dazai my girlfriend
“How amazing it is to find someone who wants to hear about all the things that go on in your head.”
— Nina LaCour
Franz Kafka
“I loved you in a way I wished someone would love me.”
— Mahmdou Darwish
Very Brief Guide to [tumblr], for Reddit refugees
Shit You Must Do Right Fucking Now:
- Change your profile picture, blog header, and title to something other than the defaults. Do it right now. You will be mistaken for a bot otherwise, and blocked.
- Go into Settings -> Dashboard, scroll down to Preferences, and turn off the options in the picture. This will get rid of most of the algorithmic stuff.
- Turn off Tumblr Live. You have to snooze it once every 7 days for some stupid reason. It's hosted through another company and will steal your data if you use it.
- Go to your blog settings (under the little person menu) and turn off these two settings:
- Turn off infinite scroll (lags the site) and turn on timestamps on posts, in the same menu as Preferences.
Basic Features of the Site:
- Reblogs drive the entire site. If you'd upvote something on Reddit, you'd reblog it on Tumblr. You can add text, images, or tags to a reblog, but you're not required to.
- The dashboard is the equivalent to your Reddit feed, and contains the posts of all the people you follow, with the newest at the top
- You can send an ask to someone, and it'll appear in their askbox for them to answer. You can receive them too, or turn off the settings if you don't want.
- Tags aren't actually used for finding stuff (search function is dogshit), but are more for categorizing. People also talk in tags. Because Tumblr is weird, you can't use quotation marks (") or commas in them without fucking it up
- You can filter both tags and phrases under Account Settings; doing this will put a filter over a post that contains them, which you'll have to click through to see the post itself. Useful for avoiding hate speech or blocking out annoying stuff
- You can make polls in posts. Here's one now.
- Likes are useless. They literally do fuck-all except send a notification to the OP.
Stuff Tumblr Does That Other Sites Don't:
- Very old posts (I'm talking from like 2012) often circulate on this site. There's no such thing as a post being "too old" to reblog
- Blocking is highly encouraged; you can block someone for any reason. Even for just being annoying.
- If you and someone else are following each other, you are mutuals. Mutuals are fucking awesome and are treasured like friends. Mutuals are a thing on other sites but Tumblr treats em differently.
- You can screenshot someone's tags if you like them and add them to a reblog. This is called "peer review"
- Sometimes someone will find a blog and go through it and like/reblog a bunch of posts. This is totally fine and not "creepy" like it is seen as on other sites.
- Tumblr jokes often rely on Continuing The Bit and a "yes, and?" attitude. Goncharov is probably the best example of this.
- We are fucking infested with bots. They will either have totally blank profiles or be filled with porn. Block and report on sight.
- Censorship is pretty lax here. I can say "I want to brutally stab Elon Musk to death and watch him bleed out in front of a crowd" and nobody gives a shit.
General Etiquette:
- Don't try to do epic clapbacks here, you'll probably just get laughed at or blocked. If someone is bugging you or spouting bigoted bullshit, block them.
- Reblog art!!! Artists often struggle to gain traction on here; reblogging will give them a boost.
- Not every reblog needs a comment or tag in it
- You can go all out with tagging your stuff to organize it, or you can just leave it all blank. Someone might ask "hey, can you tag these posts as [x]?" and you can decide if you want to do that or not. It's generally polite to oblige, but "no" is still reasonable.
- Avoid discourse like the plague. Filter it, block people who start it, scroll past it when you see it. Just don't get involved in it. Ever.
- Don't put fandom tags or jokes on someone's posts about serious matters or personal shit
- You're responsible for curating your own dashboard; if you complain about constantly seeing stuff you don't like, that's probably on you. Don't be afraid to unfollow.
- Follower count doesn't matter much here and you don't have to make yours known if you don't want to.
- Reblog, don't repost. Reblogging keeps the credit and doesn't "steal" engagement like Twitter retweets.
- If someone likes something a LOT, they might reblog it like 30 times in a row. This is normal
- Having a post blow up is actually kinda a bad thing, since it floods your notifications. There's a sort of in-joke about how having a big post is awful and people jokingly try to stop their own posts from blowing up, often in vain.
Tips:
- Get XKit Rewritten if you're on desktop, it's a really helpful extension
- In the little drop-down menu next to the 'Post now' button you can either save a draft, schedule a post, or add it to your queue. The queue lets you post things in order at a certain interval, which you can change. It's good for spreading stuff out over time.
- You can use Shift+R to quickly reblog stuff and Shift+Q to queue!
- Filter your notifications under Activity - you can also see some neat graphs
- Find each other! If you want your old Reddit communities to stick together, seek out other refugees and follow them.
Have fun on [tumblr], everyone!
I want to say something about never have I ever — btw possible spoilers ahead for season 4. I started watching the show a year after my father died, when I was fifteen, in front of my school and I was the one who found him while having a heart attack in our car, strangely enough like Devi’s dad to a point. I started the show, expecting nothing but a flick and in the first episode, I was already crying. Devi was everything to me — she was me in a sense. I followed her along year after year, every season crying my heart out at least once or twice because despite the boys and the “love triangle” the show was always about grief for me — about her dad and the dreams she shared with her dad. I stayed behind on going to college for a year and even thought Devi eventually did get off the waitlist and got into Princeton, that one moment when she was rejected from every single college she had applied to hit home to me. The moment when she talked about how it was the shared dream between she and her father — I felt that. My dad always wanted to be a doctor. He couldn’t because he had to struggle to keep his family together and support his brothers and sisters and later his wife aka my mum and so he became a teacher right after graduating high school when he was seventeen. He always told me he wanted me to be whatever I wanted to be but that he knew I would be a great doctor. When I didn’t get into med school that first year, I thought everything was over. After he died, I was diagnosed with depression and ADHD and I couldn’t afford a therapist or the medication and the medication that I did take for a while made me sleep walk through life so I stopped that and I was alone, in the pandemic, isolated with my friends all getting into too universities, living my dream life and I was stuck. And this show was there. Devi was there. Paxton and Ben made for the love life that I didn’t have (and still don’t lol) and those stories, all of them, got me through the year I stayed behind. I know it sounds dramatic but it’s true. I watched this last season while I’m in med school, procrastinating on studying for my physiology test and even though I still have no idea what I’m going to do, where I’m headed, I know that Devi and I shared a journey. I sobbed during the second half of the fourth season and for once, I didn’t care about the love interests (even though, I was team Ben from the beginning don’t come at me lol I love Paxton as well) and I just cared about her and her dad and everything she accomplished.
So I just wanted to say, I am super thankful for this show, I’m grateful for everything it gave me and with a heavy and yet strangely lighter heart I’m letting it go. Letting Devi go.
Thank you for these amazing four years, Devi! Thanks for being the brown girl I could see myself in :)
there is no way the last sex scene between ben and devi was that sensual, do yall even UNDERSTAND the absolute NUMBER of safety pins on a saree????
opens box that reads "i wanna draw again". inside lies a note. the note says, "mental illness and difficult circumstances have taken years of interest, accessibility, and skill away from me. i want to forgive myself for that. i want to heal my relationship to my hobbies. i want to feel connected to something that once made me feel good, but the cyclic discouragement is difficult to overcome." i turn over the note. on the back it reads "wannta drawe sexy bodies awooga"
Desi LGBT Fest 2023 (hosted by @desi-lgbt-fest)
Day 8 : The acceptance you hoped for vs the acceptance you got
Or rather the rejection I expected and the god level gaydar my mother beamed me with. I know I'm a pessimist at times but come on, anyone would be caught off guard
proof of concept // i think i'm gonna love you for a long long time
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