refuse to see those younger than them as their own people” and EVERY SINGLE KID AT THE TABLE turned and said EXACTLY

and i was like. oh. so i wasnt alone in that. but also. i dont have to BE that. im not doing that. im listening and actually talking to them. i hope that there are older people in their life doing the same.

um. i dont know how to say. please listen to the children in your life. its true sometimes youll know better but, often times they have perspectives we may miss and dismissing them hurts everyone in the end. we have so much we can share and learn together.

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well so this is the thing exactly. adults are wrong all the time. but we still will listen and explain to them the points where theyve misunderstood something (when the conversation is good natured).

when you dismiss kids being wrong just because of their age or dismiss them completely because of their age, because you do not have the same experiences as them, you create an entire group of people who believe that communicating will not work even if they spend time doing proper research and speaking clearly, doubley so when theyre just voicing their own emotions/experienced.

kids like that dont just sit down and shut up, they close off from the adults in their lives and thats why i think a lot of teens get called “secretive” or “emo” by their parents. theyre not just randomly moody, theyre just so used to being dismissed theyve withdrawn to avoid any further interactions where they might be mocked or belittled.

i dont know why its so normalized for kids to be ignored or not listened to, a lack of knowledge has never once made it excusable to treat an adult disrespectfully and yet….

It only just occurred to me that you’re probably supposed to group Steam games by genre or something. I group them like this.

HOW ARE YOU PEOPLE FINDING ANYTHING IF YOU DON’T GROUP THEM??

ah, i’m so bad at posting here. acknowledging this Day of Mourning from the lands of Kiikaapoi, Peoria, Potawatomi, Myaamia & Ochethi Sakowin people, aka Chicago, derived from a native word for garlic (mmm…) which is really suitable for me because I live here now 🌱🧄✨

whose.land are you on? talk about it over dinner this weekend with your fam & what it means to give the #landback. considering everything, listening & learning from indigenous people is the least you can do.

(see more of my art on patreon, insta & twitter)

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Pretty sure Iowa is a native name as well.

Yeah, it’s derived from Ioway, the name given to a bribe whose native name is Báxoje. “Ioway” was a name given to them by other tribes

Arizona, which is marked here by diagonal lines, is of uncertain etymology. It may come from the O’odham name alĭ ṣonak meaning “small spring”, but another possibility is from the Basque haritz ona “the good oak”, as there were a number of Basque immigrants in the area in the early days of colonization. Presumably that uncertainty is what’s being conveyed with the marking here

Interestingly, Idaho is a pseudo-native name, as in, it was literally invented as a fake “Indian name”. Quoting Wikipedia:

In the early 1860s, when the U.S. Congress was considering organizing a new territory in the Rocky Mountains, the name “Idaho” was suggested by George M. Willing, a politician posing as an unrecognized delegate from the unofficial Jefferson Territory.[10] Willing claimed that the name was derived from a Shoshone term meaning “the sun comes from the mountains” or “gem of the mountains”,[11] but it was revealed later that there was no such term and Willing claimed that he had been inspired to coin the name when he met a little girl named “Ida”.[12] Since the name appeared to be fabricated, the U.S. Congress ultimately decided to name the area Colorado Territory instead when it was created in February 1861, but by the time this decision was made, the town of Idaho Springs, Colorado had already been named after Willing’s proposal. The same year Congress created Colorado Territory, a county called Idaho County was created in eastern Washington Territory. The county was named after a steamship named Idaho, which was launched on the Columbia River in 1860. It is unclear whether the steamship was named before or after Willing’s claim was revealed. Regardless, part of Washington Territory, including Idaho County, was used to create Idaho Territory in 1863.[13] Eventually, the name was given to the Idaho Territory, which would later become the U.S. state.
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One thing that a lot of transmasc people struggle with before they fully realize they’re trans is the question of “do I hate being treated like a woman because women are treated like shit, or do I hate being treated like a woman because I’m not a woman?”

and one method (though not entirely foolproof) to figuring that out is asking “would I be upset if another girl was treated like this?”

like, I’d be just as mad if some dude said “you can’t do math because you’re a girl” to a female classmate as I would if he said it to me

however, I never got uncomfortable at waiters calling my female friends “m'am”, I was only uncomfortable when they called *me* that

and obviously everyone’s feelings are different and there’s tons of variables at play, but if you find that there’s a lot of the second scenario going on with you, there’s a good chance you’re not entirely cis

Where was this post 18 god damn months ago.

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black lives matter and pride are intrinsically linked. the black trans community have done so much for us, we owe it to them to not forget their movement this month. without black lives, there would be no pride. black lives matter, today and always