kyzxx reblogged
A few things people with maladaptive daydreaming really wished you knew but we just can't tell you:
(Some of these are just from my experience and may not apply to everyone)
- Don't be offended if we zone out during a conversation. Lots of things trigger us and sometimes in even the most interesting conversations we can't help but imagine what our paras are doing right now, or what we'll daydream about next.
- DO👏NOT👏INTERRUPT👏US👏WHEN👏WE'RE 👏IN👏THE👏MIDDLE👏OF👏A👏DAYDREAM👏 long story short, the feeling of anger and absolute rage is so intense we literally want to snap your spine. The only reason we don't is because then that would mean we'd have to wait even longer to return to the daydream.
- Certain songs may make us feel a certain way. We use songs to trigger certain daydreams, so certain music will touch us more than the average person. For example if someone played the song our para died too, we would almost feel like it's happening again. It's a bit like someone playing a song that was at a loved ones funeral, but worse.
- Dating is hard for us. It's common for madders to have para lovers and so when it comes to dating we may feel like we're betraying our para.
- Our daydreams are as complicated and intense as Harry Potter. We come up with some pretty dramatic stuff, which helps us cope with real life trauma. This is also why we're so creative.
- Time flies for us. We get so immersed in our daydreams that sometimes up to 5 or 6 hours can pass and we don't notice. It's common for us to stop daydreaming and realise we've gone a whole day without eating, drinking, going to the toilet, or that our feet are almost bleeding from pacing so much.
- We can't just stop. It may seem that simple, but the truth is, It's an addiction and a coming mechanism. When traumatic events happen in the real world, we use our daydreams to deal with it. Events such as our loved ones passing away may cause familiar events to happen in our paracosms. Even I've noticed that during 2020 my daydreams have become more traumatic (for example more paras have been getting hurt or even killed, and the relationships between my paras are more complicated).
- 8. Writing this was hard because I kept falling into a daydream.
