PRO TIP!!!!
if you’re white and someone gives you feedback about how you’re upholding racist ideas or using racist language or perpetuating racist stereotypes, DON’T RESPOND with defense or guilt tripping??? Just take the criticism and move on? don’t make it about you???
at least half the time I (or any poc I know) tries to have this sort of conversation with a white person it devolves into the white person making it about them and they feelings and how they didn’t mean it and how bad they feel and THAT SHIT IS EXHAUSTING. Listen: we probably already know you didn’t mean it, if you did we wouldn’t be having the conversation with you in the first place. We’re talking to you because we TRUST you have good intentions and want to rectify your behavior to is alligns with your beliefs. Don’t ruin the effort by immediately writing up your fucking court defense to expunge your record. Don’t cry about how how sad and anxious it makes you when people tell you you hurt them. Don’t immediately take up space with your white fucking feelings.
I have white people in my life who DO THE WORK of being a good ally and taking criticism from PoC, I don’t HAVE TIME OR ENERGY to hold babies hands in the meantime!!!!!
White people I encourage you to reblog