oc asks: relationships edition

Self: How is your OC's relationship with themself? Does your OC like who they are? Is there anything about themself that they would change?

Know: How well does your OC know themself—their wants, their goals, their motivations? Do they engage in any sort of self-reflection? Is there anything about themself they willfully ignore?

Care: How does your OC engage in self-care, if at all? If they don't, why not?

For Good: Is there anyone in your OC's life who had an undeniable positive impact on who they are as a person? How did knowing this person improve your OC's life?

For Bad: Is there anyone who had an undeniable negative impact on your OC’s life? How did your OC deal with that change? Have they been able to move on?

Intimacy: Is your OC the type of person to engage in long-term relationships, or are they more casual in their intimacy and affection? How do they feel about intimacy and relationships in general?

Family: What's your OC's family like? Is it a family of blood, choice, or something else? How does your OC feel about their blood relations? If they have a family of choice, how did they come together?

Mentor: Does your OC have a mentor? Have they ever reached out to anyone for guidance or teaching, or been taken under someone's wing? How does your OC get along with their mentor?

Friendship: What's your OC like as a friend? How are they at making new friends? What are the most important friendships in your OC's life?

Partner: Does your OC currently have a partner? Multiple partners? How did they meet, and what is that relationship like?

Companions: Is your OC part of an adventuring group? A band of travelers? A guild, a team, a crew? What's the group dynamic, and how does your OC feel about their companions?

Social Circle: What's your OC's social circle? Are they obligated to spend time with others in their circle, or are they happy to be there? Has their social standing and social circle ever changed, and if so, how did your OC feel about it?

Fate: Does your OC believe in destined meetings? True love, soulmates, hearing the bells? Have they ever experienced this?

Meet Strange: What's the most memorable way your OC has ever met a new person? Was it a good experience? Bad experience? Just plain weird? How's their relationship with that person now?

Past: Does your OC have any past partners? How did the relationship(s) end? Are any of their exes still in their life, and if so, do they get along?

Exit: Has your OC ever had someone important leave their life in a way that was unremarkable, unintentional, or clumsy? How do they feel about it? Is there any chance they'll meet again?

First: Has your OC ever been the one to leave first? Why did they go, and who did they leave behind? Do they regret it?

Loss: Is there anyone important to your OC who has passed away? How did they handle the loss?

Future: Is there anyone your OC is looking forward to meeting or to seeing again? Who? What might that meeting or reunion look like?

They're ready for mischief 👀

🧹🐺🧛‍♀️ Trick or Treat!⚡💀😈

Princess Fionna ❤️

More in my ghosties series! Anyone have any ideas for more? I’m obsessed

Prints of all these available on inprnt ✨✨🍁🍁

embroidery ghost 🧵

Tumblr Tuesday: Our Flag Means Fanart

OFMD fans, how we doing? To celebrate this season's high tides, here’s some art of our most beloved crew.

Avast, ye! Here be spoilers! We tried to be so restrained that it hurt a little bit, and then we gave up. If you’re caught up but haven’t yet checked out all the fanart, what are you doing may we gently nudge you in that direction. If you haven't been watching season 2, please enjoy it at your leisure, and only then return to this excellent array of art.

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I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

A really good host would actually provide a topic of conversation based on things you and the person they were introducing you to had in common.

At networking events I've gone to, where there's no host who knows everybody, good networkers pick up the slack. They go around the room once making just enough small talk to learn some useful info about a good portion of of the people in the room, and then circle back around and go, "Oh hey I was just talking to X over there and he's looking for someone who does Y for his next project; you should go talk to him." You can do something similar at parties, referring people to other people you made smalltalk with you have the same hobbies or like the same kind of movies.

To take a few steps back up the thread to the part about turning down future dates, the same goes for turning down shitty job offers.

"[Thank you for your interest]/[Thank you for thinking of me for this role], however I'm afraid [I have prior commitments]/[I'm not a good fit] at this time. I wish you the best of luck [finding the right fit for your company]/[with your startup endeavor]"

Delete or substitute more relevant lines as appropriate, but it's a polite way of saying "no" without feeling like you need to overexplain.

Increasingly, people -- millennials and younger, rarely anyone older -- will not get the hint about this and get pushy, fishing for extra information to let them work around the Polite No, which in previous generations would have been incredibly rude. It's still incredibly rude, at which point the polite response is, "Thank you, but I gave you my final answer. Best of luck!" no matter how many times they come back. Become a broken record until they go away.

I think the food's gone a bit off... 🍴🍚👻

Devious Dining, the third prompt for Drawtober!

Water regularly 💦🎃🌕

Moonlit Conservatory, the fourth prompt for Drawtober!

The Hunter / The Prowler / The Occultist / The Champion

4 character classes from The Hidden Isle.

Kickstarter ends in less than two weeks!

normalize zapping your ocs with the labray

(my neopets are already perfect so i refuse to actually change em but i got an ice hissi morphing potion from the faerie festival capsules and the thought of ice fonts.... i felt inspired)

Beware of the ghosts tonight 🎃

I’m loving Season 2 so far!

Since I have been drawing some of my witch characters to help celebrate October/The Spooky Month this year, I knew I had to draw some of the witches from my novel. This is the third drawing I've done so far(the other two are on different blogs), featuring Ren and Gaia~ 💧🌿💚

They are a swamp witch and green witch respectively. I knew I definitely wanted to either draw some or at least one of the witches from my novel, but I was stuck on who to choose till @littlechaoticwitch suggested I draw either Ren or Gaia! :3 Since witchcraft is super important to both their characters, and both are well established in their crafts. Went with multiple years in the future for this(where they are in their late twenties-early thirties), where they are married and living their best, happy lives together~ ^w^

I hope you guys enjoy! <3

Since it is October, I wanted to draw more of my witch characters(from all my different stories/universes) to help give off the spooky vibes~ :3 This is the second witch I have drawn(the first is on my @winxngasks blog) for the month, with this being Mai Small, a crystal and love witch~

So for Mai, she has always been a big nerd for fantasy stories and magic, and always found the witch aesthetic cool but never pursued it much throughout her life. Later as an adult and after she gets to know Callum more she becomes more interested in the idea of gaining her own magic, especially after seeing how own healing and fortune powers(though he is not a witch himself). Once she feels ready she goes to the Blacksons' witchcraft shop for some advice and tools to help her start her journey as a witch, and from there she starts to learn all sorts of new spells, with her beau by her side to support her. While always having a general interest in magic she ends up primarily studying in the fields of crystal and love magic. She studies crystals for their healing properties(which would allow her to work with Callum using their different forms of healing magic), and love magic because of her side work in match-making, though also familial love magic too due to her strong connection for her family and her love for children~ <3

I hope you enjoy! :D This one was super fun to draw, not only because Mai is so pretty(and the outfit she is wearing is based on this super cute one I found), but because I got to draw her in warmer colors for once which I think she pulls off fairly well~ ^w^

Since it is October, I wanted to draw more of my witch characters(from all my different stories/universes) to help give off the spooky vibes~ :3 The first witch I drew is from my main next-gen universe, Violet(daughter of Krystal and Roy, for those who don't remember)! The Witch of Emotion~

She was the one who stood out the most to me to draw, mostly because her design is still pretty solid and I want to redesign the other witches from this universe first. Decided to update her outfit slightly to fit more with the witch outfits from canon, mainly changing the cut of her shirt and pants(not super noticeable since her hands are covering it), giving her purplish-black, handless forearm gloves that connect around the middle fingers, a silver necklace with a "V" charm, and dangling, purple crystal earrings. Her makeup consists of black eyeshadow on the eyelids, lilac eyeshadow in a "flashy" design under the eyes, and black lipstick. Her boots are still silver and go just above the knees, with black soles and high-heels.

I hope you enjoy! ^w^

pumpkin patch 🎃

uncropped phone & tablet wallpaper sizes //  prints  

for anyone that doesn't know, i recently started school again! (that's why ive been so mia) so ill be posting class projects whenever i finish them,,, this was a figure drawing assignment :)