“Not at all. As you get older, you have your place; your confidence, your sensuality; it’s very powerful. Actually, The Good Wife is the perfect exploration of grown-up women who have dignity and authority. I think it’s a great contribution to female culture.”

• Stripping our intersex status when it fits an argument, ex. "Cis kids get put on hormones no problem while trans kids are denied them" (While they ignore that these are intersex children forced onto hormones)
• Using us when it does fit an argument, but ignoring us entirely outside of that context, ex. Using intersex people existing to validate trans people existing, but never doing any sort of intersex advocacy unless it directly benefits/includes trans people as well
• Erasing intersex issues while attempting to argue trans rights, ex. "No child is getting forced sex changes, that's not a thing that happens" (It doesn't happen to trans people, but happens all the time to intersex people)
• Saying that sex is binary but gender isn't (Neither of them are binary)
• Reducing intersex people down to cis people with disorders, ex. "Cis people without uteruses" or "Cis people with gynecomastia"
• In addition to the above point, generally acting as if intersex people are not oppressed or as though we have it better than trans people do, often by calling us cis and disordered rather than intersex, ex. "Cis women with high testosterone levels are allowed in sports but trans people aren't" (Which is not even really a true statement) or by wishing that they were intersex or openly admitting to calling themselves intersex in their personal life in an attempt to avoid discrimination
• Casual use of the word "Hermaphrodite"
• Calling intersex animals trans/nonbinary
• Ignoring blatant intersexism, never calling it out
• Calling bills/laws or other issues which directly impact intersex people "trans bills" instead of "trans and intersex bills", such as the recent Kansas bill directly targeting intersex people being called a "trans bill" - making these bills aiming to exterminate intersex people solely about trans people and ignoring the bills' direct attack on intersex people
• When these issues are brought up, saying that intersex people are "just caught in the crossfire/unfortunately affected by mistake but not intentionally, it's about trans people not intersex people"
• Saying that intersex people are not LGBT/queer (Not all intersex people identify as queer, but we have always been part of queer community and should not be pushed out)
• Reducing intersex people down to a statistic
• Common misinformation, such as saying that being intersex means "being born with both parts"
• Using afab and amab as equal to "perisex female" and "perisex male", ex. Talking as if all afabs are born with the same hormonal, genetic, or reproductive profiles

1. There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.
2. If someone tells you that "the way I'm acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway" is just fancy bullshit talk for, "I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don't want to be held responsible for it so I'm pushing it on you"
3. Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, "I don't want you talking about our relationship with anyone". This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That's easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren't there to cut in.
4. Nothing constructive comes from screaming.
5. "It's not like that all the time" is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn't be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don't erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don't minimize it.
6. It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying "no" to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone's reaction to your boundaries.
7. You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can't stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they're threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they're using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don't get to shunt that off on you.
8. There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you

@lgbtqcreators​ creator meme: [5/8] lgbtq+ celebs "I had to free my own mind of what, at that time, what I felt like masculine adrogynous energy looks like. I was living in my own binary, and I was like there's no way that I can be androgynous with bigger boobs now. How I feel inside is the thing that I needed to work through." — JANELLE MONÁE

“When they called my name, I had this feeling I could hear half of America going “Oh no. Oh come on, why? Her, again” You know… but, whatever! First I’m going to thank Don, because when you thank your husband at the end of the speech, they play ‘em out with the music and I want him to know that everything I value most in our lives, you’ve given me. And, now, secondly: my other partner. 37 years ago, my first play in New York City, I met the great hair stylist and make-up artist Roy Helland, and we’ve worked together pretty continuously since the day we clapped eyes on each other. His first film with me was “Sophie’s Choice”, and all the way up to tonight, when he won for his beautiful work in “The Iron Lady”, 30 years later. Every single movie in between. I just want to thank Roy, but also I want to thank, because I really understand I’ll never be up here again… I really want to thank all my colleagues, all my friends. I look at here and , you know, I see my life before my eyes. My old friends, my new friends. And really, this is such a great honour, but the thing that counts the most with me is the friendships, and the love, and the sheer joy we have shared making movies together. My friends, thank you! All of you, departed and here for, you know, this inexplicably wonderful career.  Thank you so much… thank you! - 84th Annual Academy Awards (2012).