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It’s coming out in the news today that a teacher raped their 13-year old student. That’s the truth of it.

But since the teacher is a woman, the media’s reporting it as “Engaged in a sexual relationship” and dudes all over the internet are congratulating the kid on getting laid. Some even express jealousy.

To reiterate: He is 13. He is under the age of consent. By textbook definition, this is sexual assault, because he legally cannot consent. It bears repeating.

You may have heard the term “Rape Culture”. It refers to a society that implicitly and indirectly cultivates the mentalities that result both in sexual assault happening and its not being punished properly when it happens.

In other words: This.

This is Rape Culture.

It’s the idea that men and boys cannot be victims. It is the idea that there are circumstances when minors can consent to adults regarding sex. It is romanticizing something that is irrefutably assault.

It is disgusting. It is wrong. And it is shameful.

Absolutely everyone that thinks this is a laughing matter is an embarrassment.

I’ve already seen posts on facebook about how people are impressed that he can “get laid with that haircut” He didn’t “get laid” he was targeted and assaulted by a pedophile. 

Women talk about rape and men shoot them down with “WHAT ABOUT MALE VICTIMS”, yet when there is an actual male victim? They’re CONGRATULATING him while it’s women stepping forward to say that this poor boy was absolutely 100% raped. So what is it, MRA types? What about the male victims?

what are your thoughts on ‘skinny shaming’?

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As someone who has been “thin-shamed” I can say it does Not at all go hand in hand with fat shaming. People “thin-shaming” me was mostly verbal harassment- you’re too skinny, you look like a boy, eat a fucking cheeseburger, what’s wrong with you why don’t you like food?

But guess what, I don’t have a problem finding clothes that fit me. There aren’t companies that refuse to make clothes for my size. There is no shortage of messages telling me that despite the harassment of some, I am still beautiful and ideal even if I’m unhealthy. Despite being thin-shamed, I still PANICKED when I started a medicine that made me gain weight, and I had to really analyze that, because no matter what my culture will still say that “fat is unideal” “fat is bad” and “honestly its fine to starve yourself / but shameful and bad to overeat.”

So “thin-shaming” is shitty because it’s shitty to be judged and have people make assumptions about you. But Fat-shaming is institutional, it’s not just individuals harassment and judgement, it’s potential jobs, it’s clothing companies, it’s media and advertisement, all telling you you’re bad as you are. Like what a way shittier thing.

This is the difference.

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Most people I know had that one movie as a kid; that one movie that they would watch over and over and over to the resigned acceptance of their parents. I’ve always thought that movie says something about a person. What was your movie?

Freddie the frog

I don’t think these people have ever seen an obese person before.

This character doesn’t look fat he looks like a wall of muscle

I feel like people don’t know why there’s a difference between body building contests and strongest man in the world competitions. 

for reference, Body builder:

Strongest man in the world contestant:

To elaberate:

Body Builders specifically build for looks, actual practicality, or real strength be damned.  

Strongmen just try and build as much functional muscle as they can with no regard to how it looks. That means huge masses of untoned muscle built for power and nothing but.

That’s old farmers and other people that have done hard labor for years to build up muscle tend to be bulky/fat and built like brick walls instead of chiseled and toned. 

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I love that he’s good and fat because a lot of people equate fat with evil, badness, greed, gluttony anyway it’s nice to see a strong god that’s fat that doesn’t represent greed or partying down like Dionysus and Bacchus

Yeah from an artists perspective he doesn’t have the proportions of an obese person but I just figured I’d stay in my lane

I just saw ghostbusters. I am literally sitting here stunned and amazed. There was not one fat joke. Not a single one. I was waiting in the theater braced the entire time for jokes towards Patty and Abigail for their size, and there wasn’t a single one.

…kind of in awe, honestly.

They also showed all the ladies eating in the movie. No jokes about eating and getting fat, just, women eating food. Messily. Not sexily. Like normal people. 

There was a scene with the table covered in pizza boxes after a long day. No jokes. Just, they had dinner together. Women … eating food … like normal people. Not to be sexy or make a fat joke. Because they’re humans who require food. 

take a look at this and realize how low the standard is for female representation in films

hey nerds,

despite the fear-mongering that happened this week, there will be an attempt to “reset” by the media, so as not to appear biased, because a horse race is good for ratings, and an attempt to make this look like “just another election,” or a choice between “the lesser of two evils.”

donald trump is not a normal candidate.

this is not just another election

this is not a choice between the lesser of two evils.

you cannot get away with voting a third party.

a book i have been thinking about, not to get all godwiny but, is ron rosenbaum’s explaining hitler. not only is ronny one of our best journalists/writers of long-form nonfiction (even though he’s kind of a crank), but it also goes a long way to explaining how these things appear normal, until they’re not normal. he talks a lot about the culture of germany at the time, about the media (including the brave folks in the poison kitchen that were calling adolf on his nonsense from a very early time), how there was a belief that the nazis were controllable (as we all know from oscar winning movie cabaret). all of it. and it also gets into how effective hitler was at playing everyone - the government, elements of the media, the people themselves.

everyone thought it was just another election, until it wasn’t.

one of the lingering things left over from the bush era and exacerbated by some actions obama has taken/been forced to take, is the increasing use of executive orders. bush signed 291. Obama’s up to 235. and yes, executive orders can be stayed by courts, but think about the kind of executive orders donald trump might sign. off the top of my head, he could sign an executive order saying that the u.s. government isn’t going to buy any product that sends job overseas. the whole government. think about what that might do.

and that’s not getting into the really terrifying stuff about donald trump, like the fact he loves vladimir putin, like the fact he’d tell nato to go fuck itself if they don’t pay up, like the fact he’s talked about loosening libel laws to make it easier for people (peter thiel cough) to sue publications they don’t like, like supreme court supreme court supreme court, like the fact he wants to put virulent homophobe and misogynist mike pence into power, like the fact like the fact…

i have spent a not insignificant portion of my life - since i was maybe a teenager - reading about and studying hate groups, militant organizations, this particular homegrown strain of american terror. i know what it looks like.

this is what it looks like.

as barry o might say, let me be clear. i am a pretty bleeding heart liberal and yes, i’m a straight white dude. if the purplest blue dog democrat in the senate were at the top of the democratic ticket, would i vote third party against donald trump? no. i would rather vote for that candidate against donald trump.

this isn’t about being a hillary supporter. this isn’t about being a trump supporter. this isn’t about left vs. right, conservative vs. liberal.

this is about democracy vs. totalitarianism.

voting third party, especially, especially, especially in the swing states, is a vote for totalitarianism. it’s saying your feelings about hillary clinton are so strong that you’d rather hand donald trump the nuclear codes and a pen to sign whatever executive order he thinks up that morning.

the media, the press, your friends and family will tell you in the coming weeks and months that this is just a normal election.

that trump won’t be that bad.

that paul ryan can keep him in check.

that he’s not really serious about nato.

this is not a normal election.

this really is the most important election of our lifetime. of our children’s lifetime.

but sure, go ahead, vote third party. vote to bring down the american experiment, this messy, beautiful country, this country that has come so far and still has such a long way to go, but has so easily turned towards madness before, and can so easily do so again. but that gary johnson! he’ll legalize pot!

ted cruz was right when he said “vote your conscience.” i think it’s because although he’s a craven son of a gun, he knows that someday, he’ll have to answer for it.

at the end of shattered glass, chuck lane (peter sarsgaard) says that “we’re all gonna have to answer for *what we let happen here.*”

in this election, we are all chuck lane. we are all the staff of the new republic.

we will all have to answer for what happens in november.

but sure. vote third party.

love,

me