Cops try really hard to look like normal people, while security guards try really hard to look like cops.
23 Psychological Life Hacks
1. When you first meet people try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it.
2. Pay attention to people’s feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly, if you are in a conversation with a co-worker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.
3. Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first. (Gradual Commitment… makes people them think you like them)
4. Alternatively, you ask them to do an unreasonable task, and they’ll say no, so when you ask for what you wanted, a much more reasonable task, and thew re more likely to agree that way.
5. If you ask someone to do you a small favor, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because they did that favor, they, therefore, just like you. (yes you all know that - Ben Franklin)
6. If you ask someone a question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep eye contact they will usually continue talking.
7. Chew gum when you’re approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or bungee jumping. I can’t remember where I heard it but apparently if we are ‘eating’ something in our brains trip and it reasons ‘I would not be eating if I were in danger. So I’m not in danger’. Has helped calm me a few times.
Source: psychofactz.net
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8 Reasons to Love An Introvert
In this loud and fast-paced world, we introverts find ourselves drowned out, overwhelmed and stomped on by society. We don’t find love because we don’t get the chance. So here’s a list of reasons to look for an introverted life-partner:
1. We’re self-sufficient.
The first thing you should know is that we do not need you. We do not need relationships, and we don’t need others. No, we don’t need them, we want them. So if an introvert chooses …
5 Ways to Know if You are Emotionally Mature
“Growing up happens when you start having things you look back on and wish you could change.” – Cassandra Clare
You’ve invested a lot of time, energy, and heartache in growing up. For most the path to adulthood is paved with bad choices, mistakes, and rebellion. For some, there was a lot of fun along the way, for others, not so much.
But, whatever your path, here you are all grown up. Did your emotional maturity grow with you or are you still acting like a 10-year-old? Maybe you have been told to “act your age”, or asked, “when will you grow up?” On the contrary, you could be one of those people who have an “old soul” or act mature for your age. How do you know if you are an emotionally mature adult? Read on.
What does ‘emotional maturity’ even mean?
To be emotionally mature means you must have the ability to make positive, healthy choices during the challenging moments in your life. Challenging moments are times when events trigger a strong emotion. You either become defensive, (reactive) or you are proactive.
Emotionally mature people have the following 5 attributes:
1. Give and receive love
The emotionally mature person trusts themselves and shows a willingness to accept love from others. They are also……..
“I think people expect too much from marriage today. They expect perfection. Every moment should be bliss. That’s TV or movies. But that is not the human experience. Twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there, it adds up to something beautiful. The trick is when things aren’t so great, you don’t junk the whole thing. It’s okay to have an argument. It’s okay that the other one nudges you a little, bothers you a little. It’s part of being close to someone. But the joy you get from that same closeness―when you watch your children, when you wake up and smile at each other―that is a blessing. People forget that.”
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Mitch Albom, Have a Little Faith
(via quotefeeling)