I know the feeling - sorry. :( it sucks. Doesn't help with SW and idk if you're a person who cares for podcasts, (ignore this if not!) but if you are ever looking for canon aspec rep in media - audio dramas are a great place to look. If you want a good rec/rep list @boombox-fuckboy has a great one that's linked in their pinned post - can't send links in asks. There are characters like us out there! Hopefully there will be ever more of them :) But condolences, again :(

There are plenty of books and whatnot with aro/ace characters, though they can be hard to find :( there are several lists online if you look them up :3

In terms of star wars I know there are several characters in the high republic that are canon! though chiss books probably will never address the topic I think Thrawn probably fits into the aro/ace spectrum somewhere (and even if he doesn’t romance simply doesn’t fit with his character trajectory, narrative, and goals so you could still headcanon that all the same)

I cannot find the interview for you but there is a clip where someone asks Zahn about Thrawn and Ar’alani’s little “date” and when he hears it get called a date he goes :0 and is like. ‘That was not my intention’ dhhfndns he definitely didn’t expect people to project such an amanormative lens on his books as people do

You are wonderful have a nice day <3 hugs and chisses thanks for the cuddle purr fics

You ever finish making a Cheunh phonology chart?