the more i think of it the more it bothers me that people seem to think “androgyny=flat chest” why are we always treating masculine features as default??? boobs can be fucking androgynous too!!! fuck!!!
Actually we have a theory about this! It's that the only kind of androgyny acceptable to patriarchal society is the one that doesn't include any features that would be unattractive for either gender stereotype. Therefore, according to toxic gender standards, The Acceptable Attractive Nonbinary must: - be skinny because curves are only okay on women, and fat people are always unattractive - no breasts bc that's not okay for men - no body hair or facial hair bc that's not okay for women - have to stick to the middle ground of gendered aesthetics in both directions - be white, or if not then at least be exoticized and/or have their race used to actively degender them in a racist way - etc
once you start wearing a good pair of cargo pants everywhere you absolutely cannot go back. like sorry im an anime character now and these are my default pants. not my fault theyre appropriate for work and school and hanging out and concerts and hiking and the grocery store and going out for dinner and the bank and a first date and a job interview and a day trip. pockets for days for anything you may need. like she has the range.
oh snap i thought about femmes with big thighs for 0.2 seconds and now i'm all giddy and kicking my feet in the air and feeling amazed by the beauty of the universe and thinking everything is gonna be alright and my sinuses are clear and
"damn I'm crying over an insect" "why am I having such strong feelings over how the sky looks" "it's weird how happy this small thing made me feel" THAT'S BECAUSE YOU LIVE HERE!!!! you live on this earth. everything all the time is an experience, no matter how common or mundane. this world is unique. so are its small moments. it is good to enjoy a tiny thing. you love the world even at its smallest scale.
Think I will always be too much and at the same time not enough
I think i met an angel on the train
This older man moved my skirt aside and I absent-mindedly said "oh sorry" for being partially in his seat and he said "dont be sorry, this is new york" and then showed me all his poetry about observing the world and living as a restaurant worker during the pandemic and we talked about how i worked in a grocery store and as a bartender so i resonated with his work and he told me "i may never meet you again but it's nice to meet someone worth talking to. I might sound like a world class idiot sage, but you can't be afraid. That's no way to live. You have to trust your humanity." Then he shook my hand and got off the stop before me. Hello. Hello . Hello.
Virginia Woolf, from a letter to Vanessa Bell written c. August 1908
Once you become a certain age, it is your responsibility to unlearn behaviors that hinder your growth as a person.
Man I cannot stress this enough. The “this is how I am, take it or leave it” attitude is an act of immaturity. We all have toxic traits that we need to work on and as an adult it’s our responsibility to recognize the damage that they can do to the ones we love. We all need to put in more effort in becoming better individuals.
big facts
