You know what maybe this is controversial but butches arent sexual rehabilitation centers for traumatized femmes. We aren’t just a way for you to have sex with someone you see as close to being a man in a non scary way. We have our own traumas and difficulties with sex and preferences on our bodies. Butches aren’t sex machines you insert “butches are so sexy crush me under your boot” tokens into. It’s presumptuous as all hell to flirt with a butch without ever taking into account their feelings and existence. I’ve seen people repeatedly messaging a stone butch about the head they wanna give her, which is distressing for her as a STONE butch. I’ve seen people assume butches would be into whatever (usually violent) kink they wanted to, leaving absolutely inappropriate comments on their selfies without thinking about why butches might be traumatized about people assuming we are violent or predators. People think every butch is going to a big burly leather daddy who ties you to the bed and beats you and doesn’t need to show any emotions but there’s just as many butches who don’t feel comfortable being dominant, playing around with kinks, or even topping, and for good reason. We aren’t your sex dolls to project your fantasies onto. We are people.

i would add that anyone who doesn't respect butches doesn't deserve to call themselves a femme!

+ there is something to be said for traumatized women who find love and happiness in sex with butches without objectifying them, and going about post-trauma sex with butches without viewing us as "men-lite". i would highly recommend the poem by the recently deceased and forever loved and remembered minnie bruce pratt, mimosa. fun fact: it's about revolutionary communist and butch writer leslie feinberg!

here's the link

i love when a woman is BIG and BUFF and BUTCH

TOOLbelt (2002) by Martha Summers

I need to be dyked down expeditiously

"i just don't like masculine women" literally i'm so sorry for you loss. i hope you get well soon

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yeah? well have you tried being a dyke about it?

stormé delarverie, often referred to as “the stonewall lesbian” and “the guardian of lesbians in the village”, was a biracial butch lesbian singer and drag king. her assault by the NYPD was a defining moment in the stonewall rebellion and riots. stormé is credited as the woman who threw the first punch and shouted to bystanders “why don’t you guys do something?” she fought against the police alongside other butch lesbians who were also involved in the uprising. please remember to include her in your pride celebrations. don’t let her be forgotten. excerpts and photographs from female impersonation by avery willard, 1971

Without butches the universe would literally become unstable and collapse, rendering time and space meaningless and garbled. So be grateful

Two dykes share a kiss at the first ever Dyke March. Photographer Carolina Kroon, Manhattan, 1993. Full image | Source

Femme as in protectors of studs, butches, and mascs.

reminder on this fine day: this blog supports trans lives and if you don’t get the fuck off my blog :)

Femme is not an aesthetic and I really desperately need people to understand that.

Femme =/= Dresses, flowers, long nails, or extra “feminine”. High femme doesn’t mean that either and it annoys me that I can’t use the term high femme without having to explain I mean stone femme.

Femme is a social and sexual role (sex doesn’t have to be included but it’s historically part of the identity.)

Yes, I’m a femme who also enjoys a hyper “feminine” aesthetic, yes I’m a stone femme who has long pointy nails. But that has nothing to do with my identity as a femme. My relationship with butches and other femmes, the role I play in my community and how I act with my partner, that’s what defines my identity as a femme. So many femmes are blue collar workers, who if you used this method of identification would be taken to be butches. But they’re not and it’s fucking annoying. A lot of femmes don’t give a fuck about make up, or lingerie, or dresses or any other feminine society coded bs.

This goes for butches too, only the opposite direction, but also there’s a lot of history to the butch identity and dress that has a lot to do with lesbian masculinity and again. The dress has more to do with a social role, a display of masculinity specific to dressing/appealing to other lesbians/women etc. Like there’s so much more nuance and it’s driving me crazy that the history is so lost.

FEMME DOES NOT HAVE A DRESS CODE. FEMME IS NOT AN AESTHETIC. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF CREATOR STOP CONDENSING IT DOWN TO THIS NONSENSE.

*ok to reblog*

lesbian guys are the coolest people on planet earth btw. butches, studs, mascs.... he/him dykes..... literally the world was made in your image. i love you

maybe she's born with it, maybe it's adhd and lesbianism

spring is just like *wildly oscillates between feeling a gut-wrenching melancholy and happily basking in the sun like a cat*

Doctors explaining hysteria in 1846

i’m doing hot girl shit. *rewatches the same show/movie for the 87654th time*

my fatal flaw is not being able to contain my disgust when i see a man spitting on the ground and it’s gonna get me murdered