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Lady Ren

@ladyren / ladyren.tumblr.com

Sith Lord at Large, 45, they/them, swamp witch
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I think calling the reddit situation a "boycott" is misrepresenting how that site operates at the scale it does and also why this is even remotely effective

reddit uses volunteer moderation and community management by design, so unlike other social media where a boycott would just result in a tiny dip in engagement at best, this is much more equivalent to (unpaid) employees (with no obligation to the company) walking out

in other words, you couldn't really do this with facebook or twitter or tumblr because you, as a nonemployee, are entirely incapable of causing disruption of service

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if the top 100 biggest discord servers locked down in protest, it also wouldn't disrupt service in a meaningful way because (despite everything they do) discord's primary service is DMs and small chat servers

the reddit boycott is different because the subreddit mods didn't just leave, they privated the subs too. so it's not that there are no moderators but the content itself that made up reddit has become inaccessible, making large parts of the website unusable and thus unable to host ads. it's like if the employees left and locked up the shop, taking the keys with them.

I'm on the train

How is your day going?

just remembered that time a group of christians stopped me because i was using forearm crutches and forced me into a prayer circle. i have never wanted to pretend i was possessed more than in that moment

I've been in a manual chair and they've literally tried to kidnap me. They were outside their church inviting people to come in, and a lady literally grabbed the attendant handles and started paying me towards the door saying that "real miracles happen here".

I think they were Pentecostal, but this was nearly ten years ago.

This is my worst nightmare. What else can you do but start screaming bloody murder that you're being kidnapped?

I actually slammed my wheel brakes on and yanked her hair, while yelling "do not touch".

Seen some people floating the idea that “the gods” (all deities? Maybe just Greek Deities?) don’t require our consent because they have big important stuff to do that we couldn’t possibly understand and they might need to do things to us or through us because of their job.

To break that down:

1. They have important things to do

And

2. They cannot do it without us

Therefore

3. They do not need to maintain good will with us. Trashing our households and violating our consent is a smart thing to do.

I’m going to start here: the gods can do whatever they like and no one can stop them. But that doesn’t mean that they’re going to do things that run contrary to their aims. Their actions still have natural consequences.

I am dead sure these people had authoritarian parents and believe that, without someone to punish us, we’d all go completely nuts. Maybe they’ve been on such a tight leash their entire lives that they haven’t gotten as far as imagining the consequences of being All Powerful and also a dickhead.

Consider college students who have never previously been left without adult supervision, and who, given that taste of freedom, immediately proceed to get alcohol poisoning, flunk out of school, or any number of other idiotic things. They go utterly wild like that because the only reason anyone ever gave them was “or else.” And now that there is no one with a stick threatening them, they must encounter, for the very first time, the idea that bad things happen when you make stupid decisions, even if no external being is there to punish you.

If deities need humans for their plans (which the Big Important Thing theory states that they do) then they shouldn’t mistreat them. Theologians come up with notions of why deities can or do behave badly. Theologians try to come up with complex explanations. Normal people wander off and convert to another religion. In the past, maybe clergy could solve this by working with the local government and instituting laws forcing people to follow that religion. But did this, historically, solve the problem? No. And we have the ruins to prove it.

If you try to modify a child’s behavior through violence, the child will escalate, becoming increasingly rebellious. Eventually, they’ll move out, and bit by bit, you’ll lose contact with them, BECAUSE YOU ABUSED THEM. Adults are not different.

Christianity is declining. Even now, the word, “sinful” has positive connotations for most people, and the word “heretic” is something people proudly apply to themselves. Years of portraying the deity as a malignant narcissist have taken their toll. Hell has taken its toll.

Being perceived as cruel has negative consequences for the deity’s cultus. And that’s fine, so long as you don’t need humans for anything.

But if you need humans, how they see you, and how they feel about you, matters.

So in reality, either

A. You need humans and should maintain a good relationship with them through open lines of communication and building good will or

B. You don’t need humans, and have no real excuse for mistreating them.

Why do people experience deities in that way?

Deities, I think, are sublime in nature, and they get translated to us through our own symbolic language. If the recipient of the message has a maladaptive understanding of power, that will taint how they hear the deity.

In conclusion: people need therapy before they need mystical training. Yikes.

Have you ever had the experience of a clergy person telling you what you MUST do for a god, and you immediately felt like your autonomy as a person was in danger, and then you told the person you did not want to, or would not do that? Did the clergy person in question then tell you that you had "too many shields" and you "needed to learn humility" or needed to "work on your ego" to progress?

That's Pathological Demand Avoidance. It can be a symptom of autism. It's not ego, it's not you being spiritually defective, or arrogant.

As a former educator, if I had a buck for every time a student with a learning difference or disability was called arrogant or willful by a parent or teacher, as if they could be disciplined, or worse "broken in" by an authority figure in a way that erased their autism or dyslexia (etc), I'd be able to buy a house in cash.

The answer is accommodation, not humiliation, discipline, criticism, or punishment.

No one has the right to make you feel like any part of your religion is a demand or a threat.

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I really hope that those guys don’t kill those police, because it will mean more police will come. Possibly even Christians, which is totally the last thing we need in this house.                            

cant stop thinking abt this bit from a psa about activated charcoal flushing your medications from your system

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Kit and I have been fantasy-casting Muppet Rocky Horror. Just imagine...

"Dammit, Piggy, I love you"

"Two nice young upstanding Americans who had no idea what weirdos they were about to encounter"

"I've been making a chicken with blonde feathers and a tan, which is perfectly normal"

"From the day he was born, he was trouble..."

"So he was a perfect fit with this show! Hahahaha!"

"HOT PATOOTIE! BEAT DRUMS! BEAT DRUMS!"

...this is perfect. PERFECT.

working with norse deities

óðinn: “don’t worry, i’ll get it done. just don’t ask me how.”
frigg: “secrets are worth gold. yours are diamond. share with discretion.”
loki: “i’ll break your bone so it’ll heal right this time.”
sigyn: “would you rather be right or be loved?”
angrboða: “you are the only god you have to live with.”
freyja: “go loud. we’ll deal with the consequences.”
freyr: “…we gotta? okay. baby, hold my beer.”
njǫrðr: “can i interest you in some chill the fuck out in this trying time?”
hel: “i’ll hold you through it—and you still have to do this.”
fenrir: “…can we bite them? we could, in fact, bite them.”
jormungandr: “this too shall pass.”
gullveig: “fuck around. find out. remember.”
þórr: “not everything is a nail, but a screw still bows to a hammer.”
sif: “everything is a little more possible with a belly full of warm food.”
skaði: “there is always an opportune moment. find it.”

Dammit, my post got et. Lemme try again… More Heathen gods (not all Norse, per se)

Heimdall: Boundaries exist to keep the peace. Hold them.

Nerthus: Big things are made up of little things.

Holda: If you’re going to make yourself someone else’s problem, it had better be worth it.

Idunna: Trees have so much to teach us. Life is sweet.

Bragi: The pen is mightier than the sword - what is remembered lives. Yup. Those are clichés. You remembered them, didn’t you?

Saga: No shit, there I was…

Snotra: Kindness is worth the effort. Better to remember good manners than to clean up the mess from having forgotten them.

Var: Even the gods are bound by vows.

Gna: MESSAGE FOR YOU, SIR!

Eir: Dammit, Jim, I’m a Doctor, not an Oracle!

Vor: I actually am an oracle. You’d rather talk to Eir.

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can we stop the belief that terfs hate transfems exclusively or like more than they hate cisgender men or transmascs and pretending it's just the trans women's battle against them and you're allies for them or whatever. this literally undermines how much harm theyre doing both to the trans community as a whole and even to the people (cis women) they claim to be protecting. terfs hate trans men just as much as trans women, transmascs arent safe because terfs view them as "uwu confused girlies trying to escape oppression", that is a very narrow worldview and inherently transphobic itself (it excludes butches, transmascs who's medically transitioned, intersex people, etc. etc.) transfems arent more oppressed by terfs than any other people theyre oppressing, please understand this. Im so sick and tired of people undermining my transmasc siblings when it comes to harassment from terfs because "well you arent a target to them", why are they harassing them then????

I just geniuenly dont like how the queer community can claim to be transmasc friendly and then view transmascs the same way transphobes view them (again, uwu girlies who are tricked into ruining their feminine beauty, they dont know anything and how lucky they are). feels both andromisic and misogynistic at the same time on top of transmisic idk how the fuck you manage to fuck up that badly

tldr: stop pretending transmascs arent affected by terfs nearly as much as transfems

anyone can reblog, except terfs of course they can fuck off

transfem is used as a way to refer to "TMA"/"AMAB" trans people transmasc is used as a way to refer to "TME"/"AFAB" trans people I know the definition is a bit more fluid now so I just wanted to note that

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this is a little ignorant because I constantly see my mutuals and people who I admire who are openly transmasc get death threats and suicide encouragement. every direct hate and death threats I got was from people who believed I was assigned female at birth, telling me I was sick for wanting to 'mutilate my body to be a man', calling me confused, mentally ill, fat and ugly, like that was good enough reason for me to take my life. maybe you dont see it cause you dont acknowledge it, or youre just lucky enough to have never seen the worst of it first-hand

also its not a who's more oppressed and endangered competition, thats geniuenly fucking stupid and irrelevant, if a group of people wants certain people dead theres no good in discussing which subgroup of people they want dead more.

I know you mean well, but please understand nazis killed way more than just jews, and terfs want more than just transfems dead. (I hope this is an okay take to make, if any jewish follower of mine wants me to remove this part I gladly will)

i think more ppl need to realize that TERFs want any and all people who aren't like them erased, including killed if they dont assimilate.

It doesn't matter if I only tell a TERF that I'm intersex or transmasc or transfem or disabled or even just a gay man, they want me dead no matter what

it doesn't matter to them that the "man pretending to be a woman" is actually just a cis WOC who they decided looked a bit too masculine or an intersex cis woman who enjoyed having a beard or a butch lesbian who was a bit too butch for their liking

Its just a lot easier for them to claim that they only want transfems dead and only want to "help" the poor naive girls who are clearly "brainwashed". But what about the people who continue to refuse to bow down to them and assimilate? Well, you murder them of course. There aren't any non-conforming women nor transmascs if they're all dead.

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exactly!!! terfs are literally just neonazis wearing a mask of feminism