Unbetitelt

Super fucked up! wtf is wrong with these people?  #IamWithMili!

What is every little girl supposed to have long hair in a ponytail? So happy to see all of the support going her way.

Everybody remembers that we absolutely knew this would happen, right?

Like, trans people predicted this from the start. Everyone was SO SURE they could identify us on sight, and we said “If you run with that assumption you’re going face-first into a goddamn wall” and here we go.

It’s like people forget women with short hair exist.

In the six years that this has happened, Milli has continued to play soccer, is on track for joining a national team, and still keeps her hair short.

Read this and take it in.

Even if you have your papers.

Even if you are fortunate to have your gender match your sex.

Even if you were assigned feminine at birth.

They can still tell you to your face you’re not a woman if you don’t conform to a patriarchal standard of skinny Anglo with long hair.

They can just deny you for no reason at all.

THIS MAKES ALL THOSE SPORTS BANS LAWS USELESS AT PROTECTING CIS GIRLS! The very thing tbey were supposed to do!

Let’s get one thing right.

Sports bans, bathroom bans, ANY type of ban on trans people in public places were NEVER meant to protect cis girls or women or women’s sports or any of that crap.

They’re about control and forcing ALL people to conform to stereotypical gender norms and eradicating trans people in the process.

It’s (christo)fascism and genocide.

This won’t make your blog look ugly. How could you not reblog this? REBLOGGING THIS COULD SAVE A LIFE!!!

This goes for assholes, too, guys. I know a couple who went tubing once, and they had to re-air their tubes, but the guy thought it would be funny to stick the tip of the air compressor up to her bikini trunks, the air ruptured something inside her and she died within thirty minutes.

WHAT?

The thing about this? It’s in every pregnancy book I’ve read.

WHAT?????

Why is it in pregnancy books but not sex ed books?

Because the men in charge only care about the health and safety of women in so far as it enables them to have babies.

https://www.healthline.com/health/air-embolism#outlook

Reblogging with a link because I thought this was a legit joke. Never heard it before. Like I knew you could kill a person by inserting air into a vein but still.

WHAT THE FUCL I hate how I didn’t learn this in sex Ed AT ALL

This is very true lol

Yo what the f u c k

not the normal stuff i’d reblog but, uh, this is kinda??? heckin???? important?????

I feel like I first saw this in The Joy of Sex, but it’s definitely a thing.

What the fuck

i-

….thank you tumblr??

hm. 

I legit thought this was a shitpost until I saw the rest of the comments

I first saw this in The Joy of Sex, too.

Well I never

As a general rule of thumb, do not push air into any bodily orifice, regardless of gender. It never ends well. Air compressors and the human body do NOT mix.

Not even the mouth, shit can rupture a lung.

Jesus Murphy! Reblogging to hopefully save some lives!

Truth! This is a public service announcement

Some people need a reminder of this.

100%, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Dom/mes are allowed to safeword too, for any reason at any time.

by Gerard Donelan

For historical context, this is about making a panel for the AIDS quilt, a memorial project which began in San Francisco in 1985. Due to the stigma surrounding both homosexuality and AIDS during this time, victims of the epidemic were often cremated and disposed of or buried without ceremony, their bodies unclaimed by their families or origin or held by hospitals rather than released to same-sex partners.

Each panel in the AIDS quilt memorializes a life lost to the disease. Each panel is 3′ x 6′ (approximately 1 meter wide and 2 meters long), the approximate dimensions of a cemetery plot. The quilt, which then consisted of 1,920 panels representing 1,920 individuals lost to AIDS, was first displayed in Washington DC in 1987. The public response was immediate, positive, and overwhelming, and the quilt began taken around the country to be displayed in more cities. At each stop, the names of the dead were read out loud. At each stop, more panels were added.

By the time the quit returned to the US capital in 1988, it had more than 8,000 panels.

The quilt continues to grow. Today, it has over 50,000 panels memorializing over 100,000 of our dead. It’s too large now to physically display in its entirety, but you can view the entire thing online. There are also curated virtual displays of just panels which honor the Black and native people killed by the virus because in the US (and likely abroad, although I don’t know enough about public health elsewhere to say so with confidence), communities of color are disproportionately impacted by epidemics, as we have seen time and time again.

You can learn more about the quilt and its history here, and you can learn how to add a panel to the quilt here.

If you’re unable to access the quilt, here’s a zoomed in screenshot of the bottom left corner:

The quilt is made up of several panel, each panel itself consisting of 1 to 8 quilts.

Here’s a screenshot of the whole thing:

This is only about half of the people - our people - who were left to die because the government didn’t think “the gay disease” was a problem. This is why we march.

text and layout by me

models:  @dumdolly, @ropebaby, @masochistic-babygirl, Anya Demure @theropediary

Still a good precaution. And definitely necessary for everyone for when life has returned to normal in like three years just in case you meet the love of your life and they’re positive.

Couldn’t share this fast enough.

Rebloging this to add a little more info because it’s very important:

Antiretroviral therapy when used correctly can cause the user’s “viral load” (your viral load is how much of the virus is in your bloodstream), to drop because the medicine prevents HIV from creating copies of itself.

Regular blood tests are done to monitor your viral load, and after taking the medication long enough, it can drop so low that it becomes “durably undetectable”. This means that the HIV virus in you has become so miniscule that it can’t be detected, and by extension can’t be transmitted either. It’s important to note that in order to be considered durable undetectable, you MUST test as undetectable for at least 6 months after testing as undetectable for the first time.

Also very important, being durably undetectable does NOT mean that you’re cured or that the virus is gone, not by a longshot. The HIV virus is still very much there, but instead of being active, it’s gone dormant in a small number of cells called “viral reservoirs”. This why it’s EXTREMELY important that even after achieving durably undetectable status, you continue to take your Antiretroviral medications correctly. Because if you stop, the HIV virus will reemerge from the viral reservoirs and pick up right where it left off in creating copies of itself, and you will have to start all over again if you want to become durably undetectable again.

This is great advice for people struggling with or know someone who has HIV.

Important medical information! I learned something today.

#Femdom #pegging #strapon

I greeted him at the door on 4" heels, a high ponytail, and a satin apron.

He pushed me into my apartment with hungry kisses and desperate gropes.

I peeled back the layers of a long day at work: briefcase with a thud by the door and the friction of his belt through each belt loop. The buckle jingling as it fell to the floor.

He bent me over the table and thrust himself against my back and ass before unzipping and revealing his excitement to me. I ran the stiletto heel up his inseam while using the mental map of his body to guide my hands to revisit my treasure.

His mouth and hands raced to discover every spot that would make me gasp or moan. I cocked my head and squirmed in the shadow of his stature. The high ponytail danced against my skin.

He grasped my long brown tresses at the tip and recalled all the photos and videos in his wank bank of arched backs and bent necks.

He yanked so hard that he herniated C5-6. During the surgery for my artificial disc replacement, my surgeon found a bone shard 3mm from my spinal cord.

The man who whispered in my ear of how i was “marriage material” moved to Toronto 2 weeks after he damn near made me into a quadriplegic. He closed on a house the day of my surgery.

To this day, I jump when someone puts their hands near my head. My ears ring constantly. And every time I see one of you all post a photo of someone having their hair pulled, I think about all the pain one dumb, badly-executed move caused me.

1. Get consent. 2. Give warning. 3. Grab slowly and smoothly at the roots 4. Movement comes from the wrist (minimizes chance of injury to directional force) 5. If need be, let the person with the hair being pulled hold on to your wrist to either limit your movement or as a failsafe. 6. Over time develop trust with your partner to dial up neck extension, force, or speed.

All that and the fucker never even gave me a single orgasm.

Too important not to reblog

I am so sorry for what you experienced @ifitpleasuresme. Thank you for sharing this wake-up call.

Signal boost. If you go charging into a scene thinking you can act like they act in those gonzo BDSM porn loops, you’re a fool. Always keep the Safe in Safe, Sane, and Consensual. If you are not absolutely sure of what you’re doing in a scene, don’t fucking do it.

Play safe folks.

Nothing is more important then consent and safety in play/during sex.

So many things can go wrong in the blink of an eye. Always be safe, first.

“When the handle has snapped off the basket that held all your eggs…” gone girl tier monologue

I’m always happy to see and reblog these posts.

Please read, whether Dom or sub always something to learn

Always read this and always remember to stay safe & consensual!

Always has to work for BOTH

Remember: both doms and subs can have red flags (I’ve actually used some of these to weed out concerning subs for years). Kink isn’t one-way, we have fun play dynamics but that involves communication, honesty, & trust on both sides

Good info

Too good, NOT to pass on.

Education

it ok to not be ready

Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready. 

notice here that consent is revoked without ever saying no and consent goes so far beyond yes/no!!!!!!

It is ok to say no

Artist : @lenadirscherl

THANK YOU FOR THAT

this was much needed

If you really want to help bring about a world of empowered women, especially within your own life and relationships, there is one really important thing you need to do.

Do the housework

I don't care if you have a full time job and career. If you don't do it, someone else has to. Don't let it be her.

Learn how to cook. Learn how to plan meals and do the grocery shopping. Start making your partner breakfast in the morning, prepping lunches for her, and cooking dinner. Do all that and keep the kitchen clean.

Take on the laundry. Learn how to separate clothes and what cycle to wash with. Learn what goes in the dryer and what air dries. Pick up the clothes from the floor, organise them, get them washed and dried, and put them away. Make sure her work clothes are ready in time and her favourite clothes are always clean.

All this is never ending. These are skills. You'll get good at them. You need to form habits. But every minute you spend on this stuff makes Her life easier.

Wenn Sie wirklich dazu beitragen wollen, dass eine Welt voller selbstbestimmter Frauen entsteht, vor allem in Ihrem eigenen Leben und in Ihren Beziehungen, dann gibt es eine wirklich wichtige Sache, die Sie tun müssen.

Machen Sie die Hausarbeit Es ist mir egal, ob Sie einen Vollzeitjob und eine Karriere haben. Wenn Sie es nicht tun, muss es jemand anderes tun. Lass es nicht sie sein.

Lernen Sie zu kochen. Lernen Sie, Mahlzeiten zu planen und Lebensmittel einzukaufen. Machen Sie Ihrer Partnerin morgens das Frühstück, bereiten Sie das Mittagessen vor und kochen Sie das Abendessen. Machen Sie das alles und halten Sie die Küche sauber.

Übernehmen Sie die Wäsche. Lernen Sie, wie man Wäsche trennt und welchen Waschgang man wählt. Lernen Sie, was in den Trockner kommt und was an der Luft trocknet. Heben Sie die Wäsche vom Boden auf, ordnen Sie sie, waschen und trocknen Sie sie, und räumen Sie sie weg. Sorgen Sie dafür, dass ihre Arbeitskleidung rechtzeitig fertig ist und ihre Lieblingskleidung immer sauber ist.

All dies nimmt kein Ende. Das sind Fähigkeiten. Sie werden darin gut werden. Man muss sich Gewohnheiten aneignen. Aber jede Minute, die Sie auf diese Dinge verwenden, macht Ihr Leben einfacher.

Anti anxiety.

I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR THAT CAT ONE FOREVER

So mesmerized

The cat

Hey my followers with anxiety here’s some things that might help.

This is amazing

In case any of my followers get anxious and don’t know how to get out of it.

I recommend the breathing to anyone. It’s very calming and soothing

These are good. Finding calm is important..

Oooo all in one place

Everyone needs a break once in awhile no matter how you identify. It’s one of the things giving time to transition from “work” or “college” to home is a key. In BD and power exchange it takes time to do but we’ll worth 5 min of quiet time in a set place. I take the time to teach others this without detail. It’s the reason finding someone to ease you out of an anxiety or panic attack (both of which I have had personal experience dealing with) & helping a girl who at the time let me know exactly what she needs if L8r she tells me that’s what’s going on. I got past those experiences on my own with a few instances of a little pet making time to check in. It’s an important part of life to understand we all start out “new” and have to be open to learning. It’s not uncommon to grow up so fast you skip the things others assume u know because an age #. I met a few people who are experienced & yet still shy when it comes to someone like me taking her hand to cross the street. I’ve done that to Ms Jen. It made her smile. I been known to ask permission to touch with certain people because it open a lil door later on if their comfortable to talk more L8r. You may notice I refer to other blogs & post items that go well beyond kink. Plenty of followers ask 4 details of what (else) I am interested in doing with select people. It’s important you develop a sense in a way that leaves no doubt I’m entertaining. I’m known to spice up actions w/a healthy lil’ vibe. 🙂

Ok. NOT my worry, but passing this one for those who will appreciate it!