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ATTENTION ALL GIRLS AND LADIES: if you walk from home, school, office or anywhere and you are alone and you come across a little boy crying holding a piece of paper with an address on it, DO NOT TAKE HIM THERE! take him straight to the police station for this is the new 'gang' way of rape. The incident is getting worse. Warn your families. Reblog this so this message can get accross to everyone.

I will always reblog things like this, it won’t ruin your blog or the look of it, and this could potentially save a life.

PLEASE reblog this.

I have reblogged this about three times now and I will never not reblog it

i actually heard of this happening in atlanta not that long ago. that shit is terrifying as hell.

idc if it may ruin my blog look or whatever, if it means word gets out about these bastards then imma reblog x1000

Why are people so insane?

THIS IS TERRIFYING AS FUCK NEVER PASS THIS BY

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Wrecka stow 😂💀

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“Is there one conversation you had together that’s stuck with you? One time we were in his room, and he turned, looked at me and said – out of the blue – ‘you know, everyone loves you and everyone likes you. Not everyone can say that or experience that.’ And right then, I just felt truly blessed [pauses]. You know, our lives started a long time ago. When I first met him, I was already pretty famous. He’d been following my career for a long time. We really challenged each other. When you reflect on your relationship – as friends, collaborators, lovers – what did you learn? The learning experience is really about forgiveness. That’s the only way you’re gonna be able to live your life. And it’s a hard thing. About a year or two after we broke up and hadn’t spoken, I went to Paisley. This is when he was doing Batman. He was having a party and everyone was like, ‘how are you gonna go to the party, you guys haven’t talked,’ and I said ‘It’s fine.’ I felt like it was fine. I was like, no we’re good. I just felt it. So I walked into the building and I saw him. He looked at me, I looked at him and we fell in love all over again. It was forgiveness. It was more important to love him as a friend. People do say, you want to marry your best friend – and he was my best friend. But I also loved him enough to let him go, and that was hard. It was very hard, like I said, it was like a divorce. It felt like I lost someone deeply. It was hard for him too, it was horrible. It was a horrible time for him. [Pauses]. We had a great life together, we really did, good and bad, the ups and the downs, there were a lot of downs too. But at one point I told him, ‘I’m not here to play your music to get paid because it’s money, money has nothing to do with it, I’m here because I love you. I don’t care about your money.’ So I told him to stop paying me when we were out on tour. That really upset him. That was during the Lovesexy Tour. And that was when – That’s when I knew I was gonna leave, that was about '88, '89. Did the fact that you and Prince were diverging musically have an impact on your personal relationship? It was both, it was music and it was personal. I want to enjoy what I’m doing. I work really hard and I love playing with people. And 90 percent of playing with an artist or in a band or being a part of a project is the hang. The other 10 percent is when you finally get to go onstage and do what you do. So if the hang isn’t good, then why be there? I don’t care about the money, I never did. I’d be there because I love the music, I love the hang, and we all get along. But just to be there because it’s a paycheck? I didn’t want to be in that position, so I chose to leave. On the personal side, we started growing apart. And he started seeing other people while I was there playing in the band. That was very hurtful, very hard. Back when you met, Prince pursued you, right? Oh yeah, big time [laughs]. He pursued me for a long time. Was it that you weren’t attracted? Oh yes I was! Are you kidding? No, oh my God. The first time we saw each other, we looked at each other like… He was beautiful, and he was talented. I had this thing for guitar players, I had just gotten out of another relationship with a guitar player, and I was like 'not another musician.’ I kept saying no [to Prince], but it was hard. After a while it was just like 'okay, well maybe.’ And that was it. He wooed me very well [laughs]. What did he do? He did so many beautiful things. During the Lionel Richie tour in 1982, he sent me flowers at every place, every single day. Whatever city we were in, there were beautiful arrangements of flowers from [Prince] the entire tour. The entire tour! I couldn’t bring anymore flowers on the bus. There were some I couldn’t even lift! Each arrangement one was different. There was nowhere to put them, so I started giving them away to either shelters or the housekeepers, because I couldn’t take them anymore, there was no room on the bus. It was a lot – and I loved it [laughs]. He knew how to get me. And every arrangement came with a card from him. Do you still have them? I kept every single card.”

— Sheila E. Rolling Stone, June 7, 2017 (via neonrendezvous)

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To commemorate the legacy that María Félix has left behind on her 100th Anniversary, we have gathered one hundred of her best quotes. Which one is your favorite?

1. “I don’t think I’m the Queen Bee… I am the Queen Bee.”

2. “I might be one more woman in your life, but you are one less man in mine.”

3. “I have never judged lesbians and gays. What they do from the waist down it’s their business, not mine.”

4. “Leave the dead in peace, the ones inside can’t get out and the ones that are out don’t want to go in.”

5. “Money doesn’t give you happiness, but it does help calm ones nerves.”

6. “It’s not enough to be pretty, you need to know how to be pretty.”

7. “I am a woman with a heart of a man.”

8. “I have been too busy living my life, that I have not had time to count,” when asked about her age.

9. “My job has been to be attractive.”

10. “My enemies are many and bad; my friends are few and good.”

11. “Don’t give me advice, I can make my own mistakes.”

12. “The stars of today don’t have the star power and actresses of today are disposable, models that don’t even know how to speak.”

13. “An original woman is not someone that doesn’t imitate someone, but the one that nobody can imitate.”

14. “Money is not happiness, but it’s better to cry in a Ferrari.”

15. “Nobody impresses me with a price, but with the results.”

16. “Talking about myself is difficult, to talk about myself is severe, because I am better than what I appear to be..”

17. “People with no ambition never get out of the hole.”

18. “I don’t like help, when I ask for it, you can help me.”

19. “Obviously I have a soul, just because someone as blind as you can’t see it, doesn’t mean I don’t have one.”

20. “Diva is something invented, but I was not fabricated, life made me and made me very well.”

21. “Women will never be like men, even though some men have a women’s heart.”

22. “In life I believe that success is inferior to a celebrity.”

23. “Success can be reached by many people, celebrity touches you and is with you forever.”

24. “Some friends tell me that pearls make people cry. The only pearls that make me cry are the fake ones.”

25. “I only have a bad memory of you, and a great residence.”

26. “You don’t need to be perfect, as long as you don’t make any mistakes.”

27. “The best way to love someone is to accept them how they are, that is what I do with Antoine, it’s not easy, but to only love idiots is easy.”

28. “If all the men were as ugly as you, I would be a lesbian,” she said when a reporter asked if she was a lesbian.

29. “Hair to women is a medium to express ourselves, it’s not true that with black hair women show their arrogance and disdain.”

30. “Beauty gives you everything, but it is not everything.”

31. “You don’t investigate an actress, you invent [something about them].”

32. “To think about existence doesn’t make what doesn’t exist, exist.”

33. “The metro in Mexico City is mine, my husband Alex Berger gave it to me.”

34. “Other’s have seen less and paid more,” was her reply when asked why she left a performance mid-show.

35. “Since the beginning of time, men have taken the best part of the cake.”

36. “Flowers are a bad business, they last for a day and you need to thank them for a month.”

37. “It is fundamental to learn the power of imagination.”

38. “A woman is very complicated and difficult; it is a labyrinth where anybody can get lost easily.”

39. “Nobody seduces me, I seduce them.”

40. “They say that men should have initiative, but in my life I’ve taken it.”

41. “Women like to kiss like men… Do business like men… And to be treated like men, but I don’t think they are correct.”

42. “Women have a place in life and when they try to act like men they look fatal.”

43. “The dirt is very close to the poor.”

44. “All of us should sweep and clean… The same way we clean the city we should clean ourselves because we are very filthy lately.”

45. “Many times I shut my dad’s mouth, why wouldn’t I tell a priest to be quiet,” she said about the time the father was sidetracked talking about the Apostles during her son’s funeral.

46. “Don’t hope for the future, when the present is not safe either.”

47. “Jealousy are the children of love, however they are bastards.”

48. “For many years, Paris and I have a passionate romance.”

49. “The most important word in the dictionary is ‘love.’”

50. “Try to go over me and you will know who I am.”

51. “Stupid people are not the problem, but stupid people that also have initiative.”

52. “Whomever has not suffered from love, doesn’t know how to love.”

53. “A mirror never lies.”

54. “We should only cry for a man three days… On the fourth, you put on heels and new clothes.”

55. “I am not nostalgic and I don’t like to think about the past, but I have unbearable memory.”

56. “I always say what I think and that has caused dislike in me.”

57. “I am not used to lying, not even to defend myself.”

58. “When I was little my mother always said to me, 'First number one than number two.’”

59. “If someone is young inside, that naturally reflects in the exterior beauty.”

60. “My selfishness has consisted in rejecting movies, friendships, marriage proposals that weren’t in my best interest. That is why we need to have cold blood take over our feelings.”

61. “I have never gotten drunk because it looks like I am drunk all the time.”

62. “Better to cause envy than pity.”

63. “Getting married so a man can buy me stockings is horrible.”

64. “Within my battles I don’t mention success because that didn’t cost me anything, although I have fought to not believe it.”

65. “With the lights off, the voice is what touches you.”

66. “I have an infinite admiration for intelligent men.”

67. “From a man I expect flattery, promises, declarations of love. What I don’t expect is for them to shine at my expense.”

68. “My first and only birth was horrible, a true massacre. No human deserves such pain.”

69. “I have never loved someone as much as they have loved me.”

70. “The worst enemy I have conquered was depression because it was inside me. It was a battle between the mind and the heart.”

71. “I can have my desires and capriciousness without affecting anybody, but the desires of a President can ruin a whole country.”

72. “The quality has been lost,” when talking about men now.

73. “I’ve always had a beautiful man’s voice.”

74. “I don’t have a voice [to sing] but I have a good style.”

75. “Stupidity is contagious.”

76. “What do you want me to do? I can’t be ugly.”

77. “If you are just as hated as admired, you are beautiful, get used to it; there are some that are only hated and they die to be admired.”

78. “Fight for a man? Why? There are too many!”

79. “Women don’t know how to drive cars because they are made to drive men.”

80. “I have been a winner everywhere that I go. I have always liked to win and it’s not easy to win in a foreign country.”

81. “If I thought all day about everything that has been said about since I could reason, I would be unhappy.”

82. “The only job that I’ve had had in life has been to learn because I started without knowing anything.”

83. “If you hang with fools, you will be saying foolish things later.”

84. “Everyone wants to know about me, even my enemies.”

85. “This is a man’s world, made for and by men. What surprises me nowadays is that women allow themselves to be abused… Dummies!”

86. “I’ve been very much abused.. mistreated, thrown from the stairs, pinched, everything… but in the movies.”

87. “A ring can’t buy my kisses. I give them when I want.”

88. “I think that he knew he was sick and he wanted to have a great year,” María Félix on Jorge Negrete’s death a year after they married.

89. “I love my country and I’ve wanted to represent it with dignity worldwide.”

90. “With so many interests in life I never get bored. That is my beauty secret, the curiosity and the joy for life.”

91. “I always have a book close by, because reading is the mental gym.”

92. “People console themselves thinking that if are not doing well here, they will have a good time in paradise. I would like for people to enjoy life, just in case there isn’t another.”

93. “A bed is a divine piece of furniture where people can’t hide who they are.”

94. “In movies and in life, to seduce is more important than to be liked.”

95. Negrete once asked her, “Who did you sleep with to get the starring role.” María Félix replied, “You have more time in the business, you should know who you need to sleep with to become a star.”

96. “Beauty is a concept forged by everyone else. They value you or disregard you, they protect you or destroy you.”

97. “Sexy is a man that one wants to make love to when you see him dressed.”

98. “I only have one message for women of my country and the world: I hope you love yourself as much as I loved myself.”

99. “My great satisfaction is to have done everything that I wanted and made them happen, not just in dreams.”

100. “Everyone will remember me being who I am, what I was and what I will be.”

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self-indulgent rambling about the same topic #37337: okay but how about an au where these two always meet in any universe, no matter what because 1) i’m cheesy and i love reincarnation/multiverse aus and 2) “I will always come find you. Always.”

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This song was for his ex Carmen Electra who cheated on him while in her hometown. He put her in a room and played this and when it was over, he sent her back home on a plane to LA. But its One of my favorites. Just in honor of me missing him. This song still gives me chills.

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“Elie Wiesel was one of the great moral voices of our time, and in many ways, the conscience of the world. Tonight, Michelle and I join people across the United States, Israel and around the globe in mourning the loss and celebrating the life of a truly remarkable human being. Like millions of admirers, I first came to know Elie through his account of the horror he endured during the Holocaust simply because he was Jewish. But I was also honored and deeply humbled to call him a dear friend. I’m especially grateful for all the moments we shared and our talks together, which ranged from the meaning of friendship to our shared commitment to the State of Israel.

Elie was not just the world’s most prominent Holocaust survivor, he was a living memorial. After we walked together among the barbed wire and guard towers of Buchenwald where he was held as a teenager and where his father perished, Elie spoke words I’ve never forgotten—"Memory has become a sacred duty of all people of goodwill.“ Upholding that sacred duty was the purpose of Elie’s life. Along with his beloved wife Marion and the foundation that bears his name, he raised his voice, not just against anti-Semitism, but against hatred, bigotry and intolerance in all its forms. He implored each of us, as nations and as human beings, to do the same, to see ourselves in each other and to make real that pledge of ‘never again.’

At the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum that he helped create, you can see his words—’for the dead and the living, we must bear witness.’ But Elie did more than just bear witness, he acted. As a writer, a speaker, an activist, and a thinker, he was one of those people who changed the world more as a citizen of the world than those who hold office or traditional positions of power. His life, and the power of his example, urges us to be better. In the face of evil, we must summon our capacity for good. In the face of hate, we must love. In the face of cruelty, we must live with empathy and compassion. We must never be bystanders to injustice or indifferent to suffering. Just imagine the peace and justice that would be possible in our world if we all lived a little more like Elie Wiesel.

At the end of our visit to Buchenwald, Elie said that after all that he and the other survivors had endured, ‘we had the right to give up on humanity.’ But he said, ‘we rejected that possibility…we said, no, we must continue believing in a future.’ Tonight, we give thanks that Elie never gave up on humanity and on the progress that is possible when we treat one another with dignity and respect. Our thoughts are with Marion, their son Shlomo Elisha, his stepdaughter Jennifer and his grandchildren whom we thank for sharing Elie with the world. May God bless the memory of Elie Wiesel, and may his soul be bound up in the bond of eternal life.” —President Obama on the passing of Elie Wiesel

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Oresama, Oresama, Oresama, Oresama, Oresama, Oresama, Oresama… TSUNDERE.

Keith, sweetheart, it’s cute that you try to be an oresama, but let’s face it, you’re a tsundere through and through.

The Who Do You Think I Am Squad 😂

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Michael Jackson being humilated in interviews

Other questions Michael Jackson was repeatedly asked throughout his life includes:

“Are you gay?” “Do you want to be a woman?” “Do you have sex with your wife?” “Did you have sex with your wife to concieve your children?” “Are your children biologically yours?” “Has anything sexually ever happened between you and children?” “Do you want to be white?” “How many cosmetic surgeries have you had?” “How many nose jobs have you had?” “Can you breathe through your nose?”

And the list goes on.

Every single day on this website I see people getting up in arms over something someone said or wrote about various celebrities, but let’s face it no one was ever treated worse by the media as well as by the public than Michael Jackson was. Yet there is absolutely zero outrage against the treatment of Michael Jackson except from Michael’s own fans themselves. 

Why are people not outraged over how he was constantly humilated, ridiculed and demeaned? Why are only Michael’s fans coming to his defense? Why are the people here on Tumblr who get upset about every fucking thing not upset over this? Is it because it’s okay to treat Michael Jackson like he isn’t even human?

It doesn’t matter that some of it took place many years ago, because I assure you that Michael Jackson still to this very day is being humilated, ridiculed and demeaned on a daily basis.  You all wanna get angry over who tweeted what about who, but you don’t give a shit that a fellow human being had his reputation and entire life completely destroyed by the treatment he suffered from others. 

Had it been any other celebrity who had been treated the way Michael Jackson was this website would explode with people raging over it and demanding justice and screaming for proper treatment of that person, but because it’s Michael Jackson you don’t care, because it’s okay to treat him like trash. After all, it always has been, right? It’s the truth and you all know it. 

Perspective.  <drops mic>

TRUTH!

PREACH THE GOOD WORD FROM OUR LORD AND SAVIOR

*church stomps*

Had to reblog this again. This post holds nothing but truth. The treatment that Michael Jackson received, and still receives to this day, proves that people don’t do things unless it’s popular. If there were a lot of people who are considered popular defending Michael, I guarantee you everyone would hop on the bandwagon. People made him seem like everything but human for such a long time, and no one seems to care. It truly is one of the most frustrating things ever, and I hope someday people care enough to learn the truth. It honestly isn’t that difficult to NOT be ignorant.

AGAIN AND AGAIN I WILL REBLOG THIS UNTIL JUSTICE IS SERVED 

People believe the sources Michael hated. The tabloids and the paparazzi. I’ve watched interview after interview and continue to shake my head at the things Michael was accused of. The media is a brainwashing machine. People believe what’s printed whether it’s true or not. Ultimately that kind of publicity broke his heart and broke him down. It was humiliating and frustrating to him. “Leave me alone”, “They don’t care about us”, “Is it scary”, “Tabloid Junky”, “Scream”, “Jam” and others clearly resonates that message. I continue to see racism and bigotry cross my dash path every single day. Our society, as we once knew it, is dead.

One more bit of important information: If you haven’t watched Martin Bashir’s interviews, take some time and watch them. They are lengthy but worth it. Then watch this: https://youtu.be/NLGjaxWv20s Martin Bashir’s interviews were particularly damning to Michael’s reputation but Michael trusted him. https://youtu.be/afQ4BUmQF-I I will never forgive this man.

So true. NO one has been more disrespected than Michael.

Preach.

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Anxiety never sleeps.

-Yours Truly

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DO IT NOW: Guide to Proper Bra Fit and Measuring because Victoria Secret and La Senza and whatever are full of shit and you are definitely wearing the wrong size ok? ok

Hi guys I’m obsessed with this shit lately because I don’t want anyone to have unhappy, unsupported boobs like I did. Even if you think your boobs and bras are fine, try it. It will make a big difference in comfort, support, and shape, even if you have small boobs or big boobs. A proper fitting bra can fix back, shoulder, and neck pain, along with breast soreness - and it can help you look 10lbs lighter, and your breasts a hell of a lot perkier. This guide also works for proper-sized bikinis and bathing suits (many online stores linked to below sell both- sometimes for as low as 10$!)

Don’t just like this, REBLOG IT. EVERYBODY WITH BOOBS DESERVES A PROPER FIT. Even if you don’t wear bras yourself, spread it around to tumblr or with your friends or family.

Grab a soft tape measurer (use inches) and get nekkid - don’t wear a bra or shirt please, you don’t wear a bra or shirt underneath your bra, do you? This part is fast and easy, and will help you find your ‘Starting Point’ bra size - you may not end up in this exact size, but it will get you in the right ballpark.

How to Measure:

  • Measure your underbust - go right underneath the root of your breasts, but make sure the tape is straight/parallel to the floor. Take a firm, snug measurement - if you have chub, take it tighter.
  • Measure your bust bent over - bend forward so your back is parallel to the  floor and your boobs are hanging so you have access to all that beautiful breast tissue that is now brought forward. Measure very loosely around the nipples, keeping tape straight/horizontal/perpendicular to the floor.
  • If your breasts are kind of empty and/or have a lot of sag, this method may overestimate your cup size. Instead, take your bust measurement bent over, standing, and lying flat on your back, and take an average of those three measurements and use that for your calculations.

How to Use These Measurements to find your ‘Starting Size’:

  • Round up your underbust measurement to the nearest even number. If you are only half an inch or less away from being a lower size, use that instead (unless you have a bony ribcage). This is automatically your band size. No BS. There is no adding imaginary inches here.
  • The difference between your underbust measurement and your bust measurement dictates your cup size. Every 1 inch in difference represents a cup size, so 1 inch = A, 2 = B, 3 = C, 4 = D. As you can see here, a true D or DD cup is actually pretty fucking small. 
  • CUP SIZES ARE NOT STANDARD, UNLIKE COMMONLY THOUGHT (AND TOLD TO US BY ASSHOLES LIKE VS). They are TOTALLY relative to band size. The cup on a 30D has 4 inches less volume than the cup on a 34D. A 30D is actually the same cup size as a 34B! 
  • No one has their shit together on the lettering for each cup size, so here’s a handy dandy chart. Remember to go with UK measurement as they somewhat have their shit together (and because American companies do not make much above DD, so there’s literally no point in knowing it, but the European sizing may come in handy)
  • I DON’T CARE IF YOU LIVE IN THE USA, DO NOT USE THE AMERICAN MEASUREMENTS, FFS. YOU’LL ONLY MAKE THINGS HARDER AND MORE CONFUSING FOR YOURSELF. ANY BOUTIQUE IN NORTH AMERICA WORTH GOING TO, AND 99% OF ONLINE STORES, IS GOING TO SELL PRIMARILY BRITISH OR EUROPEAN BRANDS AND WILL GO BY THEIR SIZING. THERE IS LITERALLY NO POINT IN KNOWING AMERICAN SIZING
  • DO NOT USE AMERICAN SIZING
  • DO NOT USE AMERICAN FUCKING SIZING
  • EVEN IF YOU ARE AMERICAN
  • AND LIVE IN THE US
  • USE THE BRITISH SIZING
  • For example, I have a 29.5 inch underbust and a 38 inch bust when bent over. So, I should take a 30 band and then there’s an 8 inch difference. So I am a 30FF in UK sizing. This is just my starting point when looking for bras, and I may not always end up with this exact size
  • Do not pull the ‘omg no I’m not a G cup my boobs aren’t that big you’re more stupid that the idea of vegetable bread’ shit with me ok? You drank the Kool-Aid and now you need to piss it out. CUP SIZES ARE NOT STANDARD. A 34D IS BIGGER IN THE CUPS THAN A 30E. Here, take a look at a chart of cup volumes and see what I mean.
  • Also… not all ‘big cup’ bras are ugly and granny-like. Just check out brands like Freya or Gossard or Gorteks or Panache or Cleo! They are gorgeous!

Trying it on: What a proper fit is like

  • ALWAYS SCOOP AND SWOOP BEFORE ASSESSING WHETHER IT FITS OR NOT. What does this mean? This means bend over, hike up your bra so that it sits right under the root of your breasts. Then, start smooshing all your back fat and armpit rolls or any loose tissue thats underneath or to the side of the cup, INTO the cup. All that stuff is breast tissue that got pushed around from your shitty bras, no I am not bullshitting - after a few months of wearing better bras, many people end up having to get a bigger cup and sometimes even a smaller band too, as all the smooshed breast tissue migrates back to the boob, where it should be. Not kidding. So get everything in there and make sure the wire is positioned perfectly under your boobs. Then stand up and assess the fit. If it seemed to fit before scooping, it won’t fit now.
  • THIS IS JUST A STARTING POINT. Try on your starting size and work from there. You may need to go up or down a band size, or up or down many cup sizes. Not all brands or even models in that brand are made the same way, and the shape of your boobs also helps determine the size and fit, so don’t try on JUST the size you calculated, say “it doesn’t fit”, and then give up and go back to your 36Cs. You aren’t doing yourself any favours. If you don’t feel comfortable in your ‘starting point size’, go ahead and try a size up or down in bands and/or a size or two or even three up or down in cups as needed.
  • ALWAYS start on the loosest hook. If you need to start on the tightest hook, go down a band size. The point of hooks is simple - as your bra gets used, it gradually loses its elasticity and gets loose. So, you use your hooks to bring it in, and when you reach the last hook, well, be prepared to get rid of your bra in a few months (unless you invest in a band tightener like the Rixie Clip)
  • A proper fit means the bra band is straight and parallel to the floor. If it isn’t, and seems to be getting pulled up, its too big and isn’t supporting you. Get a smaller band. You shouldn’t be able to stretch it more than a couple inches off your back. It may feel tight at first, but bras do need ‘breaking in’ and you are used to wearing things that do not fit correctly, so give it a chance. Of course, it should not hurt either!
  • A proper fit means your bra straps are not digging in. 
  • A proper fit means the gore (the little centerpiece of the bra where the wires sort of meet) MUST tack/sit firmly against your chest. If it doesn’t, then the wires are not truly fully underneath your boobs and so are not giving you the proper support. 
  • A proper fit means your boobs must fit smoothly into the entire cup (after scooping and swooping). The wire should totally encase all your breast tissue (this includes armpit fat and stuff). There should be no empty space at the bottom or top of the cup. Your boobs should not be overflowing from the top of the cup. If there’s overflowing or uncontained tissue after scooping, or of it feels tight, get a bigger cup.
  • A proper fit means you should be able to lift your arms over your head and jump around without the band or underwire budging or exposing underboob.

Size Tweaks/Troubleshooting (make sure you scoop and swoop first):

  • The band feels tight: Is the gore tacking or not? If not, go up a cup size or two (or maybe even three or four). Even if the gore is tacking, try this first. The band may be tight because the cups are too small, so your boobs are stretching the band out too much to overcompensate for lack of cup depth, making it feel tighter. If after trying larger cups, it still feels uncomfortably tight, go up a band size (and down a cup size if the first size fit well in the cups - remember, cup is relative to band, a 32DD is the same in the cups as a 34D). Remember though that it takes a few days to break a bra in, so it may feel tight or perfect at first, and then comfortable or too loose later.
  • The band feels loose/band is riding up and not remaining parallel to the floor: Go down a band size (and up a cup size or two because blablah relativity). 
  • The gore is not tacking, but band is not tight: Band size is too big, or maybe fits just right - but the cups are too small. You know what to do.
  • Boobs spilling over: Go up a cup size. Check first though that the bottom of the cup is not empty, and hike it up if it is!
  • Empty space at bottom of cup: Hike that shit up so it gets right to the roots of your breasts. This may fix bulging/spillage. If you can’t get it higher, then you need a smaller cup or this make of bra is just not suited to your shape.
  • Empty space at top of cup: You need a smaller cup, or this shape of bra just does not suit you your breasts, especially if your breasts are not very full on top. Or you need to scoop and swoop!
  • Straps digging in: Loosen them. If your boobs suddenly sag, then the band is not supportive enough, and you need a tighter band.
  • Armpit rolls: Bigger cup and/or scoop and swoop that shit. The cut of bra may also just not be for you (for now anyway - your armpit rolls may migrate back into the boobs and disappear eventually!)
  • They don’t even make my size!!: If you’re in a 28-48 D-KK (UK sizing) cup, you will find your size online easily enough. however, if you have a smaller band than that or need smaller cups, they are hard to find - message me and I’ll try to help you with a solution!
  • So, for example, my starting size may be 30FF, but I may end up wearing a 28G or H if the band of that model is too loose and the gore not tacking. Or the band may be fine and I may need a bigger cup so I’ll get a 30G. Or The band may be good but the cups too big, so I’ll get a 30F or E. Or the band may be too small to be comfortable and I’ll wear a 32F or E (same cupsize-ish as 30FF!). 

 What Not to Do:

  • NEVER PUT YOUR BRA IN THE DRYER. AND PREFERABLY, WASH IT BY HAND. The heat and twisting ruins the elasticity of the bra and reduces its life! This is the best way to ruin bras, don’t do it.
  • Do not add 3 or 4 or 5 inches or whatever to your band measurement. That is BS that American companies use so that they don’t have to manufacture a larger range of sizes - they use it to fit you into their stock, not their stock onto you. The band will be too big and unsupportive. Those 4 inches they add to the band are 4 inches that should be in the cup size, so no wonder people think anything over DD should be huge.
  • Do not measure your ‘overbust’ cause really what the fuck does that have to do with how large you are underneath your boobs, come on
  • Do not do the above because 80% of the support comes from the band, which needs to be firm against you and not be sliding or moving around.Would you wear underwear 4 inches bigger than your hips? No, so why would you wear a bra band 4 inches bigger than your ribcage that gets pulled up and stuff and would fall off if not for the straps, while expecting it to support the boobies at the same time?
  • Do not go down a band size and then forget to go up a cup size or two. Again, cup sizes are not static. A 30FF is the same cup volume as a 32F or E. If you don’t do this, no shit the bra will fit badly or feel tight.
  • Do not go straight to Victoria’s Secret or La Senza or whatever, even if you are lucky enough to fit in their small range of sizes - they don’t seem to follow sizing very well. Still, try, by all means, but be aware that their bras may be odd compared to others.

 "But where do I get these Bras? I’ve never even seen these sizes!“

Luckily, the internet makes this shit really easy. Buying bras online is nearly always way cheaper, even with shipping, and even if coming from somewhere in Europe! But of course, its best to try on stuff first, to avoid the hassle of return shipping (even though its still not that expensive - just annoying). So what I advise is to find a store near you, try stuff on there, note down the Brand, Model, and Size, and then buy it online for up to a quarter of of the in-store price.

If you can’t find a store near you, online ordering is still extremely cheap, even with return shipping. Instead of getting a whole bunch of bras in only 1 size each, pick out a few models and order a few sizes of each. Ex: one with a bigger or smaller band if your measurements are close to needing a bigger or smaller band size, and then some up or down a couple cup sizes so you can compare the fit. When you have the perfect fit in one bra, it will be easier to go on Bratabase or r/ABraThatFits and have them suggest bras that give similar shape or suggest a different size to you as a model you’re interested in may run large or small.

So, Where to Find:

  • Note: You can find proper-sized bras as low as 10$ US online (particularly from ebay or brastop.com) and most average 30-45$.
  • List of Online Retailers from BustyResourcesWiki: A complete list of online retailers around da world. Many ship internationally so take a look at all of them (particularly the UK ones)
  • Ebay, Etsy, and Amazon all have bras inexpensively.
  • List of Offline Retailers from BustyResourcesWiki: List of chain-stores (not of privately owned stores)
  • If in Canada, look for a Change Lingerie near you to try on bras. Note that they only carry their own brand.
  • If in the USA, look for a Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack near you to try on bras. They carry all sorts of brands and have an online store as well (and also ship to Canada!)
  • Use a store locator from the webpage of a bra brand company to find non-chain, privately owned stores - if they have one of these brands, they’ll have others. Here’s the locator for Freya, Curvy Kate, FantasieChantelle, Panache, and Affinitas. There are more than just these of course.
  • If you are small in the band AND in the cup (under a D cup) look at the Little Bra Company.
  • Ask around on Bratabase or r/ABraThatFits for stores near you.
  • WOMAN, YOU HAVE THE INTERNET! GOOGLE! YELP!

WARNING: There are many chain stores (Nordstrom, Lane Bryant, Mark and Spencer, Change etc) that do bra fittings and have a good reputation. However, each store is different - some measure correctly, and some use the stupid VS method. Every store has a different team of employees and knowledge. DO NOT GO IN WITHOUT HAVING MEASURED YOURSELF FIRST, JUST IN CASE THEY ARE ONE OF THE BAD STORES. DO NOT TRUST ALL BRA FITTERS, EVEN IF SOMEONE RECOMMENDED THEM TO YOU. If your fitter gives you a measurement different from this one, be mentally prepared to have a difficult time getting them to help you find the right bra.

I had the fitter at Change help me, and when I mentioned that the gore did not tack, she said “Oh, the gore never touches the chest with these bras”. I was like HAHA NOPE BRING ME A LARGER CUP WOMAN. And lo and behold, 2 extra cup sizes later, the gore tacked (and my boobs stopped spilling out). She was very nice otherwise but if I hadn’t known better that could have been bad.

Resources:

  • r/ABraThatFits: forum for bras, they will help you with sizing, fitting, and finding the right model for your breast shape - they have links to a lot of resources, such as online stores, used bra listings, etc.
  • Busty Resources Wiki: Great resource for fitting tips, diagrams, explanations, styles.
  • Bra Band Project: an online gallery of what various sizes look like! Dump your disbelief!
  • List of Online Retailers: Online is MUCH cheaper and shipping is usually cheap too, even from Europe. Try bras in a store near you , pick out what you like, and order them online instead.
  • Bratabase: Database of bras, with user inputted measurements of each bra model in its size - bras may be marked the same size, but with this you can see which may have bigger or smaller bands or cups, or what style may suit what shape of breast, all of which helps find the perfect fit for you! 
  • Great Youtube Video on Bra Fitting: This is one of the few people on Youtube who knows their shit about bras. Great for the visuals to help you understand what a bad fit and proper fit look like.
  • Venusian Glow is a great bra blog - SO MUCH INFO. Suggests bras based on your boob shape amongst other things.
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How to Help Someone With Depression

Depression, while commonly heard and well known is not completely accepted as a real disorder. People experience lows or sadness from time to time. However, some people experience intensified sadness for longer periods of time. This can go on for months, weeks and even years without any apparent reason. Depression is more than just a low mood. It is a chronic psychological and physical disorder that affects how a person see themselves, how they see the world and how they function in their day to day lives.

While every case is unique and treatments vary, there are universal things you can try to help a friend or a loved one to facilitate their healing and recovery.

Here are 10 ways you can help someone with depression:

1. Recognize The Symptoms

Although depression is mostly invisible, there are some symptoms that are quite apparent. People with depression often feel fatigued and have trouble sleeping. They begin to lose interest in activities they once found pleasurable such as hobbies. Isolation soon follows at the same time their thinking and concentrating skills begin to diminish.

Depression isn’t just an occasional feeling of sadness or loneliness that people experience from time to time. Instead, a person with depression will……

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A Precursor to Trust

Sanada Nobuyuki/MC Fic Rated Teen for suggestive themes, mild food play and general yandere-ness. A oneshot of a character study of the latent yandere that is Sanada Nobuyuki.

I love Nobuyuki’s  first ES. The drinking bit was problematic, to say the least but for me, it was mitigated because the way his MC is written. I love her, she impresses me and therefore, you can say that this little fic here is mostly focusing on her and the dynamics between her and the manipulative lord she ended up marrying. I’m mixing up some elements from Shigezane/Nobuyuki’s ES. This will be dialogue heavy. Oh, and Nobuyuki is an unrepentant manipulative bastard here, hahaha. 

“I remember… it was just like this… that night,” she mumbled, pressing her face to his chest. “But I remember nothing else.”

Of course, she would not.

Their kiss then had started tentatively, with him taking advantage of catching a drop of amazake spilling out the corner of her mouth. Their kiss then was sweet with alcohol instead of fresh fruit.

Their kiss then had ended chastely with her falling asleep.

But he had made it appear like so much more. He had made it into a leverage to blackmail her into becoming his bride. He had claimed to have planted his seed in her. Then he had claimed her hand and her mother’s blessing.

“I took advantage of you.” I truly did.

“We’re drunk…” she mumbled into his chest.

“Yes, we were.” No, you were. I made you.

“Maybe, I took advantage of you…”

He chuckled. Because she had not.

“It’s true, isn’t it?” she looked at him, her eyes began to glaze with tears. “That’s what they’ve been saying.”

No.

His smile vanished. “Who told you that?”

She buried her face on his chest, refusing to say.

He enveloped her in his arms, and gently rocked her, soothing her.

“You shouldn’t listen to the servant’s idle chatter.” He would find these gossip-mongers and have them flogged and exiled.

“But.. But, Milord. Don’t you see? I could very well have done that. I could not remember a thing!” she sobbed. “A-and of course they would think of me so…I am a commoner weaseling my way to your bed and here I am named as your would-be wife like it was nothing! You don’t even know if I have your child inside of me.”

No. He did know. She could not have had his child inside her belly. Because he had never planted his seed in her.

Yet.

He planned to remedy that. And soon.

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Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

THIS IS IMPORTANT 

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. 

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DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT.

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Not only was he incredibly talented but he had sense of humor out of this world. Incredible. You just have to thank God for allowing us to borrow this angel for the time he was here. And I am beyond thankful for U Prince, Nothing compares 2 U 🕊💜