inside you, young transmasculine person, is a voice that will tell you not to like certain things because they're For Girls. that is the voice of the devil, and you must never listen to it.
for those that need it:
inside you, young transfeminine person, is a voice that will tell you not to like certain things because they're Too Manly. that is the voice of the devil, and you must never listen to it.
You can detox from social media and still use tumblr the same way some people can be sober and still smoke weed you just have to use it therapeutically
tshirt that says BAD AT BEING A WOMAN on the front WORSE AT BEING A MAN on the back worn with shorts that say NEVERTHELESS STILL KICKING
learning that self deprecation isnt cool and just makes the people around you uncomfortable unironically improved my mental health a lot. like if you just stop saying negative shit about yourself you will genuinely like yourself more and other people wont be repulsed by your attitude and you will have more friends. it's true.
If I may add, this is also true about other sorts of excessive negativity. Like, if all of your conversations with your friends are centered on complaining about everything and everyone that sucks... that will seriously wreck both your friendships and your mental health.
That doesn't mean you can never vent to your friends about shitty things. Venting is good! But it's not healthy if that's your primary mode of engaging with others. You can get stuck in a loop where you look for and focus on all of the bad shit in your life all of the time because that's where you get your social energy from and that's what you are in the habit of talking about. You train yourself with social rewards to ruminate constantly on negative things and ignore positive things and this is actually super bad for you. And it's super bad for your friendships too because many people will find this exhausting and off-putting, and the folks who tend to stick around will be other folks who like to wallow in negativity 24/7 as well, which just reinforces the spiral.
And no, this isn't some toxic positivity "just think on the bright side!" hack, or privileged insistence that your life can't be THAT bad or whatever. This is just... be kind to your brain and your friendships. Give them a break from deprecating yourself and/or others around you and/or your life and circumstances in general. If you need help getting started, consider:
Best of luck!
tags somebody left on one of my Riverdale posts. we live in such a beautiful world. yeah bud, you could say there's comics
In summer, the Hitokotonushi Shrine in Ibaraki sets up on oasis for bees where they can safely collect water
Ok, so my mom is horrified that I don’t wash my face every morning, saying she washes her face in the morning even if she showered the night before and says that everyone washes their face in the morning so I wanna see what the general stance on this is
it's literally all about having a primary public gender and a secondary personal gender
seeing trans ppl in public is literally life giving. wish there was a normal way to express to other trans people in public that we’re family and that i love them
For all my fellow oversharers out there.
As a chronic people-pleaser, this is my advice for success.
Offer as little as possible. Be terse. Get rid of all those exclamation marks and tidbits about why you want to take a sick day. State your needs clearly and concisely without reason. Start saying “No, I’m unable.” more often. Say Thank You only when the other party deserves it.
Anyone: Hey (asks about a special interest of mine)? Me: Becomes an unskippable cutscene
Society like it's only okay to have a disorder or disability IF it doesn't cause disorder or disable you.
moth update ! theyre threatening me
WELL, stop being so BIG and LOOKING AT THEM.
It's called X because you should close it and go outside
