So I'm copying this from another post because I think it really should be on its own.
A lot of people I think don't... get TMA/TME (transmisogyny affected/exempt). Its all just transphobia right?
The explicit thing the term was coined for was describing how AMAB trans people (referred to as MTF and the spectrum) receives far, far more attention than AFAB trans people (referred to as FTM and the spectrum) from cis society, and how that affects trans women specifically.
When I was young, very young, I watched Shrek 2. There is a scene where a character who is ostensibly a boy is revealed to be wearing panties, by force. This is treated as a joke. For reasons I don't know at the time, I find the scene deeply upsetting.
I grow older, and learn more about trans people. I am exposed to trans womanhood that is not a joke, and in the course of a year come to accept that I am a trans woman. It feels like I am alive for the first time; getting to be called a girl, "she", wearing girl's shirts and growing my hair long. Genuinely, I thought of myself as basically a walking corpse pre-transition, and that feeling is gone.
But all the while, those jokes from when I was a child are still in my head. And here's the thing- its not just Shrek. There were jokes about trannies and men in dresses at school growing up. So many cartoon shows and movies make a punchline out of the idea that a man would look ugly in a dress, or that a boy character would be shamed for wearing a dress. Or that a puppet wearing panties, secretly, is something funny. Think about a culture where that kind of a joke is so normal it makes its way into like, half of all kid's shows. Think about growing up in that culture.
I don't know how to explain to you that the thing that makes me feel like a living person, the thing that makes me happier than I've ever been, is something that people know of, that people think is wrong, and that I have known that, through jokes and through art and through the people around me, for as long as I have known anything.
I have known I was a trans woman for five years, and I have not worn a pair of panties.
And, to be clear, this is just a single leg of the lumbering cultural behemoth that is transmisogyny. There's the fact we earn a full 10% less than TME trans people, the fact callouts and the resulting harassment and ostracisation and death threats disproportionately affects trans women on this website, the fact that like it or not TERFs primary target is trans women... it's so much and I am simply begging you to open your eyes and pay attention.