loudly going "YOU'RE GOOD YOU'RE GOOD" to myself to ward off the memory of every embarrassing thing i've ever done
being trans in a largely non-body-dysphoric way has its perks but it can also be so frustrating in that, I look at myself in the mirror and see me, and im perfectly happy and proud of who that person is, but everyone around me seems to see some kind of stranger who is a girl, who does not look or act like me at all. And when I correct them at best they sort of nod and "play along" for a bit before continuing to refer to me as the stranger, as if I am the delusional one. The real me is invisible to them, and I am pointing at the mirror and screaming "what do you mean you don't see him??? He's right fucking there!!!!" but unless I change myself to look like someone I have no interest in being, they will continue to insist on only seeing the stranger they want to see.
like yeah yknow obviously people shouldn't assume gender based off looks but straight up sometimes it feels like people are seeing past every intentional style choice to communicate your gender too which pisses me off . Sometimes the kid at the checkout counter telling their mom "I think she's a boy because her hair is short" is the correct one lmfao
very funny that ppl are assuming this is a deeply personal observation that i might not want reblogged. im actually happy for yall to share it bc I want cis ppl to know they're idiots for being purposefully obtuse about my gender when I dress in men's clothes and cut my hair and refer to myself in guy terms and directly tell them im a nonbinary man and they still she/her me just bc i have boobs
the fact that this is actually dialogue in the game still baffles me
Tickles, but it’s just you and your ler screwing around. Silly voices, cracking jokes, the both of you completely comfortable with eachother as you do just about everything but take yourselves seriously>>>>>
haha i like you. I’ll be growing on you like moss now if that’s alright
Reblog and put in the tags a song cover that you find better than the original.
Things that I love as a ler:
- When the person you’re tickling enjoys being tickled and doesn’t even try to stop you and just lets themself laugh
- When a lee is chubby (more to tickle!)
- When somebody has a cute laugh
- People who are feather ticklish (you mean to tell me something so light and soft would make you absolutely die? Adorable.)
- Hugging someone from behind and then tickling them
- Ticklish ears or palms (FKN ADORABLE)
- When somebody stretches and you see their tummy
- playing with a lee’s toes to gently tickle and tease them
- Throwing someone onto a bed and just going to town on them
- When a lee gets flustered by the word “tickle”
- Using teases to make a lee go bright red (for example: “Aww what’s wrong? Does that tickle?”)
A well informed autism self diagnosis is just as valid as a psychiatric diagnosis. Additionally, under the given circumstances it is safer, most probably less expensive and you don't need to wait for any appointment.
10 screenshots from a twitter thread by @devprice with white text on black background.
The thread reads as follows:
I hear from many trans & nonbinary people who are actively seeking an Autism diagnosis. My advice is RETHINK THIS. Restricting Autistic people's access to gender affirming care is a major TERF talking point. As legal attacks on trans healthcare mounts, a psychiatric dx is a risk
The high overlap between Autism & transness was one of the main "concerns" JK Rowling rose in her "TERF Wars" blog post. Numerous fearmongering anti-trans articles influenced by TERFs have raised the issue since. if youre trans now is not a good time to seek a formal Autism dx.
An Autism dx does not unlock access to any beneficial therapeutic treatment, bc there is no "treating" Autism. Formal diagnosis makes us vulnerable to legal & psychiatric control and gets our competence challenged -- you dont need to subject yourself to this. diagnose yourself
I am close with dozens and dozens of Autistic people, and I have no idea who has a diagnosis and who does not. It does not matter. There is no reason to ask, no reason for others to care how someone identifies and how they arrived there -- all that matters is community support.
also if you cannot afford to pursue a lengthy & expensive lawsuit, it's unlikely a formal diagnosis will actually protect you from discrimination at work, in school or in housing. if you have the means great, but most don't. disclosing disability can be more risk than its worth.
if you need a dx to access resources such as disability benefits or extra test time, by all means go for it, but be cognizant of the potential costs. you could be denied for surgery, lose control of your assets, be found legally incompetent, lose custody of your kids...
Tweet replies to this thread:
By Greysquirrel @/treerat93
My autism dx was forced on me at age 2 and kept me out of the military in my 20s. It’s been nothing but destructive. I was beat up in sped and believed myself to be stupid my entire life because of it. I can’t even buy life insurance.
By Emily Johnson @/emily_rj
In some states, people with autism face being denied organ transplants, are at higher risk for forced sterilization and/or denied contraceptive and reproductive care, and have a higher risk of police brutality I considered this and decided informal diagnosis was best for me
By AK Faulkner is sweet and...
In the UK, an autism diagnosis is already a significant barrier to gender-affirming care. The GICs automatically try to discount dysphoria as autism during your initial assessments with them. If you arrive pre-diagnosed with autism they write your dysphoria off as that.