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a sweet epilogue

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it's a bit of a mess up in here
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One thing that Firefox can’t do is allow me to access my telehealth therapy appointments. Three different platforms now have rejected my use of Firefox. I use Safari instead bc that’s what works and at least it isn’t chrome, but for folks who rightfully use Firefox, be aware that many, if not all, telehealth platforms will not work on Firefox (something about the encryption/security not being up to their standard, I believe; if there are hacks that Firefox gurus know to bypass this, please share with the class?).

Any reason the developers of those sites give that is not 'we're too lazy to check compatibility so we're blocking Firefox' is false.

As a web developer, I would like to share that the user agent switcher above will get you into many websites that block access, however chrome gives access to several video and hardware APIs that other browser do not.

The reason other browsers don't give access to these APIs is that they grant far too much access to the hardware on your machine and as such open potential security vulnerabilities should one of these websites ever be compromised. Companies that tend to actually think about the long term privacy of their users tend not to use these APIs, but they're the fastest way to meet governmental standards so...

So, there is a real reason why a telehealth website may not work as well in Firefox, and may not be able to encrypt the way it wants to. That reason isn't really to your benefit, but there is a reason.

one thing cyberpunk media is missing is pidgin vernacular. you mean to tell me that a century in the future where borders are even more irrelevant and great masses of every ethnicity congregate in giant megalopolises that the protagonists are only going to be speaking english. white boys are already saying inshallah

Applying for jobs is a hell designed specifically to torment autistic people. Here is a well-paying task which you know in your heart and soul if they just gave you a desk and left you alone and allowed you to do it you would sit there and be more focused and enthusiastic and excellent at it than anyone else in the building. However, before they allow you to perform the task, you must pass through 3-4 opaque social crucibles where you must wear uncomfortable clothes and make eye contact while everyone expects you to lie, but not too much (no one is ever clear exactly how much lying is expected, “over” honesty is however penalized). You are being judged almost entirely on how well you understand these very specific and unclear rules that no one has explained. None of this has anything to do with your ability to perform the desired task.

It is hell! I want to acknowledge that the original point of the post is NOT fixed by my providing solutions (the way jobs are filled makes no sense), but also I want to leave some notes for folks struggling with these unspoken rules. 

Some brief notes on the correct kinds of “LYING”:

  • Always use “I” expressions, instead of “we”:
  1. eg “I created a solution to a recurring problem by doing [x].”, even if it was really you and two others in a group
  2. If you LED the group (or did project-management), you can say, “I led a team to create a solution to a recurring problem by doing [x].”
  3. This is because employers like to know that YOU can do, and they also value team-leadership. If you say “we”, they may stop you and ask what You did specifically. You can avoid this by just saying “I”.
  • Someone asks if you have experience in a program (like excel):
  1. If you feel confident using it:  “Yes, I am very proficient.”
  2. If you have used it a few times, and could at least google what to do next: “Yes, I have good experience.”
  3. If you don’t have any experience: “I have used it before. I generally pick up programs very fast, and I’m a quick learner.”
  • Mistakes (some interviewers may ask about a time you made a mistake, or a weakness of yours):
  1. Good answers are those with solutions.
  2. Bad answer examples:  “Sometimes I don’t catch mistakes before sending things.”  OR  “I don’t like working with other people”
  3. Good answer examples:  “I had a problem catching typos, so I implemented steps that force me to check my work.”  OR  “I prefer to do things on my own so I know it’s done right, but I’m working on trusting my teammates to take on pieces as well.”
  • Someone asks if you’ve ever led a team / managed a project:
  1. Try to say YES to this question (even if it is a lie)
  2. If you have, say yes, and say how many people were on the team. 
  3. If you haven’t, but you played a large role in a group of people, say yes, and talk about your primary role on the team. 
  4. If you haven’t, but you worked solo on something that needed input from other people, say yes, and say what the project was about. 

Additional:

  • Misc Rules
  1. You can ask people to repeat interview questions
  2. You can write down interview questions while they’re asking (write the basics of the question down for yourself, like the top things you have to answer). People will wait for you to finish writing, you don’t have to answer Immediately.
  3. Try to keep your answer to questions somewhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute and 30 seconds. You don’t have to time it, but if you find that your answers are taking 3 minutes, you might lose interest.
  • Have a list of projects / bragging points to talk about in advance
  1. Try to make sure they at least answer the core question asked, don’t just bring up a completely unrelated topic
  2. Example: if you are really excited to talk about a program you wrote, and someone asks about balancing projects, you can say you are good at AUTOMATION, and an example is this program you wrote
  • “Do you have any questions for us?” (A question asked at the end of most interviews.)
  1. “What has been your favorite part of working at [company]?”
  2. “What’s been your favorite project to work on?”
  3. People like talking about themselves
  • Thank you emails
  1. Some employers care if you send them a thank you “letter” (email). Sometime by the end of the day (you can do it right after the interview if you think you’ll forget), send a thank you email like this (you can look up other templates, or ask a friend for help):
  2. Subject Line:  Thank You
  3. “Hi [interviewer name], It was great speaking with you. Hearing more about the role, as well as what you said about [their answer to a question you asked them] has made me even more excited for this opportunity. Thank you for your time today, [Your Name]

Good luck!!

Im gonna need this in 2 years!

Honestly the “applying and interviewing for a job” is harder and more stressful than actually doing the job 999% of the time for me. I hate it so much.

Wait they ask about mistakes and weaknesses because they want to hear about solutions?! That makes so much more sense! Why dont they just verbalize the solution part!

The combination of being autistic and being entry level makes it extra hell.

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A couple more notes:

When you send your follow-up email, it’s okay to ask about next steps or when you might hear from them. To build on the previous script, after the sentence where you say you’re excited, you could insert, “I’m curious about next steps in this process - what can you tell me about your timeline?”

You can use non-work projects to talk about organizing and leading things, especially if you’re new to the job market and they know that. If you were the president or the treasurer of a youth group or ran the fundraiser auction for your school band, you can use that, as long as you can explain concretely what you DID.

I know people who used the fact that they had been head staff for huge digital LARPs on their resumes. They had to lead staff of 20+ people for a digital entertainment endeavor, create procedures and document them, etc.

And that worked.

Don’t lie about what you did, but think about what those activities would “count as” if you were getting paid for it. My wife had like 30+ people reporting to her and 200+ recurring clients with conflicting needs which she had to balance. That’s totally legitimate, you just have to show them that this is what you did.

So yeah, running that Discord RP server for years and years could probably go on your resume if you write it up right.

this is your reminder that if you're going to be posting spiderverse gifs / clips you NEED to tag them as flashing, eyestrain, etc.

seizures can kill. the lives of your disabled friends and followers are more important than a movie.

also, do NOT tag them as epilepsy, seizure, photo-sensitivity, etc. people use these tags to find other people like them. by putting them in these tags you are endangering them.

reminder again since it comes out in a few days.

hey so, if you're attending a pride event:

  • always bring someone with you, never be alone. always be cautious within your surroundings, and if you're unable to bring a family member/friend with you: let them know what your plans are gonna be for the day. additionally it's better to tell them who you'll be with, mention anybody they can contact and stay in-touch with you.
  • referring to the previous point: being in a group with people that you know well and trust is ideal.
  • always come up with a safety plan.
  • trust your instincts: if you feel like something is off, then it probably means that something is off. try to remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. protect yourself if necessary.
  • charge your electronic devices! bring an extra battery and extra chargers in case it dies.
  • wear sunscreen, summer just started which means that it's gonna get hot outside. bring water with you too, always bring extra just to be safe; you do not want to get dehydrated real quickly.
  • keep your money in a safe place where people won't take it; keep it secured. put it in your bra, at the back end of your backpack; anywhere that'll restrict a strangers access from obtaining it.
  • designate a meeting place in case somebody gets lost! be specific on where the location everyone wants to meet at, like i've previously mentioned: be communicative at all times. write down phone numbers for legal support too.

The point shouldn't be to identify for sure 100% what is ai art and what isn't. I keep seeing posts advising one to look out for wonky perspective (as if perspective doesn't routinely trip up even the most experienced artists) or to pay attention to fudged detailing (as if impressionism wasn't one of the most influential artistic movements in history), and I think that's coming from a good place but frankly it's a losing battle. Remember when everyone was on about counting the fingers or counting the teeth, and a week later they had that shit ironed out completely? All you're really doing is giving these people more data points to work with to refine their algorithm. It's just going to be constantly shifting goalposts, and at a certain point real artists are going to get exhausted trying to make their art look as not algorithmically generated as possible. It'll be impossible to keep up.

So what should we do? Honestly, I think old practices are still best practices. Find real artists and follow them. Don't repost art, and dont spread reposted art. If something doesn't have a source, skip it. Support artists you like, either by sharing their work directly or donating. And if someone's work looks suspicious? Maybe give them a second look. See some of their other art before jumping to conclusions.

And yes, that means sometimes, you're gonna be tricked. Some people are going to fly under the radar and pass off ai art as their own. And that sucks, and they're liars, but you can't let the obsession with bad actors police real artists out of their communities, or discourage new artists from entering the scene.

While we’re complaining, I’m also getting really tired of staff replacing commonly used, muscle memory features with new features to force us to repeatedly click on the new feature, only to “hear our concerns” and “roll it back” when it was only ever a transparent way of forcing us to interact with the new features

Replacing the search tab with tumblr live, replacing the BLOG tab of all things with tumblrmart, and now replacing the add tags button with an add community labels button. It’s getting kind of infuriating!

And I’m not even opposed to tumblrmart and community labels! I’m using them. I just hate getting slapped in the face with them for weeks at a time!

That’s not even to mention replacing double-tap to zoom with double-tap to like (a feature which was already present on posts but now applies to images you’re looking at), replacing “swipe down to exit image” with “swipe down to see a random assortment of images from people you don’t follow and never will”, and whatever godforsaken thing is going on with the new video player that never loads

And this fucking guy that won’t go away even while I type this!!

at least trent is gay. its like i always say. at least trent is gay. at the end of the day. trent is gay. dont cry ok? trent is gay. at the end of the day. trent is gay. whn all else fails. trent is gay. we'll always have. trent is gay