so its just like a fetish...?
Y'all see what I mean when I say I get crap for it?
No! It is not a fetish! It's this neat term called gender nonconforming. Y'see I'm a female, I was born as a female, but my ideal self would have a dick and no tits. I've had plenty of people tell me I'm confused, that I'm just trans, but they're all wrong. I tried that, went through that gender exploration and it just wasn't me, I'm not a guy.
It's not a fetish to present the way I am, who I am. You wouldn't call a nonbinary person fetishistic for wearing a binder right? I have a packer, a binder, an stp, these are things that aren't strictly for trans folk and people need to start realizing that.
I always hear gender (and the way you present) is a spectrum but people really treat it as if there's only three viable options. Cis, nb, and trans, while dressing accordingly to each. Stray from the image people have in their mind and suddenly your transphobic, your fetishizing other people for being who you are.
Basically, just fucking let people choose their own gender and present how they want. You're a cis dude who wants tits? A vagina? Or go on E? Fucking go for it. You're a cis girl who wants a dick? Doesn't want breasts? Maybe you even want to go on T? More power to you.
Fuck the people who say you can't be your ideal self. Fuck the people who say your body represents your gender. After all you wouldn't say that to a trans person right? So why would you say it about anyone else's gender?
If I gotta fight a million anons, make a million posts for people to understand they don't have to stick to the three options society has made popular than I will.
If anyone wants to be shitty about this you can go through me first.
I hate that people call it transphobic to align this way, because, truthfully? What I see as transphobic is the insinuation that a flat chest and/or a penis is antithetical to femininity or womanhood. If you can't accept cis women that feel more comfortable with a flat chest, or having a penis, or whatever other instance of gender nonconformity you're gonna be shitty about, then not only is that real fucked up, but you're also a hair's breath from transmisogyny.
OP is absolutely right. People should be allowed to do whatever they want with their own bodies if it isn't harming anyone. That's just what bodily autonomy *is*.
Transphobia is an interesting term, because one of the core principals it revolves around is the destruction of bodily autonomy. So if you don't believe people like OP deserve that right to bodily autonomy, you're essentially stating that you only care about the fundamental bigotry that transphobia runs on if it has the "trans" prefix attached to it.
Leave people like OP alone.
When are we gonna get to the point where we stop looking for an "acceptable" queer target to bully? Cause this happened with bi people, then trans people, then pan people, then ace people, then aro people, then poly people, so on, so forth, and im sick of it.
I'm a non-op binary transgender man. I have a vagina! Given all the money in the world, I would still have a vagina. I'm a binary man who likes having a vagina. It's not a fetish, it's just a male vagina. Sometimes men have vaginas. Sometimes men *want* to have vaginas, and they are still men. Sometimes women *want* to have a penis, and they are still women. People should have access to whatever gender-affirming care that damn well pleases them.
This might be a hot take but also if it was a fetish, I don't think that should matter in the slightest. It's not like having a fetish is a big boogeyman that makes someone wrong. You can be trans or cis or kinky or vanilla or whatever about gender and it doesn't matter.
Like, this worry that something might be ‘a fetish’ is so ridiculous. Like, “Oh no! Someone might be getting pleasure out of this! Wouldn’t be a bad thing if someone enjoyed this in a sexy way? Can’t have that!”
Like, sexuality is such a massive source of human creativity and energy and power and connection and of course plain old fun. I honestly think part of why lgbtia+ movements are having such a hard time right now is because they’ve become afraid to tap that immense resource.
By awkwardly tiptoeing around sex, we’re holding back a part of ourselves that burns so brightly and is so versatile and so eager to be in community with others. We would feel our queer power so much more deeply if we allowed it to flow freely.
All this anti-sexuality shit it’s either barely concealed conservatism or cowardly people who are too chickenshit to have a queer movement that isn’t constantly apologizing for its existence.
