𝔧𝔲𝔰𝔱 𝔱𝔬 𝔰𝔞𝔳𝔢 𝔶𝔬𝔲…

@kirbyskisses-main

21, she/they, black,sfw, main for @kirbykisses

i cannot emphasize enough how much elon musk is very much not killing twitter on purpose. he is not that smart. you are giving him too much credit. he makes cars that melt. a few weeks ago a billionaire imploded several other billionaires and himself in the ocean because of this same brand of born-rich brainworms. destroying a social media site because of a petty, long held grudge over his paypal co-founders not letting him rename that to "X" is not a stretch.

Self Care {Tips}:

  • Eat {even if it’s small like crackers, a muffin, etc.}
  • Shower
  • Moisturize your skin, face, hands, etc.
  • Stay hydrated
  • Take your meds {if you use them}
  • Find ways to relax {meditate, yoga, exercise, listen to music}
  • Don’t overwork yourself
  • Take care of yourself physically and mentally {if you know you have some kind of medical issue, please see someone for it [whether a doctor or a therapist] even if you think it’s minor/nothing to worry about}
  • Have an emotional outlet/support network {when life gets hard, it’s always easier when you have a friend, family member, etc. to lean on}
  • Light some candles
  • Take a bubble bath or warm bath with some bath salts
  • Clean your living space/keep it clean {can play a big impact on how you feel}
  • Stay organized {this is a biggie for anxiety/OCD sufferers}
  • Pace yourself and set realistic goals {you may have one overall goal, but breaking it down into smaller pieces helps}
  • Pet your fur babies {or someone else’s}
  • Don’t stay glued to social media 
  • Reach out to your friends 
  • Stay well rested, and if that’s hard to do, nap when you can
  • Make a {gratitude} journal 
  • Dance, sing
  • Spend some time outside
  • Pick up a new hobby {or start investing more time in something you already like doing}
  • dancing
  • singing
  • writing
  • reading
  • video games
  • making art
  • baking
  • crocheting/knitting
  • gardening
  • Respect your own body’s specific needs
  • Respect yourself
  • Love/treat yourself
  • Take a little bit of time to yourself every day away from your phone, your computer, and other people {me time!} 

cruelty is so easy. youre not special for choosing it

"The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pedants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist; a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain."

-Ursula K. LeGuin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas

Avatar

"Evil is boring. Right? I kinda believe in the banality and mundaneness of evil. Evil is just selfish impulses, which at the end of the day are really easy to understand. It’s easy to understand why people do bad things. It’s like “yeah, ok, you’re selfish and scared and cruel, I get it”. Being good is complex and beautiful and hard." - Brennan Lee Mulligan

“transition poses some ethical questions. Such as, from what age should you be allowed to irreversibly change your body.“

This of course completely ignores the fact that puberty makes irreversible changes to your body. But let us just rephrase the question: “from what age do you gain bodily autonomy?” Now it gets very easy to answer: From the moment you’re fucking born.

I’m sorry, I’m reblogging this twice in a row it is that important

Stand up and say it again for the people in the back row. 

Avatar

This is all completely true and correct, of course, but on the topic of changes that irreversibly change a child’s body, prithee, go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

If you start ballet at 16, you are too old to ever expect to be able to do it seriously. If you start at 12 you’re too old. If you want to do ballet as a serious thing, as a career, you need to start at like eight years old or even younger, because your bones and joints need to be trained while they’re still flexible in order for you to be able to perform many of the required motions and stances of ballet. In particular, you need to be able to perform turnout of the hips, but all of your joints in your legs and feet will be affected, and this irreversibly changes your body.

And yet! Nobody talks about this as a negative thing! Little girls say they want to be ballet dancers, and if their parents have enough money, that’s what they get to be! Does it cause problems in later life? Yeah, sometimes! Often, even! But nobody talks about that because it’s a thing for cis people to do and so naturally it’s all fine!

Go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

“your rent should be a third of your income” well wouldn’t that be nice. wouldn’t it. lower the rent pussy

Avatar

Casual observation from someone old enough to remember: in the year 2000 financial advice was that rent should be no more than 1/4 of your income.

Avatar

Until the mid 80s, the advice was that if you must rent instead of owning, then that 20% of your monthly income (oh yes, only 20%) should include all your utilities too.

After all, rent costs more than a mortgage, so it should offer more too.

The housing market is a fucking travesty.

Hmm what happened in the mid eighties....

Avatar

I think about the Hero’s Shade a lot…how he’s the Hero of Time who died lamenting that he was never remembered as a hero, and to ease his regrets, he shows up as a ghost in Twilight Princess to teach TP Link 

OOT/MM Link continues to be the most tragic Link to me…but I love that he got to interact with TP Link, someone who understands the struggle, so he can rest easy knowing that he’s not alone (I’m not crying you’re crying)

not to be a miles morales kinnie but when he said:

"everyone keeps telling me how my story is supposed to go. nah, imma do my own thing."

and when the soundtrack said:

“got me feelin', like it's all too much. i feel beaten, but i can't give up - i’m still fighting.”

something in my little burntout brooklynite afro-latino heart felt so recognized

Saying this very loosely because I'm about to go to sleep and I don't feel like going deeper but I think a lot of people's obsession with how they look and the irrational feeling of aging would get better if we as a society accepted that being ugly is not a crime and sometimes you'll find yourself ugly and that doesn't mean you see yourself as less or respect yourself less or love yourself less

that james baldwin quote where he says, “it took many years of vomiting up all the filth i’d been taught about myself, and half-believed, before i was able to walk on the earth as though i had a right to be here.”