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Iva

@lemonthursday

the sun and the moon are wives

my brain:

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also my brain:

buuuut we physically can't do all of that.. so we're just gonna stand in the middle of the room paralyzed

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Whenever someone makes a post that’s like “older men who consistently pursue romantic partners younger than themselves often do so because people in their own age range do not wish to date them and they see younger individuals as easily exploitable” there is always someone in the comments like “well, my fiancé is 12 years older than me and I feel like we’re pretty well balanced 😋” THEN THE POST ISN’T ABOUT HIM. Either that or you know deep down it’s true and you are commenting this to try to reassure yourself you are not a victim. Your individual experience doesn’t invalidate the point either way.

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Fleabag (2016 - 2019) / beetlejuices / bondhu tomar (friend of mine), krishnokoli / honeybee, trista mateer / honeytuesday / motion sickness, phoebe bridgers / chungking express (1994) / hope ur ok, olivia rodrigo / Ocean Vuong, from On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous / by langston hughes

I hate the incel community so much for many reasons but one of the primary ones is that I too, as a young girl, was isolated, struggled to make friends (let alone get attention from boys) was not conventionally attractive, didn’t know how to dress and my undiagnosed adhd and possibly autism too made me awkward af. I genuinely had a terrible time through all of school. The difference is that I don’t blame men or fantasize about inflicting violence against them for all of this. I have enough critical thinking skills to know that this problem is about how we raise children, deal with bullying accepting neurodivergent people and nothing to do with men or them hating me and wanting to punish me.

I grew up similarly, also a girl, and blamed MYSELF for the lack of attention I received. Something to think about, I suppose, how women are the ones blamed no matter who’s in what position

I live my life under the basic principle that people know their minds, bodies, genders, and orientations better than I do so I just take them at their word when they say they are a thing.

“But people could be faking for-” I don’t care. I would rather show someone a kindness they don’t need than not show them one they do.