It's your perspective

uh so i never do this but maui is quite literally on fire and there isn't nearly enough care or consideration for. you know. Native Hawaiians who live here being displaced and the land (and cultural relevance) that's being eaten up by the fire. so if ya'll wanna help, here's some links:

maui food bank: https://mauifoodbank.org/

maui humane society: https://www.mauihumanesociety.org/

center for native hawaiian advancement: https://www.memberplanet.com/campaign/cnhamembers/kakoomaui

hawai'i red cross: https://www.redcross.org/local/hawaii/ways-to-donate.html

please reblog and spread the word if you can't donate.

Just learning about this (!), and reblogging for visibility.

Also sending worried love to all my friends and all the people I don't know in Maui.

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The ineffable husbands as "Couple Dancing" by Leyendecker

Painting this was difficult but really fun and rewarding, I love the result!

(I'm @/noixtky on Instagram!)

and like. i kinda have weird feelings abt fetishization bc like ok.

i hooked up with a queer person who used all the right language and did all the right things, but then they told me they only date ppl who were afab, regardless of gender. they’ll fuck ppl who were amab but they won’t date them, only afab ppl. the further we got into the convo, it became clear that the reason they only wanted to date ppl who were afab is bc we are more likely to have been socialized to take on the brunt of the domestic and emotional labor in relationships. that hookup ended up lasting over an hour bc they kept interrupting sex to complain about their ex wife. by the end i was practically shoving them out the door because i was so uncomfortable.

the guy i’m hooking up with right now is very cis and found me through the ftm tag on grindr, so he was specifically looking for trans guys. he told me he’s into trans guys because he likes sleeping with masculine people, mostly men, but he also likes the way vaginas feel. could that be seen as fetishistic? sure. does it feel that way to me when we have sex? nope. he uses gender affirming language without even being asked, he tells me he’s super into my body and gets excited when he notices that i’ve grown more hair or had a t dick growth spurt. he likes my body because it’s trans, and i’m perfectly okay with that.

i felt so much more fetishized by the queer person who was actively seeking out afab ppl to take advantage of essentially patriarchal trauma than i ever have by the guy who just likes trans pussy. so i feel like we just really need to have a conversation about what it actually means to fetishize someone because it very much feels like it’s just become “thinks trans ppl are hot” and i hate that literally other trans ppl are scared of finding other trans ppl hot for fear of fetishizing. trans ppl are fucking hot! our trans bodies are hot! it’s okay to be sexually attracted to trans bodies!

THIS. This this this, a thousand times this.

I personally think that a lot of people have decided that "being attractive to something non-normative" = "fetishizing" which... Is just blatantly not true. But it's how you end up with people who think that someone who is explicitly (and perhaps only) attracted to trans/genderqueer bodies is an evil fetishizer instead of, you know. Someone who likes that kind of body. Same vein of thinking as people who think that those who are attracted to fat people are all chubby chasers with a fat/feeding fetish instead of just people who find fat bodies attractive.

Like imo? There is no fucking difference between saying "Oh yeah, I really like guy pussy" and "I really like big dick and muscles." It's just what you like, and I hate that when someone expresses that they like something that is seen as "not normal"- not a straight, cis, white, abled, thin body, people act like it's a fetish or it's objectifying. Because what that says, at least to me as a fat genderqueer transmasc, is that being attracted to me as I am is inherently not normal and not good. And that is a fucking SHITTY message to send.

The problem with trans chasers and chubby chasers and "fetishizers" (and honestly, people really need to like, read up on what a fetish is because I'm sick of seeing it used as some bad thing all the time, it's not) is that they treat people as not whole people. Whether, as in the example above, they take advantage of actual or perceived trauma and behavior associated with one's assigned gender, or as a personal example, they're only interested in sleeping with you because they've "never fucked a fat chick and hear that you girls give awesome head". People who do that shit see the people they go after as experiences or novelties, or as something exotic. A sex object that they can use.

Whereas someone who is just into trans bodies, fat bodies... They just like those bodies. And they will treat you as a whole person. You're not a sexual toy to them- you're a person that they think is hot, that they want to sleep with. They care about you and your body and what you need. Again, it's no different than someone who dates people with brown eyes or cool dyed hair because they find those things attractive. It's just "this is what I look for physically in a partner".

'#i genuinely really like this post#because it is always difficult for me to acknowledge that i do have preferences due to this sort of thing#are they strong ones? no. but just the fact that they exist doesn't meant that i'm fetishizing something!!#however my brain and american purity culture are both mean' will smith gesturing meme goes here

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If u want to write a story about a character that's just you but hotter with a dark twisted backstory and magical powers and a pet falcon or something, I think u should just go ahead and do that. Who's gonna stop you? The government?? Fuck the police.

What if someone barges in, points at said character and scream, “Mary Sue!”

Tell them to come back with a warrant

This post came across my dash again and now I am having an absolute blast with self insert hotter me that gets the girls and guys everywhere.

This is the Way

Reblogging because I am very pro-writing whatever the hell you want, even ”bad” things, and also because “tell them to come back with a warrant” BROKE ME

Politicians and religious leaders are not doctors

Yesterday, I was beat up in a transphobic attack outside the homeless shelter. I have sustained injuries and charged the people involved. I NEED safety away from the streets. I’ve been homeless for a year since my mother kicked me out and disowned me.

I’m tired of being otherized for being a black transgender lesbian. It hurts. In school, people made fun of me. At home, I was abused and now at the shelter I’m struggling and being attacked. It’s hard out here for black people, especially black transgender people.

I need funds to get an apartment, hygiene essentials , furniture etc. please share and consider donating

i wanted to draw my rat girl for this very special occasion 

one year later and she still banging out tunes for this national holiday

it’s been a year you know what that means!!

HAPPY BANGING OUT TUNES DAY

you think I’d forget about the most important day of the year?? HAPPY NEIL DAY!

ROCKING out the tunes this year round

sorry for being so weird it's my first time being alive

NOT sorry for being so weird it’s my ONLY time being alive

you can do whatever you want forever

hell yes. realest shit ever said

Unmute !

The horse is named “Steven”…

And that horse knows his name is Steven.

Can we please make this a reality instead of nuclear armageddon?

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Plus apparently he is pedo which is not tolerable

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Okay but making Lord English evil and the final villian, for me at least really undercuts what Damara did.

Leo Akaba neglected her own daughter, created child soilders, caused multi dimensional wars which lead to genocide and carded countless innocent people. All in the name of restoring the dimensions, but really bringing back her daughter, Calliope.

Not to mention his followers involve The Condescence who was a very bad dude in the Bard dimension and you know tortured Gamzee. And the Professor who mind controlled the bracelet kids.

In comparison to that, Caliborn was an innocent kid who wanted to have fun while clowning and got driven to the edge by his dragons cries and the demands of the crowd.

He plays the part of the bad guy, he tries to convince everyone that he created Sburb because he’s this irredeemable monster. But Callope herself pointed out that Sburb was born out of the compassion in his heart.

Yeah he split the dimensions but that was a consequence of his and Callope’s dual, and really other than that he didn’t really do anything wrong minus some structural damage and freaking people out.

Even in the end, dragon kid clowned a bit too aggressively and had a tantrum. 

And changing Caliborn from this sweet kid who fell into darkness and despair to someone who apparently always wanted power and wanted to become number 1 out of greed… It both takes away from his original motivation, who he is and the fact he’s also a victim of all this.

Painting him as the bad guy kinda let’s Damara “what is child endangerment” Megido to get off scott free and almost justifies his actions.

Which just no he is not the good guy here.

And story wise it doesn’t make a lot of sense, Lord English with the original motivation parallels him with Gamzee who went through the same thing. Both of them wanting to make people smile with their clowning pushed into despair.

The difference being Gamzee had friends who’s hearts he touched with his dualing who came to rescue him.

Hearts that he touched with his HyperClownMode, a technique he taught the other Sburb players that Lord English himself created out of the goodness in his heart.

Imagine if when Gamze came back he was in his mind scape with the others all of them having a deeper understanding of each other. And they see Caliborn, not Lord English but Calliborn… Just Calliborn the kid who wanted to help people smile.

And he thanks them, apologises for all of this but gets cut off.

Everyone comes back as their own person, sharing a soul connection but they are themselves. And Caliborn gets to reunite with Calliope before they go kick her dad’s butt.

Something like that at least

i never realized cuneiform was made with the corner of a cuboid tool, i thought the wedge shapes were carved such that you would press straight down with the tool at a 90° angle to the clay

Wow! My mind is super into this new information

(heh heh)

You can do this on gingerbread and biscuit dough. (More info here.)