sometimes you’ll make mistakes. you’ll fall into old patterns again. what matters is that you pull yourself out of them. that you accept and forgive yourself. that you realise a slip up doesn’t mean you’re back where you were. that you’re still moving forwards. that you’re okay.
must everything be a crop top? is an extra 4 inches of shirt too much to ask for?
Haha earlyyy this month when this blog was new I had this ask about how to deal with m3n / misogyny at the workplace and idk if sis still hangs around to read but after watching barbie ;
1. 1/2 of my office thinks I'm connected to some powerful family/politician bc I dress, walk and talk the part plus the higher ups and i are on good terms (social climbing 101) and there's just no reason the bosses would be so nice to an intern unless they have to so most people didn't even try
2. I established myself an unavailable early enough. I'm always busy. Designing on canvas. Writing a report. Scrolling through tumblr. Watching anime. Reading Manga. Once I sit on that desk don't talk to me unless you have to. And I dont mean im a bitch about it, im not. I just don't look up from whatever I'm doing and you have exactly two minutes before I look up with a painfully fake smile and "do you mind? I'm caught up right now" and look back and completely shut you out. When it came to my superiors I was as interested as my job goes. Once the topic strays from my job I'm looking out the window and faking disinterest (faking bc ofc I'll get the tea). People got the idea early enough im just not available.
3. No one in that office knows anything about me. I'm not even private 80% I'll answer a direct question I just learned the art + seductive power of making the conversation about the other person. So now I have info and they feel like I'm interested in who they hate and they know nothing about me and when I have to answer a question I give the vaguest answers known to man.
"Soo what do you do at night?"
"Sleep mostly. You? You have party boy vibes. Do tell".
Familiarity breeds disrespect. Never forget that.
4. In cases of direct misogyny I speak to men the way they stereotypically speak to women
" Why are you being so emotional "
"You're overreacting"
"I can't speak to you when you are acting like this"
"Get a hold of your emotions this is embarrasing"
"Talk to me when you're done blowing up"
WORKS EVERY TIME
loyal people don’t change, we just stop fucking with those who don’t appreciate it.
