rb if your account is a safe space for polyamorous people

hard pill to swallow: the idea that your ‘soulmate’ or ‘the one’ will know exactly how to make you happy without you ever having to communicate is fake. the fantasy that you will have all your needs met in a relationship without ever having to be vulnerable is fundamentally not true. sometimes you have to express your needs and desires, you have to ask for things, you have to communicate how you want to be loved, it’s uncomfortable and clumsy but relationships are about learning to love each other not being a mind reader

7..... 706 followers!?!?!?!? DIES AND COMES BACK AS A TRUCK DRIVER CALLED PAUL.

you may take it. ONCE.

I don’t think healthy people every really get chronic illness.

I have a friend I know from when we were both 6. She is the only person living nearby and so she saw me go from walking through limping to wheelchair on a daily basis. I keep her updated on my health even tho we rarely hang out anymore. She was gonna come over yesterday and I had to cancel. She asked if I can’t hang out later that day. When I said i won’t feel better later, that if I feel that bad in the morning later will only get worse she got annoyed and “joked” that I’m just finding excuses. And I was surprised, she knows all about me being disabled after all? So, a bit taken aback, I told her it’s a normal thing for me.

“But you got the diagnosis now, aren’t you better?? I thought you’ll get better now”

She was honestly surprised and it made me realize a thing. They don’t get it. They don’t get that getting diagnosed only equals benefits like welfare or parking spot for us, and sometimes better pain meds but that is just like pushing luck. That it’s a forever thing. That that one day we felt good a week ago was just a bright spot and doesn’t mean we won’t need our aids anymore, cause chronic illness is not linear and will make a great comeback in next four hours, and the next good day is planned on when we’re 70. Cause when abled people are sick, they get better. And our illness is just an excuse for them. And when we say we will never get better they think we’re being dramatic and pessimistic. And I don’t think they’ll ever get it, cause to get it you need to live it. And I want my friends to stay healthy and not go through hell.

This is definitely okay to reblog and abled people are encouraged to reblog cause maybe it’ll help others understand

Hello it’s me Lexa and this post is relevant again as I just had the Legit Same Talk with someone and I exhausted my number of fucks to give

Oh my god I literally had this conversation with my mother an hour ago.

Mum: “So yeah, I was thinking that when I come down we could do visit an art gallery or a museum or something.”

Me: “I’ll have to see if I’m up for it, I’ve been going through a rough patch. I might not have the energy.”

Mum: “But you love art galleries.”

Me: “I know. What part of ‘it hurts to walk long distances now’ is hard for you though?”

I routinely have people well aware of my disabilities/chronic illness congratulate me on how I “seem to be doing so much better these days!” on a good pain/energy day and then basically try to stage an intervention a week later on a bad one. “You seem to be on a decline lately, I’m just concerned you’re not taking care of yourself!” And then a week later on a good day again congratulate me on how I really seem to have improved and must be making a real effort to keep on top of my health, with no irony or self-awareness whatsoever. The narrative of “getting better” is so ingrained that healthy abled people will ignore massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to apply it where it makes absolutely no sense.

And this belief in “getting better” is actively harmful because that’s how we get shitty things like people having their benefits “reviewed” and taken away because it’s been ten years and they’re not going to the doctor “enough.” They don’t need to get constant treatment after they know what they have, but that doesn’t mean they’re magically cured or just “not trying”!!! It means they’re ill, they’re always going to be ill, and going to the doctor every week isn’t going to change that (not to mention it’s expensive af)!

I see this in my job much more frequently than I should (we help people fight benefit denials and occasionally get back benefits after these “reviews”). Sometimes it’s justified - the person went back to work - but more often, it’s not, it’s just that some worker somewhere decided that this person or that person should be all better by now, and that’s just not how chronic illness works, so ending this idea that chronically ill people will just get better would help put a stop to shit like that.

They cannot comprehend that we do not control our health. In their world, when people are sick it’s because they caught it from someone else, and if you stay sick it’s your fault for not taking care of yourself. They cannot fathom a  world where you can 

do everything right and still be sick. 

“don’t let your disability define you! Fight! INspirEd! Taking back my life from Cancer!” This narrative is everywhere in Able culture. If you JUST tried harder you’d get better. THAT is what they live and believe.

Therefore to them if we are “still” sick or “Sick Again” it’s because WE did something wrong. They can’t comprehend a world where you can’t Earn health as a reward for performing purity, kale and yoga.

people who got lucky don’t want to acknowledge how absolutely, terrifyingly random the whole world is and how little we can actually control our circumstances. thin people really think they just ‘eat better’ than fat people. the rich really think they’re better with money than the poor. and abled people really, really do not want to face up to the fact that you can do everything right and the universe just doesn’t fucking care and you can get arthritis in your twenties, or chronic fatigue syndrome basically whenever, or maybe your legs just stop working and no one will be able to tell you why.

don’t have a pithy conclusion here. just, listen to people when they tell you what’s wrong with them. goddamn.

Everything about this post is perfect. Because growing up is for losers. 

I just want to hide from the world in one of these

solid heckin guide

This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.

THIS ONE!!! THIS IS THE ONE THAT WORKS!!!!!

I reblogged him the day i started treatment and 1. GOT TO MY APPOINTMENT ON TIME 2. FOUND A FREE PARKING TICKET SOMEONE LEFT IN THE METER FOR ME AND 3. GOT FREE STARBUCKS AFTER MY APPOINTMENT!!!!!

pls

SMP Creator Boundaries Masterpost

This is a masterpost of all the boundaries that have been stated so far for various content creators (mainly from SMPLive, SMPEarth, and Dream SMP) when it comes to fan content. This includes things such as shipping, fanfiction, etc. This post contains links to every main post we have made about the creators’ boundaries so far, with each post being kept as up to date as possible with the information we have. Feel free to browse this list or specifically look for the boundaries of the creators you need, whatever you prefer! You can also filter by tags (guide here) based on what topic you want to know about (e.g. cosplay, AUs).

Recommended reading:

•A glossary of words we might use. Useful if you’re new to this fandom or our blog!

•A note on NSFW content in this fandom.

•‘Shipping Etiquette’ AKA how to ship content creators respectfully.

Creators:

•Altrive

•Antfrost

•BadBoyHalo

•CallMeCarson

•CaptainSparklez

•ConnorEatsPants

•Cscoop

•Dream

•Eret

•Fundy

•GeorgeNotFound

•ItsAsaii

•Jschlatt

•Karl Jacobs

•Katerino

•Krinios

•Madimakesmusica

•Nihachu

•Ph1lzA

•Pokay

•Quackity

•Ranboo

•Sapnap

•Slimecicle

•Technoblade

•TommyInnit

•ToxxxicSupport

•Traves

•Tubbo

•Wilbur Soot

This list is updated as we gather more information on various creators. If you have information that you don’t see here, here is a post on how to contact us.

(Also lastly, we have a Discord, check it out!)

Reblog if you're gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender or a supporter.

Proud Bi Ace coming through 😀 Make way! 💖💜💙

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BOOST THE FUCK OUT OF THIS

This is so fucking amazing!

Some solutions may seem so small but this is a greater impact.

BOOST THE FUCK OUT OF THIS GUYS

@yenneferofvengerbergg Look, Darling, maybe this will help you understand the importance of the matter.

IMPORTANT NOTE: the app link in the article is for the California one.

There’s one for every state.

[Edit: nope. There’s not one for every state.]

States with apps: California, Pennsylvania, Oregon, Michigan, North Carolina, Virginia, Georgia, New Jersey, Colorado, Missouri, Minnesota, Arizona, Maryland, Oklahoma, Mississippi, New Mexico, DC, Nebraska

Reblogging because it’s still a greaaaat idea.

I’m not in a state with one but boosting this anyways

@one-time-i-dreamt Your American followers may benefit from knowing about this.

Hope you’re having a nice day, please pet all your dogs for me ^^

to the boy who needs to hear it right now: you are not inherently evil or bad or abusive or wrong for being a boy.

Reblog if you support equal rights because I do 💕

whenever a young kid joins our staff at work im just like huh. guess im a father now.

these kids will be like “can you drive me home? i don’t have gas money but-” and im already pullin out my keys and am like. sweetheart, you are a child. i am not charging a child gas money.

i literally almost lunged across the counter to throw hands with some old hag who yelled at and insulted one of our 16 y/o girls but instead i threw her sandwich at her and told her to never fucking come back

old dudes will flirt with our young girls too and i’ll be like ay man this is a truck stop, normal customer service rules dont apply here. i can and will call the cops on you.

im the only manager that actively tells them to steal food because these are teenagers and they are HUNGRY

You are the only valid manager

“If it’s about a dad dating other dads, how come some of them have kids???”

everyone stop reblogging the chains that don’t include the trans flag challenge

𝐒͢𝐍𝐀𝐏𝐒 𝐈𝐅 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐖𝐄𝐑𝐄 𝐃𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆, 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐒𝐨𝐨𝐭 𝐱 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫

The Need to Stay

(Thought I’d upload my recent comics to Tumblr! I totally forgot it only lets you upload 10 pics at a time, and this is 11, but fingers crossed it works!)

I’m tired of the myth that Ronald Reagan drove in on an eagle-shaped bulldozer and dismantled the Berlin Wall all by himself. A lot of the credit actually goes to the protestors who vigilantly pressured the government. 

Also, the beginning of the Wall Fall was the result of an incompetent bureaucrat.

“When the wall started to fall on November 9th, it was a mistake. In the face of mass protests against the regime in 1989 and thousands of East Germans seeking refuge at West German embassies in Eastern Europe, East German leaders waived the old visa rules stating that citizens needed a pressing reason for travel, such as a funeral or wedding of a family member. 

East Germans would still have to apply for visas to leave the country, but they would supposedly be granted quickly and without any requirements. Yet the Communist Party official who announced these changes, Guenter Schabowski, missed most of the key meeting about the travel procedures and went unprepared to a news conference. In response to reporters’ questions about when the new law would take effect, he said, “Immediately, without delay.” Schabowski left the impression that people could immediately cross the border, though he meant to say they could apply for visas in an orderly manner. 

Over the next several hours, thousands of East Berliners gathered at the checkpoints along the wall. Since the country’s leaders hadn’t intended to completely open the border, the supervisors at the crossing points had received no new orders. The chief officer on duty at the Bornholmer Street checkpoint, Harald Jaeger, kept calling his superiors for guidance on how to handle the growing mass of increasingly angry East Berliners expecting to be let through. Jaeger finally gave up around 11:30 p.m. and allowed people to pass through en masse. Guards at other crossing points soon followed suit. The East German regime never fully regained control.”

Perhaps instead of Reagan, we should build a statue of Guenter Schabowski worriedly looking at his watch. The plaque can have the caption, “I hope I didn’t miss anything important at that meeting.”

I posted this in the middle of the night and didn’t know it would connect with so many. But shitting on Reagan and correcting whitewashed history is a favorite pastime of mine, so I guess it would make sense others would feel the same. 

it’s been two years, but i think that an icon like her deserves to be known about by more people.

her name was freddie oversteegen and she, at the age of fourteen, along with her older sister truus who was 16 and their friend johanna “hannie” schaft who was 19, was a part of the netherlands most famous all female resistance cell which was dedicated to fighting the nazis and dutch traitors.

among other things, they are known to have blown up bridges and railroads, smuggled jewish children from concentration camps and, as the tweet mentions, seducing nazis and then shooting them with guns that they had hidden in their bike baskets. freddie is quoted as having said that they “had to do it.” and that it was a “necessary evil, killing those who betrayed good people.”

though freddie and her sister truus were both lucky and survived the war, hannie schaft wasn’t. at the age of 24, hannie was caught and around three weeks later was executed by nazis, only 18 days before the netherlands were eventually liberated. she was shot with one only wounding her, and, before the final shot, hannie is quoted as having told the executioners: ik schiet beter, which translates to “i shoot better.”

though she didn’t survive, hannie is recognized as a national icon and a face of the dutch resistance, with her story even being retold in a movie from 1981 called “the girl with the red hair.” along with this, truus also founded the national hannie schaft foundation in 1992, on which freddie served as a board member.

freddie, at the time of her death, was 92 years old and the last surviving member of the resistance cell, with truus having died two years earlier at the age of 92.

though these women and all that they did played an important part in the dutch resistance, they are often overlooked in history outside of the netherlands. it’s important that they are remembered and that their work to save people isn’t forgotten. it’s incredible what they did, especially given how young they were, and they deserve more recognition than what they’ve gotten.