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Heterosexual Nonsense Older Straight Women told me as “advice” and why it’s BS
1. If you don’t know exactly where your partner is at all times he will cheat on you and it will be your fault: Because why expect trust and commitment? This is bullshit and is telling you to settle
2. If you don’t agree to have sex whenever he wants to then he will cheat and it will be your fault: You don’t ever have to have sex if you don’t want to and if he cheats he’s an asshole who you should dump
3. Fighting is healthy and emotional manipulation is a legitimate tactic: that is fucked up. Disagreements, bad days, all of that is healthy but you talk it out. Don’t threaten to kill yourself or leave them until they give in because that is awful and cruel
4. You should never tell your partner the things they do or fail to do which cause you pain/resentment. Just accept they will never change and change your expectations because it’s too much to expect them to respect you or listen to you: OMG no. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER and if they refuse to listen or respect you then they are not a good person to be with. Resolving the situation usually means compromise and also talking about it before resentment builds up
5. Asking for help around the house from a man is unreasonable: just no. No it’s not.
6. Hating each other and resenting married life is normal and healthy: NO ITS NOT. Jesus it can be so good when you honestly love each other and like each other. Sometimes it’s hard and you both have to grow as people both together and separately but god damn it’s great
7. If he has sex with you when you don’t want to that’s fine. You’ll enjoy it eventually: NO. That’s rape. Rape is bad. Yes it’s rape even if you’re married.
8. Fathers can’t be expected to take care of the kids properly and you should either leave pre-cooked meals or expect your daughter to take care of the household when you’re away: FUCK THIS. Men are NOT children and can take care of their own damn kids and the household.
9. Boys will be boys: They are 40 Janet. They can learn how to be adult men. Stop enabling them.
TL:DR- Men are responsible for their own actions. Don’t enable them and don’t blame yourself for their bad behaviour and TALK TO THEM ABOUT PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. If they refuse to change they are the problem in your relationship. Not you. Don’t fall for the lies Straight Women.
“when is the right time to stop. when is the right time to stop waiting for something to happen that isn’t going to and quit. when is the right time to stop giving second chances. when is the right time to stop fighting for people who wouldn't fight back for you. when is the right time to put your foot down. when is the right time to stop letting it go. when is the right time to say i have had enough. when is the right time to stop crying. when is the right time to start living for yourself”
— WHEN//nikitagupta
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French YouTubers
Hi everyone! A few days ago @unsuitable-for-engineer asked if I had any recommendations for French TV series or YouTubers. I actually don’t watch any series, but by golly do I love YouTube. Hopefully you can find something you like. * indicates my favourite channels.
2/100 days of productivity - july 19, 2017
I’m learning french on memrise so I’m not completely lost when I take the course this upcoming school year!
A Few 받침 Pronunciation Rules
1. When the 받침 is followed by a ㅇ (silent), it’s carried over.
물은 is pronounced “무른" 꽃이 is pronounced “꼬치" 읽어 is pronounced “일거"
2. When the 받침 is at the end of the word or followed by a consonant, it softens. ㅂ/ㅍ –> “ㅂ", ㄷ/ㅌ/ㅅ/ㅆ/ㅈ/ㅊ –> “ㄷ", ㄱ/ㄲ/ㅋ –> ㄱ
앞 is pronounced “압" 옷 is pronounced “옫" 밖 is pronounced “박"
3. When the 받침 is followed by ㅁ/ㄴ, it may be pronounced differently. ㅂ/ㅍ –> “ㅁ", ㄷ/ㅌ/ㅅ/ㅆ/ㅈ/ㅊ –> “ㄴ", ㄱ/ㄲ/ㅋ –> ㅇ
꽃물 is pronounced “꼰물" 볶니 is pronounced “봉니" 앞만 is pronounced “암만"
4. When ㄴ is followed by ㄹ or visa versa, ㄴ is pronounced “ㄹ”.
연락 is pronounced “열락" 진리 is pronounced “질리" 달님 is pronounced “달림"
5. When two 받침 are at the end of the word or followed by a consonant, the 2nd is silent.
없다 is pronounced “업다" 읽자 is pronounced “일자" 여덟 is pronounced “여덜"
6. When ㄷ/ㅌ is followed by a vowel, it’s sometimes pronounced “ㅈ/ㅊ”.
해둗이 is pronounced “해두지" 붙여 is pronounced “부쳐" 끝이 is pronounced “끄치"
Grammar Masterpost
- 보다 (더) – more than
- emphasis (very, a lot, a bit, etc.)
- 받침 pronunciation rules
- Korean sentence structure (SOV)
- present tense forms
- future tense forms
- imperative form
- past tense forms
- past tense of 이다
- 이다 vs. 있다
- 위해(서) – in order to
- ~(으)려고/~(으)러 – in order to
- 워해(서) vs. (으)러
- ~지 말다 – to not do
- 말고/아니고 – instead of
- age
- ~을 때 – when
- ~지만/~는데 – however
- ~ㄴ/은/는데 – giving context
- 좋겠다 – it’d be nice if
- 제일/가장 – best/most
- ~ㄴ지 – since
- ~에 대해(서) – about
- ~아/어 드리다 – to do for
- 때문에 – because of
- ~(으)니까 – because
- ~거든요 – because
- 같은 vs. 처럼
- 것 같다 – seems like/I think
- ~(으)ㄴ가 보다 – seems like
- ~잖다 – you know
- 가져가다 vs. 가져오다 – take with/bring with
- 알다/모르다 – to know (how to)
- 편이다 – rather/sort of
- 만큼 – as much as
- 일단/만약/처음 – once/first
- particles
- ~(으)로 – with/by means of
- 은/는 vs. 이/가
- more examples of 은/는, 이/가, and 을/를
- ~(이)나 – good enough
- 수학 – basic math
- ~에 따라서 – according to
- ~자니(까)/~(으)려고 하니(까) – intended to, but
- any / every / some / none
- 안 vs. ~지 않다 – negatives
- 처음/다음/지난/마지막 – first, next, last
- 좋다 vs. 좋아하다
- ~네요 – new info; mild surprise
- ~나 – older men asking questions
- ~대요 – conveying what you’ve heard
- ~네 vs. ~군요
- 존댓말 vs. 반말
- ~야 되다/~면 되다 – have to/should do, allowed to, shouldn’t do
- ~(으)ㄹ 수 있다/없다 – can do, can’t do
- ~(으)ㅁ – adj/verbs into nouns
- ~던 vs. ~는
- ~(으)ㄹ수록 – the more __, the more
- ~(으)ㄴ 적이 있다 – have done/experienced
- ~아/어 버리다 – been done
- conjugating and using colors
- 때문에 vs. (으)니까
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🌼how to restart learning a language🌼
i’ve recently gone through a language break, taking 5 months out to reassess my future. i really want to get back to learning Japanese, so here are my tips for restarting that language you might have been neglecting!
- reassess your goals. its likely that if you’ve taken an extended break, your life has changed a little and there may be some new priorities taking over. reassess what you want to get out of restarting your language journey so it’s easier to plan around your day
- make small targets that can be reached easily. for a short while, you’ll have to work hard to get your head back into the swing of learning a language. making small goals can really up your productivity because you wont be discouraged by big expectations at first!
- slowly immerse yourself. immersion is widely known as a good supplement to your language learning. while you’re in the early stages of relearning a language, it’s really fun to start rewatching that subbed anime you lost track of, or listen to that spanish band you loved so much. it will help your brain get back ‘into’ the language, and you’ll have fun along the way!
- revisit your notebooks. if you’re anything like me, you have a ton of notebooks and stacks of random note paper lying around untouched since you dropped out of your language. do your best to collect them up, sort through the useful stuff and then, get a blank notebook and rewrite all of your notes. your brain wont have forgotten everything but starting a new notebook will give you incentive to learn, as well as solidifying the information you already learnt!
- take it slow. your brain is a muscle that needs exercising. if you havent been using your language brain for a while, don’t try and run a marathon without training first! there’s no rush. your journey is yours, and yours alone. take it as slow as you need to to start learning your language again and get back into the studying swing of things
🌼good luck on revisiting your language journey!🌼
How to Create a Self-Study Schedule
If you’re studying any foreign language on your own (or without a course) you’re going to need to be extra organized. Your language study is in your own hands and so is how much you learn. There is no one holding you accountable or motivated either. So it’s entirely up to you to make sure you’re organized and planning enough material that your learning at a comfortable pace. There are roughly two ways to learn languages on your own. There are roughly two ways to go about planning your language study: intensively or casually. Here are my tips for intensive studying and I’ll post about casual studying soon:
teaching yourself a language
i’ve gotten questions multiple times about how to start learning swedish and how to go about when starting learning a new language, so i thought i’d make a masterpost about it. obviously learning differs from person to person, especially with languages, but this is what i do to study french, and what i’ve found best works for me
apps to get started:
if you know nothing about a language a good place to get started is with basic words and basic grammar. there are a lot of apps / websites to choose from, some of the most popular are
- Duolingo, has the benefit of being free, and has 27 languages to choose from. with Duolingo you start with the basics of “hello”, “my name is” “i am” and it gradually gets harder the better you get. make sure you don’t only use it as an app though, because then you’ll miss the grammar explanations available on the website
- Babbel, unlike Duolingo Babbel isn’t free, and Babbel only has 14 languages to choose from. starts off similar to Duolingo but with Babbel you get more detailed grammar explanations and you don’t fall into the trap of having to learn long lists of words relating to one very specific subject before learning basic grammar, as you do with Duolingo. In Babbel you can also choose the courses that feel relevant to you, and don’t have to clear a certain course to move on to the next one
- Memrise, works similarly to the two above. there is a free version but you have to pay to get to PRO level
this type of course is a great foundation for learning a language, and almost vital when first starting out (if you’re learning on your own), but make sure it’s not your only source, and that you’re continuously talking to native speakers, reading, watching movies, listening to the radio and so on to get a grip on what the language is like when spoken naturally
hearing the language:
watching tv and movies
when watching tv and movies you could either do it in two different ways, with different benefits
- with subtitles (in language spoken), the benefit with this is that you can read a word or sentence and directly see how it’s pronounced, and vice versa. the downside is that this way easily draws attention away from the speech, it’s easy to get carried away focusing on the subtitles
- without subtitles, the benefit with this is that you have to really focus on what is being said and how it’s pronounced, and you learn to understand the language spoken, rather than just written as in the subtitles
watching documentaries
- watching documentaries is a great way to learn how to understand the language spoken. the language used is natural and not simplified for people trying to learn it, but it has a naturally slow tempo which makes it easy to keep up with
listening to the radio
- even if you don’t understand a single word of what is being said when starting, listening to the radio is always a great way to pick up pronunciation. after a while as you get better you’ll start recognizing words and sentences, and you start understanding more and more. listening to the radio is also good as you get to hear how native speakers actually talk, including slang, idioms, buffer noises and other things
listening to music
- listening to music works in the same way as listening to the radio, but is often a lot more fun! you learn the pronunciation and can sing along. disney songs are usually quite simple and offer written lyrics, so i’d say that’s a good way to start!
reading:
reading is one of the most important things to do when learning a language, and has the added benefit of learning about the culture of the language if you read literature from that country (which i recommend you do). i recommend starting with children’s books and cartoons and then moving on to more advanced literature the better you get. you can go about reading in your target language in two ways
- reading continuously without pausing and trying to understand the words you don’t know based on the context. it’s also good to go back and reread, if you do this chances are you’ll pick up things that you didn’t understand the first time
- pausing and looking up every word you don’t recognize. doing this won’t really increase your ability to read in your target language, but it can be a good way to build up a vocabulary
writing:
writing a diary
writing in your target language is a good way to learn to think in your target language and to use it naturally. i write a diary in french every day, and it’s been incredibly rewarding! but make sure this isn’t your only source, as that could make your language sound quite alien and unnatural. i made a more detailed post about the benefits of writing a diary in your target language which you can find here x
chatting online
chatting with native speakers online is a good complement to writing a diary. it has the same effects of learning to think in the language and using it daily, but when chatting with someone else you’ll be corrected, which stops you from developing bad and unnatural habits in your target language. you’ll also see how the native speakers use the language and which formulations they use. there are two apps, that i know about, designed to let you talk to native speakers
- HelloTalk
- Tandem
they both work pretty much the same, you enter your native language and other languages that you may speak fluently, and which language you’d like to learn. then you’ll be matched with people who want to learn your language and who speaks the language that you want to learn
talking:
talking is the most essential, and hardest part of learning a language. i practice talking by repeating words from Duolingo and Babbel and reading out loud from books. if you’re using Tandem or HelloTalk you can also video chat and send audio messages back and forth. there’s always the classic way of practicing by talking in the shower or with your pet! the best way to learn how to speak in your target language though would be to go to the country where the language is spoken
i think the most important thing to think about when starting a new language is to emerge yourself in it as much as you possibly can, and making the language a natural part of your day
Favourite French Movies/Songs
For French learners who want to immerse themselves in the language
This is a collection of what’s on my French music playlist and a few of my favourite French movies. There’s a wide variety so hopefully you’ll find something that you like too!
MUSIC
(Hip Hop/House/Electronic) Stromae – Alors on Danse – Ave Cesaria – Papaoutai
(Reggae/R&B) Keen’v – Rien qu’une fois
(R&B/Rap) La Fouine ft. Zaho – Ma Meilleure
(Pop) Magic System – Magic In The Air (There’s French lyrics despite the title)
Honorable Mentions:
(Dance-pop) Kendji Girac – Andalouse
MOVIES
Nous trois ou rien (2015)
If you only watch one of the films on this list, please watch this one. It’s the most recent one that I’ve seen but I can’t even describe how much I love this movie. Best French movie I’ve ever watched.
Le Premier Jour du reste de ta vie (2008)
Really nice movie about a French family.
Les Intouchables (2011)
This movie is so popular and well known but it’s great and definitely not overrated. Most French learners have probably seen it, but if you haven’t I would highly recommend it.
La Haine (1995)
This is an older film compared to the others on this list but it’s a classic. It is a lot darker than the other movies, though, so if you’re into more light hearted/comedic films then then skip this one.
Sorry that this list is so short but here is a great masterpost with a lot more movie suggestions
Lesser seen french tips
These are a few things that i think might be relevant to language learners that i don’t think I’ve seen on langblr! At the end of the day it’s whatever works for you, but i hope these might be helpful 💙
🗼pouvoir, vouloir and aller (to be able, to want and to go) are really useful verbs to learn confidently. If you want to use a verb you don’t know how to conjugate, you can often follow one of these verbs conjugated with the infinitive to express something similar. It’s always better that than guessing a conjugation!
🗼watch videos of french people speaking english! Most french people will still impose a little bit of french pronunciation even while speaking really good english, and this highlights french pronunciation that you wouldn’t notice in a person speaking fluent french.
🗼for me, reading simple YA novels written originally in french is actually more beneficial than translated english books that I’m familiar with. This will prevent you from reading by assumption/context/memory. Also, french books tend to be more culturally relevant, and include phrasing and idioms that are more typically french.
🗼contradiction of my last point, but try watching shows originally in your native language with french audio and subtitles. For some reason, it’s far easier for me to understand and i know many people struggle with listening to french. Netflix often has the option of picking the language of your show, i would highly recommend this if you struggle to understand french films/shows.
🗼quizlet is the most effective method of learning vocab I’ve found! For me, writing out flashcards takes a long time, and typing in the answers solidifies spelling better than just repeating the words.
🗼if you’re someone who struggles with pronunciation, some people find it helpful to have someone who doesn’t speak the language read aloud in it, as it highlights typical errors that a speaker of your language will make (and will probably make you feel good about yourself lbh)
🗼practise just speaking aimlessly in the language, be it to yourself, your pet, or even just while thinking. It’ll help you practise coming up with things to say on the spot, and when you screech to a halt because you don’t know how to express something, you’ll know what vocab it’ll be useful for you to learn next.
In honor of the new year, here is my simple tutorial for setting up and maintaining a language journal. I’ve made 3 so far using this method for spanish, french, and italian because it’s so simple. Disfruta y espero que logres sus metas de lengua este año! <3
What You’ll Need:
- composition book
- highlighters
- flashcard(s)
- black ink pen
yall know what we need? more fantasy stories depicting dark skinned royals. like in the full get-up too. im talking big white wigs, huge gowns, carved manors, everything. i mean look
its just beautiful?? look at the potiental?? her frizzy afro white whig?? what irony, what a look. this is what we need