Hi, I made a new positivity blog for trans wlw and transfeminine folks, if you could support girls like us and give it a shoutout I would be so thankful (:
Here is a new blog to check out!
Hey there, I was wondering if you could signal boost our Youtube webseries Instrumental Closet, produced and made by A Redefining Gaze Productions? It’s about four qtpoc in a band trying to figure our identity, love, and their relationships with each other
Signal boost!
How can anyone see something this beautiful and think it’s wrong?
Happy National Coming Out Day everyone.
Singer Janelle Monáe came out in a new interview with Rolling Stone, published today. The singer’s sexuality has long been a source of speculation, especially regarding her relationship with actress Tessa Thompson. She told the magazine she has been in relationships with men and women, and identifies with aspects of pansexuality and bisexuality. “I’m open to learning more about who I am,” she said. Per Rolling Stone:
“Being a queer black woman in America,” she says, taking a breath as she comes out, “someone who has been in relationships with both men and women – I consider myself to be a free-ass motherfucker.”
WLW who dress modestly, for comfort or religious reasons: You are not any less progressive or confident than those in the community who dress other ways. I know it’s hard to feel “on trend” in lgbt culture sometimes, but you’re absolutely perfect whatever way you choose to present yourself.
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@ girls who are starting to realize they’re bi, or have just begun identifying as bi, or who have come to terms with identifying as bi:
- I love you!
- Bisexuality is good. Being bi is good. Identifying as bi is good.
- There is no “good” or “bad” way to be bi.
- You are not dirty, wrong, impure, bad, or fake for identifying as bi.
- Your identity is pure, whole, and important.
- You are not “half” of anything.
- You don’t have to date anyone or have romantic/sexual experiences to wholly identify as bi. You are just as bi as bi girls who’ve dated people before.
- Whether you are in the closet or decide to come out, your decisions with respect to how you identify are entirely up to you and can’t be dictated by anyone else.
- I hope you come to love your identity, I hope you make peace with internalized biphobia, and I hope you become confident in who you are!
This blog supports bi people 💖💜💙
This blog supports pan people 💖💛💙
This blog supports ply people 💖💚💙
This blog supports bi/pan/ply solidarity 🌈
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bisexual is not a dirty word. lesbian is not a dirty word. they are good and nice and beautiful words, actually. it’s good to identify as bisexual. it’s good to identify as a lesbian. if you’re a questioning wlw, here is your sign that you shouldn’t be ashamed or afraid to try these words out for yourself. it’s only by embracing them that you will become happier about and confident in who you are. i know it can be terrifying, but the endgame is worth it. knowing who you are is an amazing feeling to possess and to never let go.
Hey fun fact!
If you’re an ace or aro wlw you never owe anyone an explanation about your identity. You do not need to prove yourself. You are allowed to exist fully as yourself and you do not owe people anything.
JEB (Joan E Biren), Priscilla and Regina (1979)
Hey! I just started a wlw book club over at sapphicliterature, and it will be a discord channel that’s a safe space for all wlw (trans women included too of course) where each month we will read and discuss a book with wlw in it. And, everyone who joins will get free ebooks of the books we’re reading in October and November! it would mean a lot if you could spread the word so people could join :D (all additional info can be found on @sapphicliterature blog)
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shout out to trans lesbians who have to use he/him pronouns to be safe. yall are lesbians and you are not straight guys. you are wlw. most importantly you are welcome here 🌷
If I’ve said this once I’ve said it a hundred times but being a woman who is bi enables you to pursue other women! Your bisexuality grants you the ability to love and cherish other women romantically and/or sexually!
Bi women pursing/dating/engaged/married to women can do that Because they are bi! Being bi isn’t always a stepping stone and the bi women who continue to identify as bi while dating women aren’t hindering themselves or leaving themselves open to dating men in the future.
You’re engaging with women BECAUSE you are bi and being bi enables you to do that!
Here are some more examples of how compulsory heterosexuality may manifest itself and look for girls who feel unwanted or ungenuine attraction towards men (feel free to add on):
- I am attracted to men but I don’t want to date them.
- I am attracted to men but I don’t want to do anything with them or when I’m about to do something my attraction to them goes away.
- I am attracted to fictional men or male celebrities, or any other guy who is “unavailable/unattainable".
- I will find a guy eventually! I’m just a late bloomer.
- I don’t like kissing my boyfriend or I’m not attracted to him, but it must just be because he’s not the one for me [or some other excuse].
- I don’t find guys attractive, but I probably will when I get older/go to college/etc! or I don’t find guys attractive, what’s wrong with me? (including pretending to find certain guys or guys in general attractive around others)
- Everyone must feel attraction to girls or think that girls are hot, the way I feel towards other girls is normal for straight girls! (or thinking that other kinds of sexual/romantic feelings/fantasies towards girls is normal for straight girls or is just a “girl crush”)
- I’m too young/busy/etc to have a boyfriend.
- I just have high standards, that’s why I don’t have a boyfriend.
- I like [f/f couple(s)] but just as an ally. (or some other excuse)
- I like boys but it’s just not as much as other girls seem to.
- I like [girl] but just platonically! But not as much as I like boys! or I would date [girl] if she was a guy!
- The reason my relationships with men don’t work out is because I’m just bad at relationships. (or some other personal fault)
- etc.
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it always makes my heart hurt seeing women struggle and agonize over whether they’re attracted to men or not. let me present you with the alternative: it isn’t important. what’s important is what makes you feel good and fulfilled. maybe that isn’t same gender attraction yet (because gods know internalized homophobia is a monster and a half) but if your struggle with being attracted to men or not is upsetting or harming you– here’s permission to let it go. it doesn’t have to matter. you are free. let it fall away from you like rain off a roof. nurture what nurtures you.
life information I wish I knew when I was closeted & questioning:
despite the stereotype of the Mean Gatekeeping Lesbians, like every wlw I know is super excited when one of our friends comes out, even if they’ve been identifying as straight/dating only men for years. Like we love having other folks to talk about girls with, and the overwhelming majority of us are gonna be so proud of you and happy to talk to you about everything.
I swear when I was younger I was scared to come out to anyone, but I was especially scared to come out to those I perceived as Established Lesbians™ out of a misguided notion that they would interrogate me on my history and every internal doubt and conclude I was a fake and a liar and not a real lesbian and would kick me out of the pride club or something.
but everyone was super nice and lbpq girls were 100% more friendly and easier to find and befriend after I came out, even tentatively (when I knew I liked girls but couldn’t figure out if I was bi or gay, so wasn’t identifying consistently with any label yet).
If you’re scared to come out because you’re afraid of being deemed ‘not gay enough,’ I promise that women who love women (including and especially lesbians!!) are so much nicer than you’ve been culturally led to believe.
Anonymous asked:
To the previous anon: Im a bisexual woman as well and my attraction to girls is way bigger than my attraction to boys. Ur right about people finding that weird tho: i've come across lot of people that simply dont care that Im bi and just sees me as a lesbian despite me having Said Im not.
For the anon
Life has just dealt Danielle Solomon a gut-wrenching curveball, but new joys are ahead.
“For weeks I’ve been wanting to ask you out but I haven’t because this is who I am right now and you don’t deserve all this anger and pain.” “Oh, my gosh, you ridiculous person.” Clara took both her hands in hers. “I know you feel like that inside but that’s not how it comes out on the outside.” Danielle looked at her through tear-streaked eyelashes. “Are you willing to hang out and do stuff even if I don’t smile the whole time except if we see a dog on a skateboard or something?” “Yes!” Clara nodded enthusiastically. Danielle squeezed her hands, and Clara knew that was what Danielle felt like doing instead of smiling. “I’m so glad we met.”
Illustration by @daftpatience of a pivotal scene in my new Jewish f/f contemporary romance Knit One, Girl Two, starring an indie dyer (hence her multicolored hands) and the artist who inspired her latest sock club. $1.99 here!
Please read this short story, it’s amazing! 🌈