If I could write a letter to my 18 year old selfā¦..
āYou donāt need to purchase fancy guides or watch hours and hours of YouTube videos. You donāt need to have 13 degrees in psychology in order to understand yourself.
The main reasons why one fails at ālevelling upā are quite simple.
Lack of discipline.
Lack of accountability.
Not being able to manage time.
Not being able to say no to things in order to prioritise yourself.
Doing something you know you shouldnāt be doing, and yet, you do it anyway because FOMO.
How do you prevent the above from happening?
You have to be hard on yourself and listen to your rational instinct. When your intellectual side tells you that its best not to engage in a certain thing or not to be lazy about doing something, listen to that side. People always seem to know better but choose the easier path of not doing anything.
Itās your decision whether you want to look back at life and get upset with yourself for not having the willpower to do yourself justice. Or, you look back at yourself and thank your stars that you had the sense to start early.
Even if you donāt end up getting 100% of what you visualised, at least youāll respect yourself for sticking to your guns and doing what was best for you and your life.
Itās not about ego. Itās not about hustle culture. Itās about ending this cycle of misery and procrastination and constant justification of your mindlessly stupid actions.
Itās time for you to grow up and put in the goddamn effort, because no one else will. You canāt demand the best of the best when you have nothing to bring to the table.
Stop wasting your time with idiots who donāt share the same values as you. Start reading more again. Youāre not going to marry that guy youāre with and you know damn well that youāre going to leave him anyway - so just do it already. Stop the vicious cycle of breaking up and getting back.
Iām glad you enrolled in that university, even if you were a little nervous to leave home. Itās going to change you as a person. Absorb those experiences and realise that the world is not black and white.
Thereās much to learn from and youāre wasting your time watching brain-dead influencers on YouTube and instagram. Minimise your social media footprint. Go back to doing the things you loved, even if you feel that the whole world mocks you for it. They donāt. Nobody cares.ā
