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Lavender Puppygirl

@lavenderpuppygirl

Mid 20's, sub, poly, trans puppygirl lesbian. She/It. bit of a death slut. NSFW, 21+ only. I block a lot for a lot of reasons, not worth listing them. If you like me hmu, dms and asks always open to mutuals.

Hi ^_^

been meaning to do this for a while, new pinned post!

Hi! I’m Holly (she/it) ^_^ I’m 25 and a submissive trans puppygirl from the pacific northwest.

This is my nsfw blog (but let’s be honest, it’s also my main), so please don’t follow/interact if you’re under 21. I do regularly go through my followers and ban blank blogs, ageless blogs, minors, men, and terfs/swerfs.

As this is my nsfw blog, consider this your warning that I post a lot of kink stuff. I’m also into cnc, death play, objectification, blood, and gore, along with my more vanilla interests. I don’t post about the more intense stuff *too* often, but it still comes up, so if that’s not something you want to see, my blog is probably not the best place for ya.

if we’re mutuals, feel free to message! my inbox is open ^_^

original posts tagged as “puppy speaks”

PS: in case this blog ever gets deleted, my backup is at lavendercatgirl, which is actually my old blog which also got deleted, but was restored several months later. You can follow me there, i don’t update it anymore, but i will if anything happens to this one.

I wish kinky sex ed wasn't so stigmatized even among left-leaning "sex positive" circles. Everyone's all "uwu I'm a sub I'll do anything you ask" okay mommy wants you to read The New Bottoming Book so you learn how to sub without hurting yourself since your sex ed up to this point is porn and your ex boyfriend Jared who liked to choke you incorrectly

I’m so glad you asked! Let me list off what I’ve got for you:

Books I personally recommend:

- The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

If you’re having kinky sex at all, you need to read at least one of these two books. Point blank. They’ll teach you the very basics of negotiating properly (which is critical!), and help you identify what you are and aren’t into.

- Mindfucking Mindfully, by Sir Ezra Where this book really shines isn’t actually in helping you “mindfuck” people, it’s in taking a close look at how to do so ethically. It’s a great answer to the question “how do I get someone to consent to something and still surprise and shock them with it?”

- Real Service by Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny This is a slightly niche pick but there simply isn’t a better book on the subject. It’s written from a 24/7 M/s perspective, which is not what I do, but the book itself is an indispensable guide to giving and receiving service. The phrase “if the Master doesn’t want it, it isn’t service” will be burned into my psyche for quite some time. I love this book a lot. Maybe my favorite out of all of these.

- Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation, by Princess Kali This one’s high on my reading list; I’ve heard it recommended by a number of people whose opinions on these things I trust.

- Pretty Much Anything Midori Has Ever Done Midori is a great resource for this stuff - I haven’t personally read much of her work, but she’s a well known sex educator and great at what she does. She’s known for bondage, but has a lot of range beyond that.

- This Negotiations Worksheet from Bex Talks Sex This is what I default to using a lot of the time for negotiations. Forget BDSMtest, you don’t need that, it’s no good. Just look through this worksheet’s wordbank with your partner. Big fan especially of the “how do you want to feel?” section.

Books I can kind of recommend:

- The Ultimate Guide to Kink, edited by Tristan Taormino This book is weird. There’s a lot of good info for experienced players, but some of what’s written here skeeves me out. I think if I had a top that thought the way some of the tops in here think, they would not be topping me for long. But there’s some good techniques and so on to pick up that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I liked the distinction one of the authors makes between being sadistic in the sense of inflicting pain and being sadistic in the sense of doing something your sub doesn’t “enjoy.”

- The Ritual of Dominance and Submission, by David English Man, this book fucking sucks. The writing and editing are garbage, and the fear and protocol play described need way more careful negotiation than he ever lets on, let alone recommends. This is some 50 Shades bullshit. The only time I recommend this book is to tops like me who tend to be very affirming to their partners and need a guide on how to really scare them - when their partner consents and when you negotiate it, which this book sucks at teaching you. Really good content on fear, punishment, and protocol play, really terrible presentation of the topic though. Don’t read this if you don’t already know what you’re doing.

- Paradigms of Power, by Raven Kaldera I love this book. Great book. Very focused on 24/7 M/s play though, and, being an anthology, some chapters are better than others. If you can’t read something and pick out what is and isn’t for you, don’t bother. But some really great inspiration, and generally pretty well written. Big fan of the discussion of leather throughout the book.

Hope some of these are helpful for people ^-^ for the average person reading this I recommend New Bottoming/Topping, but they’re all important parts of my library and I’ve recommended all of them to friends at some point or another.

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Man, remember when Free The Nipple was a thing and there was an actual substantial amount of feminists who believed even public nudity wasn't inherently sexual and now if you date a short person hundreds of anonymous idiots online will call you a pedophile.

the cottagecore lesbian/sapphic aesthetic needs to be more raunchy. its so sanitised and so.... glossed with the smell of "purity culture" that i just cant stand it.

i need to see more cottagecore lesbian/sapphic posts about having sex with your girl in a field of wildflowers thats so good that you scream so loud the birds burst away from nearby trees......

fingering her in the shade of an oaktree and feeling her cling to your flannel to keep from falling as her knees weaken around you.......

riding her strap slowly on the porch of your cottage as the sun sets and its light catches in her lusty lidded gaze.......

eating her out on the pier reaching out over the lake behind your home......

waking up naked in bed together and pressed so close your bushes brush together as the morning dewy sunlight spills in through your linen curtains.......

her sunwarmed hands slide up your hairy legs til they lift the bottom of your sundress as you walk through your garden and vegetable patch together....

lesbians, sapphics, i am begging you.... do not be shy about expressing your sexual desire for women !!!! theres no shame in it !!!! there is beauty and pride in it !!!

This is one of the most frustrating classes I’ve ever taken, because everything required of us is really obvious and should not be that hard, but I’m in a fucking awful place and my depression and adhd are making it impossible to get anything done, and for some reason my professor has also really taken to using me as an example of bad work. In every single meeting we’ve had so far this term, he’s singled out me and/or my work, and held it up to the class as a “don’t make these mistakes”. he even told our group not to talk “like that”, referencing the fact that i said things were going well once in a meeting.

My new Monday routine is:

- eat breakfast while going over all of my work trying to fix any issues i find - go to class and get told I’m an idiot and a bad example and that I don’t try - go to my room and cry for an hour - take an edible and get high for the rest of the day, spending the whole time curled up in bed with the lights off pretending there’s someone there with me telling me it’s okay.

oh, and you know what makes it worse? i’ve stopped asking questions. i love asking questions. i love learning stuff. i mean sure, dumb puppy and all that, but i really love learning.

but every time I’ve asked a question of him, he’s given me a non-answer, then made a joke about my question, and then criticized my work for not meeting his expectations because i didn’t understand something, which is almost always the thing i was asking the fucking question about.

so I’ve stopped. because i can’t stand getting called out like this in front of everyone. i’ve just stopped asking question. I’ve stopped caring about my work. I do the bare minimum and just brace for impact every monday. it’s all the same. i know I’ll just end up crying anyway. so why fucking bother.

This is one of the most frustrating classes I’ve ever taken, because everything required of us is really obvious and should not be that hard, but I’m in a fucking awful place and my depression and adhd are making it impossible to get anything done, and for some reason my professor has also really taken to using me as an example of bad work. In every single meeting we’ve had so far this term, he’s singled out me and/or my work, and held it up to the class as a “don’t make these mistakes”. he even told our group not to talk “like that”, referencing the fact that i said things were going well once in a meeting.

My new Monday routine is:

- eat breakfast while going over all of my work trying to fix any issues i find - go to class and get told I’m an idiot and a bad example and that I don’t try - go to my room and cry for an hour - take an edible and get high for the rest of the day, spending the whole time curled up in bed with the lights off pretending there’s someone there with me telling me it’s okay.

Hey, does anyone remember a story that made the rounds on tumblr a few years back, about a sketch by a famous artists (Picasso maybe?) that was purchased and then forged expertly 99 times (maybe 999) and then the original was shuffled in with the copies until no one knew which one it was, and each one was sold at some lesser price as being a “chance” at being the original? Does anyone know of a source for that, or does anyone at least have the post itself? I’ve been trying to find anything about it for half an hour and I’m coming up empty, really wondering if it’s fake...

Sorry for the constant stream of mommy’s day posts y’all. i will not be stopping.