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@kittystolemysocks

No sideblogs, we create an incoherent jumble of content like men
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This is part of my ongoing Discworld jacket embroidery project. Of course Great A'Tuin has to be on there. And of course it has to be the biggest one of them all.

I'm going to put the finished product in my masterpost, but I'm so proud of the thing that I have to put it in an extra post beforehand. Enjoy!

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Update!!!

Behold: the elephants! 😁

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The turtle moves! Now it's just the "cargo" left. And the universe. Well.

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Update 3: Why did I have to try single thread for the disc. Why. How did I ever think that was a good idea. This is taking aaaages.

I'd say never again, but I know myself too well...

Still trying to decide whether to outline the landmass with darker thread or not. It would make the lands more distinct - but it might also make it look more like a comic. If you have any thoughts on it, let me know. I'll only decide once I've finished the rest of the disc and that'll be at least a week, if I had to guess.

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I finally had some time to continue and the disc is done! Now just some stars, planets, etc...

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The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

I needed to see this today

Reupping this in case anyone else needs to see this today.

I recently went to a lesbian meetup of women I'd never met before, which I was anxious about because it provided no clarification on how they were defining "lesbian". It included two cis women in their sixties, one in her fifties, cis me, and a trans woman in her 30s who was visibly a bit anxious about her reception.

Nobody batted a fucking eye about it. We all accepted her. One woman in her 60s ranted about how stupid transphobia and bigotry were; another had a younger trans daughter herself and was both socializing and writing things down to take home and share with her.

(It was also, you know, one woman who'd identified as lesbian her whole adult life; one who'd been married to a man for decades but now identified as lesbian; and three of us who identified as bisexual. A bi woman was the event organizer. And that was also fine.)

Sorry I applied a modern lens of analysis to your boyfriend. Yeah I've completely stripped him of historical and semantic context so that I could fit his story and tropes into my own moralistic view of the world. Yeah he's practically flavourless now. In fact this was the original boyfriend and you're a problematic historian for thinking otherwise.

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I think that in real life…. Relationships r like . Your partner WILL ‘trauma dump’ on you. You will have to perform ‘emotional labor’ for your partner. Your partner will make mistakes. You will also do all of these things. The very nature of love is irrational and problematic and difficult …. To expect a relationship to be free of these things is strange to me…. The point is that your relationship to that person is ultimately worth it, and worth growing with them, helping each other, seeing the worst parts of another person and being able to love them anyway

There's a book I read years ago about marriages that last vs. ones that don't, and the Big Secret wasn't how much conflict or stress they had in them. It was how often each partner made little attempts at repair--whether apologies, letting things go, willingness to poke a bit of fun at themself for getting Super Mad over something silly, whatever--and how receptive each partner was to them.

If you're willing to forgive each other and get past things, your relationship lasts. If you're not, it doesn't.

Not all relationships SHOULD last. Not everything should be forgiven. But the key is how committed you are to getting past things together, NOT how many times issues come up or how similar or different you are.

People have repeatedly asked me why I’m so scared of driving and quite frankly I think I hold a normal amount of fear towards driving. I think most people could stand to be a little more scared of driving tbh

I love how tumblr is reverse chronological order so when your mutual starts having a blorbo breakdown overnight you get to start with the insane conclusion and work your way back to where they first went off the rails.

the nice thing about having a handyman kind of spouse, as a fic writer, is that i can go 'hey, what's a car problem that an amateur mechanic could plausibly fix in an afternoon with minimal specialized tools' and he will list off a few different options and the general sketch of how to fix them and then give me a despairing look and go, 'this is all a lead-up to a sex scene, isn't it'

and i'd protest, but he's generally right, that's exactly what it is

oh my fucking god it doesn’t matter if there’s a trans character in the blood libel harry potter game because the profits from that game are going to be used to further the eradication of trans rights in the uk im literally begging people to use their brains for once

‘ohhh let people enjoy things’ look at me. look me in the eyes. the money you have spent is going to go to an influential transphobe. she is a major part of the anti-trans movement in the uk. by giving her money you are giving her more power and more influence that she will use to to further her transphobic agenda.

‘ohhh but i pirated it :)’ yeah i still don’t trust you. the game is antisemitic as hell and this has been public knowledge for months. i don’t much care for your support of trans people if you’re cool with antisemitism.

‘you’re blowing this way out of proportion’ nah i don’t think i am. i think you’ve made a choice and you’re not comfortable with the consequences of it. but unfortunately for you you can’t play Antisemitism: The Game made by the World’s Most Famous Transphobe and expect jewish people, trans people or their allies to like you.

not spending sixty quid on the Antisemitic Game That Funds Transphobia is literally the bare fucking minimum in allyship and some of you can’t even manage that

the thing about whether or not trans women or even cis crossdressers and shit "tricking" cishet men is so dumb like i don't think the argument should be "we AREN'T tricking cishet men" i think it should be "cishet men should be open to having their own expectations of their own sexuality challenged because the world is not a sexual buffet for them to chose from" like sometimes a straight guy might actually just jack off to someone he thought he was a woman but is actually just a femboy or some shit. who cares. its just enrichment in their enclosures tbh

like very seriously, its the idea that identity and sexuality should be rigid and easily communicable when sometimes it isn't. if you're worried about being " tricked" into doing gay shit you're actually just insecure and a homophobe/transphobe. it is not about whether or not i am deceiving people, it is about the fact that people think there is something to be deceived about

I found this meme, and now this one pops up in my head every time I see a russian or a tankie claim that the USSR "saved the world from nazism" and ignore this "minor" detail.

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Further reading

And a bit of a "funny" trivia

some sort of love poem

This is the wildest result of one of my comics becoming popular I feel rabid

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was just gonna reblog this bomb ass comic again bc it's a mood but the author's addition is hilarious. this is why your english teachers taught you to find meaning in a text