if you’re like. 14 and trans on tumblr rn and getting ur first anon hate from terfs. word of advice. stop responding to that shit. theyre only gonna send more, it’s only gonna make you spiral even if you put on a strong face. report + block messages as soon as they come in, don’t let them sit in your inbox it’s gonna make you feel like shit. turn off anon for a few days, block anyone suspicious in your notes liberally for a little while. repeat as needed. don’t give them the time of day. it sucks, but like. i dont know any trans person on the internet with any following who hasn’t gotten some disgusting messages. just. be safe yknow

so many young teens feel the need to have a snappy comeback, to explain you could never be cishet bc you’re actually t4t!! or whatever but like. just. don’t say any of that. they love that shit, they eat it up. do what u can to bore them into stopping. and sometimes they dont stop, and that sucks too but like. you do not want to get in public arguments with people who can hurt you more than you think they can, its not cowardly to delete discourse posts and shit if you feel like you can’t handle the notifications anymore. like just. you may not be able to completly prevent this stuff but take a few steps if you can, it will at least lower your chances

If you keep assuming that everyone with an identity you don't understand or relate to is a dangerous enemy, then you have more in common with transphobes than you think you do.

You have a fear response, and instead of interrogating it, you try to justify it by framing it as a legitimate threat. You start trying to convince others you're right because you're insecure and can't tolerate something you don't understand.

You act like these "weird queers" care about nothing more than trying to have sex with you when no one actually gives a shit about you, they're just trying to describe their experiences.

neurodivergent and queer people how are we feeling?

the second you say something like "its Your fault there's stigma against you, actually," youve shoved the boot so far down your throat its coming out your ass

this has reached "i'm on my own dash" levels of circulation so i need to clarify: this post was about somebody claiming that stigma against NPD is deserved because we're all selfish and awful. i don't know how far this post will go but if you agree with the original message of the post but ALSO agree with the stigma against NPD up to and including calling your mildly shitty dad a narcopath or whatever, i am shoving my boot so far up your ass that you're gonna lick it since you love boot so damn much

I’m so tired of this claim I’m so emphatically tired of this claim. Even here where it’s recognized that some people talking about transmisandry are trans mascs of color, (what else can “most” mean?) anything they might have had to say is immediately discarded and dismissed.

And in addition to that, this post is another potshot at the language of people trying to talk about anti-transmasculinity. Despite the fact that time and time again folks like @genderkoolaid and @spacelazarwolf (among others I’m sure, they’re just who I recall off the top of my head) have demonstrated that it doesn’t fucking matter what language we use to discuss it, the problem people have is that we’re discussing it at all.

fellas is it a self-victimization complex to want to bring awareness to the real material harm done to transmascs because of anti-transmasculinity 🤔

also tbh i think that transphobia is more of an umbrella term than encompasses anti-transmasculinity, anti-transfemininity, exorsexism, rather than it's own discrete concept. so the "it's Just transphobia!!" argument does not work with me because yeah, it's transphobia. against transmascs. we are operating on very different constructions of transphobia methinks.

but also seeing as I've also seen the take that transandrophobia discourse is actually the product of Christian persecution complexes, I feel like it's pretty obvious these kinds of posts are just "retroactively come up with a reason why transmascs talking about being oppressed just Want to be oppressed that doesn't make me sound like an obvious bigot"

Reminder that Transandrophobia was coined by a Mestizaje trans man who was raised in a poverty-stricken barrio and is the son of a brown refugee who had to flee his country after his mother was starved to death because brown/indigenous people did not get the same amount of rations as the white people did.

Anyway, the next time one of you gender-essentalist racist ass motherfuckers try and whitewash the word I made to discuss the way that androphobia effects trans men both socially in the queer community and systematically under the patriarchy, racism, and capitalism, I am going to KY.

fella's is it self-victimization to point out lateral violence from us just trying to talk about transandrophobia?

so there's this concept i learned about from a therapist on tik tok (yeah boooo tik tok but this was actually really insightful); it was in response to a bunch of white women in her comments going after someone who had said something slightly problematic and immediately apologized, but these women just kept going after them. someone eventually asked why there's a trend of progressive white women who do this, and she made a video in response that was really insightful. she said that white women are the lapdogs of white supremacy and patriarchy. they're beaten by the masters, but they still get to live in the house, and they are often taught to enforce white supremacy and patriarchy. so when they enter spaces where poc are generally respected and listened to, they just flip the existing power structure in their mind to fit their new environment. instead of reflecting on what the poc they're listening to are saying, they think "oh ok new masters." they get to keep their seat at the table, and they get to keep enforcing their systemic power over anyone who they perceive as stepping out of line. it's important to note that this is very different from using your privilege to advocate for marginalized people; this mindset is entirely centered on feeling power over others.

that video was originally just about white cis women, but my theory is it can be applied to any white gender marginalized people. usually in discussions of gender, trans women are perceived as the "new masters" and anything that's seen as contradicting what they say (regardless of whether it's something that's generally agreed upon among trans women, or if it's something they heard one trans woman say one time) the people inhabiting the lapdog role immediately jump to enforcing the hierarchy. but because white voices are very often much louder than non white voices, what ends up happening is a bunch of white trans people going after non white trans people when they are perceived as stepping out of line or questioning the authority of white trans women. (also important to note that in this situation, this isn't necessarily always a position white trans women have put themselves in unlike white cishet men, but one that they've been placed into to fulfill the "lapdog"s need for a "master") pair that with the fact that white people have mistaken "white people's interpretation of systemic oppression can often lack intersectionality so it's important to also hear from people of color" for "if i just call any white person i disagree with white that cancels out their argument" and you get this mess.

so yeah that's my theory on how a discussion started by a trans man of color and continued by non white and jewish trans people became targeted by a bunch of white trans people online who think they're "protecting trans women" but are actually just continuing to reinforce the patriarchy and white supremacy. it's been very clear from the beginning that this is not about protecting trans women, because a lot of what we're discussing affects trans women and our solutions will help trans women. it's about people wanting to feel power and moral superiority over others during a time where we're all feeling extremely helpless in real life. and that is never ever going to be anything but a detriment to trans liberation.

That post that's like "stop writing characters who talk like they're trying to get a good grade in therapy" really blew the door wide open for me about how common it's become for a character's emotional intelligence to not be taken into consideration when writing conflict. I remember the first time I went to therapy I had such a hard time even identifying what I was feeling, let alone had the language to explain it to someone else. Of course there are plenty of people who've never been to therapy a day in their life who are in tune to their emotions. But even they would have some trouble expressing themselves sometimes. You have to take into account there are plenty of people who are uncomfortable expressing themselves and people who think they're not allowed to feel certain ways. It also makes for more interesting conflict to have characters with different levels of understanding.

i think people have gotten out of the habit of writing characters being untruthful unless they're evil. sometimes people just lie, or they believe and repeat things that aren't true. people just do not and often Can not tell the absolute truth about themselves all the time even during heated and climactic moments. why are you writing everyone being absolutely honest about their feelings!!

tbh i place a looooot of blame for this on the weird online media criticism that popped up in the 2000s-2010s, around the time cinema sins, nostalgia critic, and certain video essayists starting gaining a lot of traction.

“why didn’t this character just do [objectively logical thing]? plot hole! bad character! lazy writing!” became a common template for criticism, regardless of the context. (is the character under great duress? a literal child? hiding ulterior motives? uneasy about the logical thing for whatever reason? just not a very logical person? working with less information than the audience has?)

like, would it have made logical sense for mr. darcy to just tell elizabeth “hey, mr. wickham is a really bad guy, he almost ruined my sister’s life,” and for jane to be more straightforward with her feelings for mr. bingley? sure.

but to call that proof that pride and prejudice is Bad Actually ignores numerous facts about the characters (darcy is bad at expressing himself, darcy wants to protect his sister’s reputation, darcy and his sister are still hurting from wickham’s betrayal and don’t want to talk about it, darcy considers it to be bad form to publicly slander someone even if they totally deserve it, jane is incredibly shy, jane isn’t 100% sure bingley feels the same about her and doesn’t want to risk being wrong, etc.). and if the characters behaved in a totally objectively “correct” manner, we would have no plot.

and i also place some blame on the whole wave of acting like writing or enjoying an evil character (or hell, a non-morally-perfect character) is the same as supporting their actions, or condoning that behavior irl. you can’t have your hero lash out and say something hurtful to his best friend because he’s under stress - he’s the hero!

god i love being a pervert and a degenerate i love hedonism i love the pleasures of the flesh

I think the one thing people have failed to realize still is that if you're an adult around other adults why do you care if an adult is horny. Mind your business anyways.

"furries and lgbt+ people are so weirdly horny unlike ME, a person who represses their sexuality so I seem like I'm the better person here" is literally 4channer ideology. grow up it's 2023.

Not to be a doomer, it's fun clowning on Trump.........but also you really should be more worried about Ron DeSantis. It's unlikely Trump will be re-elected with his being arrested business and more and more Republicans basing their identity around "never Trump". But Ron DeSantis is a real danger. Unlike Trump, he's entering the race with previous political experience. He knows how to and has passed horrifically transphobic, homophobic, racist, and misogynist bills in Florida. His political experience is also more likely to convince "centrists" to support him, because "oh well at least he knows politics he's sensible, unlike Trump who is just a celebrity". Nobody took Trump seriously at first when he first announced his bid five years ago, "oh he's too extreme no one will vote for him," everyone said, and lo and behold, he won the presidency. Now Trump is old news. But you have to take Ron DeSantis seriously, because he has more of a chance of winning and more of a chance of causing the most harm.

Can we talk about how a seriously concerning number of people are drawn to social justice not out of the goodness of their hearts but because there are prevalent circles within the social justice community that actively reward and encourage behavior that is nearly indiscernible from bullying and harassment with reassurance that it's the 'right and just' kind?

these tags r too accurate to not include

Hope you don't mind that I included your tags, I've seen this exact thing. I've even been on the receiving end of this stuff just for refusing to go along with callout post culture.

Ok, but this illustrates perfectly how school is designed to teach us how to work.

^^^ yes. Children shouldn’t have to live like this either. It fucking sucks.

no cishets at pride! *spin kicks a grandma with a “I love my gay son” tshirt*

Yes, @passionpeachy illustrates a great point!

The first pride my mother attended, she marched with me alongside the PFLAG float, holding a sign that read "I'm Proud of My Gay Child".

I noticed she kept falling behind and running to catch up, nearly a whole float behind us. So finally, I stopped to see what was going on.

People kept pointing at her sign and cheering and then she'd proudly point at me, saying "they're here!"

That was usually the point where at least one person burst into tears. And this is where my mom started lagging - because she'd stop, reach over the barrier, and hug them. Teenagers, twenty-somethings, thirty-somethings... they'd break down crying at the sight of a cishet woman proudly marching with her child in Texas, of all places. That she'd claim me and be proud of me. Because they couldn't imagine their own family doing the same.

So she stopped and hugged them and told them she was proud of them, even though she had to race to catch up in the heat, even though they were strangers. And i like to think she made those young people's lives a bit better.

So yes, cishets at pride.

I'd rather have a cishet grandma there than a gay cop.

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Btw when someone says "don't talk to me like that, I don't know you" the normal thing to do is apologize for the perceived overfamiliarity and correct the behavior. Just in case anyone was wondering

the pride discourse is absolutely rancid this year, i have seen with my own two eyes so far

#you guys are getting played so hard by the republican wing who want to throw all homosexuals into a canyon

I will say it again:

Kids are horny. Kids will be horny no matter what. Teach them to have safe sex with other kids that they know and trust and want to have sex with, not with their weird boyfriend who keeps saying “But you said you love me, so this should be fine, right?”

Teach them consent is important. That they can say no halfway through. That if your partner says no halfway through, you have to stop and respect that and understand that doesn’t mean they hate you.

For fuck’s sake “abstinence” hasn’t helped anyone. Teach kids about sex and keep them safe.

But also, some kids just aren’t horny, and we should also tell those kids they aren’t broken and their boundaries and consent matter just as much as for their peers who are horny.

All of this is true.

The important parts are:

1) All kids should know the actual truth about how sex works before they reach the age where they can become pregnant or make someone else pregnant. The number of people who end up dealing with a pregnancy before they learn how that happens is unfortunately not zero.

2) All kids should know how best to protect against possible unwanted consequences of sex, like pregnancy and disease. They should be taught how to prepare, and they should also be taught what to do if they forget to prepare protection, the protection fails, or G-d forbid, they are assaulted. Plan B and post-exposure prophylaxis are things that they should be able to get if needed.

3) All kids should know that some people naturally become horny when their hormones get going, some people take a while to get there, and some people NEVER EVER get horny, and all of this is OK and fine and 100% normal for humans.

4) All kids should be taught–from birth onward–that they never have to let anyone touch them without their consent, and they are not allowed to touch other people without their consent. Yes this means you can’t spank your kids; yes this means you can’t make them kiss Grandma if they don’t want to; yes this means that you can’t act like unwanted pursuit of another child is cute because they’re 5, because in 10 years it will not be cute at all.  It might even mean long discussions about why we agree to let doctors do things to us that hurt sometimes, and this is a pain in the ass, but sometimes good parenting is going to be a pain in the ass.

As someone abused by doctors as a child and an adult, it’s super important to teach your child that consent applies to doctors too. Consent applies to all authority figures. Teaching kids that no one can touch them without their consent except for certain people with extra power over them is setting them up to think abuse from authority is normal and something they’re supposed to put up with.

Your body belongs to you, someone who is supposed to help you take care of your body does not have the right to coerce you

he cannot die. Unstoppable

Bad dog. Out you go

The Dog Will Stay

Too bad.

the dog stays

WRONG

Trap Master can only be flipped during your turn or by the effect of another card. Since no card has been activated to trigger such an effect, Trap Master cannot be activated in response to Trap Stun.

THE DOG GOES.

The effect of Prediction Princess Tarotrei can flip trap monster face up on the opponents turn. 

THE DOG STAYS

Once we send that Prediction Princess Tarotrei to the graveyard, our trap sealing will stick around.

The dog goes. 

Ritual Sealing does not negate, only destroy. Prediction Princess Tarotrei is destroyed, but its effect is still carried out.

THE DOG. STAYS.

I’m watching an online yu gi oh battle

THE DOG GOES

THE DOG STAYS

^ this entire thread in a nutshell.

THE DOG IS MINE.

Quality vintage post

We've all gotten just a bit too comfortable being jerks to strangers on the internet I think

So I've hidden this reply, both because it's obnoxious and because I don't want the person who wrote it being harassed for it, but I need you to understand: I don't know you. We are not friends. This is not fun or cute, we are not sharing a charming joke together. You are just being an asshole.

literally that is what the post is about, I am saying people should be less eager to jump on any chance to be snarky and rude to total strangers on the internet

If you wouldn't go to someone for advice, don't take their criticism either.

Wait whoa

op woke up and chose logic today and idk how i feel about that