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Yet another hodge podge nerdy blog about shitposts,The Umbrella Academy, LotR's, some Star Trek, animals and nature, my adventures in writing and whatever else I feel like talking about. She/They , 20↑, Queer as fuck. Call Me Ames
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primeministerofantarctica
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fagpireautism

also before it starts to happen: if i see a single person calling july "gay wrath month" or saying "we deserve a second one" it is ON SIGHT. that is DISABILITY PRIDE MONTH. abled queers i will run you over with my wheelchair if you so much as reblog one of those comments.

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fagpireautism

hello! reblog this version instead!

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unniebeans

Hello! Disabled person here. Did you know those of us declared legally disabled and collect SSI and benefits are barred from getting married? Yep! I'm also queer so this isn't hate at all, it's a call to action: if you love marriage equality, come help us fight for ours.

Marriage Equality – Center for Disability Rights
Marriage Equality – Center for Disability Rights
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#important
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fixyourwritinghabits
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coffeeandcalligraphy

Things to say about your writing instead of “this is so bad”

  • My writing doesn’t have to be perfect all the time
  • The dialogue in this scene feels stale (or another adjective), but I can revise that later
  • The descriptions lack specificity (or another issue), but I can revise that later
  • The [another specific craft element] isn’t working the way I’d hoped, but I can revise that later
  • I don’t feel like I can objectively judge my work at this current moment
  • I’m not happy with my writing right now, but that doesn’t mean I’ll feel this way forever
  • I’ll reread this writing at a later time and move on for now
  • This scene isn’t turning out how I’d pictured in my head, but I can accept that for now and tweak it later
  • I trust myself to edit this in the future
  • I’m afraid people are going to judge my work, but I’ll accept that I can’t control the reactions of other people—my reaction matters most
  • This scene/subplot/character/etc is overwhelming me.
  • I’ll take my time through this scene/chapter/subplot as more time may allow me to immerse more in the draft.
  • I’ll write this scene/chapter/subplot as quickly as I can—I would like to get through this part ASAP.
  • It’s okay to make mistakes in my writing.
  • I’m not feeling very confident in my craft right now, but I know this will pass
  • This scene might be bad, and that’s okay. Sometimes I write gems, and sometimes my writing needs a bit more work (that’s normal)
  • This scene relies on [certain skill] that I’m still honing. I understand to get better at something, I have to practice and practicing requires mistakes.
  • I’m not excited about this scene right now
  • I had high expectations for this scene, and unfortunately, I don’t feel like I’m hitting them. However, it’s okay for expectations to change.
  • I’m disappointed with how my writing is turning out. That’s normal, even though it sucks.
  • I’m going to remind myself what I DO like about my writing because this feels bad, though I know this feeling won’t last forever.

Sometimes writers need to say “my writing is so bad,” and that’s fine too! Sometimes though, it’s good to note what is specifically wrong in case you need an extra boost forward! <3

#writing advice
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capillaryspice
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manywinged

the lord of the rings is a great work of literature and film for a lot of reasons but one of them is that it understands the importance of having a little treat

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manywinged

there are multiple scenes in both the books and films where the characters stop everything they're doing to have a bite to eat because this is an necessary part of their hero's journey

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manywinged

frodo wouldn't have lost his will to live if mordor had a gas station

#LOTR
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phoenixonwheels
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featuresofinterest

it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?

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greenjudy

My grandmother and grandfather more or less adopted my grandmother’s best friend back in the 50s. After my grandfather died (before I was born, back in 1968 or so) they continued to keep house together, platonic best friends, and they hung together until they died, a few months apart, in 2007.

It’s quite recently, as far as I can tell, that living arrangements like that have stopped being regarded as normal.

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deathcomes4u

It’s absolutely a new thing to find this stuff weird, and it has a lot to do with media pretending that the nuclear family and marriage are the only reasons to live with other people.

I’ve lived in a 3 adult household my whole life. My parents and their best friend. This was never weird to me, even though everyone my age thought it was because the media never portrayed these kinds of housing arrangements. As far as i was concerned, I just had an extra non-blood parent.

According to my parents, it was very common in the 70′s-80′s to buy houses with your friends, because it was financially smart to do so (so long as you were certain they were close friends who wouldn’t fall out with you and fuck everything up). Houses and house payments are much more manageable when you split the bills 3-4 ways instead of just two.

Millenials aren’t the first to think it’s a great idea to just shack up with friends. That’s housemating without the hastle of living with strangers. It’s still a good idea to shack up with people you’ve known a long time so you know how you’ll get on living together, but still. In the current economy, it’s pretty much now our only option for affording anything.

I think, and I’m not researched on this, but I think conservatives probably tried to suppress images of non-nuclear families because they likely thought it would encourage ideas of polygamy, polyamory, open sexual relationships with or without marriage, as well as other relationship types they thought of as un-christian or unsavoury. I could be wrong, but that shit wouldn’t surprise me.

(And i want to make a note that there’s also a disturbing amount of asexual denial around that makes people go ‘if they’re living together they HAVE to be banging because why wouldn’t they?’ and that shit both creeps me out and annoys me no end. People can be in relationships without sex. People can live together without sex. Sex is not the be-all and end-all and people being taught to think it is really need to stop).

Don’t let the media fool you into believing you can only live with a sexual partner or blood family. Someone somewhere has an agenda for making these seem abnormal, when really it’s just practical.

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curlicuecal

A lot of people acted like it was super weird when two of my brothers decided to move states with me when I started my postdoc. I got really used to giving a little canned speech about it because it seemed to bewilder people so much. (Their leases happened to be up! We could share rent! They wanted to try somewhere new!)

The notable exception was my grandma, who was just like, “oh, yes, when we were young my sister and I decided to move cross-country together and it was lovely.”

More of this kind of thing for everyone, pls.

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magickedteacup

The implication that close sibling relationships must also be a warning sign for incest also peeves me off; what kind of society are we living in anyway

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ineptshieldmaid
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solarcat

Having a multi-adult household unit also just makes a shit-ton of sense, tbh. Much easier to split not only the bills, but also the housework and child-rearing responsibilities. Communal living ftw.

It’s also super a capitalism thing.

With only two working-age people in the house, it’s very difficult to make ends meet without one of them (or increasingly, these days, both of them) working away the vast majority of their waking hours to earn enough money to support the household. The other person, if they aren’t also working similar hours, is there to support that working person, full time, with unpaid labour.

The end result of this is that nobody has any time or energy to spend together properly, and they just end up tired and miserable and shackled to their work, throwing money at their problems because it’s all they can do. It’s very easy to convince tired, miserable people to spend their money in the ways you want them to, and it’s also very easy to manipulate and oppress people who don’t have the energy or the means to fight for their rights. Convince a whole nation that this is the way the world is supposed to work, and you’ll be well away.

Death to the cancerous myth of the nuclear family.

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yardsards

this is exactly the type of thing us aros and aces are referring to when we talk about amatonormativity

#oh this
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tinx-methinks
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wetheurban

Be open to the possibility that people are speaking nicely about you behind your back. People are conspiring about ways to help you. People advocating for you. People are genuinely rooting for you behind your back.

#yes
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lyralit
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lyralit

ways to start writing more efficiently

  • stop writing with the word count on!
  • use a font like comic sans -- trick your brain into thinking that it's not important, that the writing can be stupid, if it's in a stupid font (if you can't tell i despise comic sans)
  • time yourself to get to a goal
  • or give yourself a certain amount of time
  • quantity >> quality in the first draft(s)!
  • jot down what you want to happen in that chapter
  • try organizing your writing (nanowrimo, for example)
  • do *not* reread! it doesn't need to make sense, it just needs to be there
  • try not to stick yourself to something you saw on tumblr. what works for someone else doesn't necessarily work for you!
  • take breaks. time those breaks.
  • practice writing short stories / oneshots of your characters.
  • try getting all your writing done within a certain goal (as much as I can for 30 minutes) rather than writing 5 minutes on or off
  • write down every little wormy idea that comes into your brain! sure, it's probably for a different plot, but maybe you can work it in somehow?
  • on that note, mash elements of your plots together rather than starting a whole new story
  • see maybe what little writing competitions you can submit your work to
  • proclaim your goal to the wide web for some peer pressure
  • rewards yourself. cheer on every thousand-word milestone. brag to your friends that you've written something, anything.
  • don't think of the big goal—don't think of publishing, or posting, etc. think of the end of your chapter, the development of your character, where it goes.
  • switch your writing environment! where are you most productive?
  • make a playlist only for when you write. never for anything else.
  • getting off tumblr, probably.
  • have people remind you of your goals.
  • remember that it all comes with discipline, but also your mental health is the most important!! don't sacrifice half your sleep to meet your nanowrimo goals. try to recognize when it's taking you too long and close the document. do something else. come back later.
  • take care of yourself. <3 use this post as a breather (or reminder to start!)
#writing#writing advice