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Relationships, Happiness and Society

Beautiful people of the present and the future. Let me, let you in on a little secret about relationships, happiness and society. These three things play a major role in our lives and we don’t even realise half of the time so I’m here to open your eyes to something new.

The secret is that you do not have to be in a romantic relationship to find happiness. Happiness can be found in many different ways, you have just got to look for the things that make you happy and find what works best for you. These things differ for everyone therefore I am unable to tell you what they will be for you specifically, god I don’t even know for myself what they are but I am keen on finding out. It will take time, but it is time that you should be willing to put in, as the end result will definitely be worth it.

It annoys me how society today consists of everyone going off saying that more often than not a girl won’t be known unless she is pretty and wanted and that guys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with somebody. I feel as though nowadays people feel as though they aren’t loved to the extent they feel they need to be unless they are dating someone and that pains me as it shouldn’t be that way. You should be able to feel loved and enough without another person. Personally I believe that you should be learning to love yourself first anyway. Learn to love yourself and then let someone else love you once you know how you deserve, and need to be loved. You are who you are, you need to embrace that, but this is a conversation for another day.

Lately I’ve been hearing “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of single people and it kills me to hear this. If you ask these people where there parents, grandparents and colleagues etc are they will often say, “but that doesn’t count”. Of course it counts! Love doesn’t just diminish because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you, in fact doesn’t it make that sort of love more real and special? I’m sure it is quite magical to be in love, but honestly shouldn’t we be considering a question like “is this really the reason for my happiness?”

Everyone is so focused on making their lives about finding ‘the one’, but what if ‘the one’ is just you , loving yourself, having fun and being happy while enjoying the short life that we are living right now and living it to it’s fullest. Maybe, just maybe instead of looking for our ‘other halves’ we should focus on piecing ourselves together and surrounding ourselves with the ones closest to us, like our friends and families, as in the end they are the ones who will continuously love and support us. These people will also continue to fill our lives with beautiful memories that will be cherished forever.

Eventually someone will come along you have just got to be patient, sit back and learn to love yourself first and actually enjoy the roller coaster we call life.

- Hayley J. Williams