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i’m going to give raccoons the gift of fire and then teach them ceramics and they will make little bowls with their little hands

'can i copy your homework?'

'yeah just don't make it obvious'

the like to reblog ratio being almost the same is so funny, people are NOT happy with at this update lmao

this is my favorite reddit relationships post ❤️

virgin mary barbie doll from argentina

Bad news, cause OP either didn't know or chose to be vague about it: It's not an ACTUAL Barbie doll, it's part of an Argentinian art exhibit called Barbie: The Plastic Religion.

Good news: There's also a Saint Sebastian Ken

So turns out…..you guys are not gonna believe this…….but it turns out. Reading real books. Is good for you actually.

Let me be completely clear - I’m not being a sarcastic ass. I’m just realizing all over again, in real time, for myself, that reading a real life published book makes your neurons feel like they’re getting a spa day. Like I can feel my brain getting juicer and wrinklier with every page I turn. This shit is no joke, this is like hard drugs if hard drugs were good for you and made your brain feel revived and alive.

starting a collection

Here’s a video so you can hear the water and the thrushes. I took it for you because you couldn’t be there. <3

Deal with werewolves in two easy steps! :D

Hey. Gentiles. Listen up for a sec.

When September and October are nearing and you’re planning an event: google “Rosh Hashanah *year*” and *Yom Kippur *year*” and then, and I cannot stress this enough, don’t plan your event on those days. In fact, don’t plan any events starting sundown the night before. Those are the three most important days of the Jewish calendar, and, once again, I cannot stress enough how much this little bit of forethought and kindness will make every Jew you know cry tears of joy.

in 2023, the night before Rosh Hashanah is Thursday evening, September 14.

Rosh Hashanah ends Sunday evening, September 17.

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in 2023, the night before Yom Kippur is Saturday evening, September 23.

Yom Kippur ends Monday evening, September 25.

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honestly, why is the only language we have for sexual trauma that of rape and assault? there are so many kinds of sexual trauma that are done a genuine disservice by trying to grapple with them using the language of rape.

there's "i consented to this for self-destructive reasons," there's "i didn't know what i was consenting to because i didn't have enough experience to tell that i would be upset by this thing," there's "i initiated something that i now regret," there's dozens, even hundreds, of sexual situations that are traumatic and that need community support and care and some real trauma work to heal from, that just aren't accurately described by the language we have to discuss rape.

and like, trying to shoehorn them in under the umbrella of rape and assault often does a disservice to the victims trying to heal--trying to cast a sexual partner as a malicious perpetrator retroactively is often really psychologically damaging to someone who is experiencing a complex trauma around an experience they consented to, especially when the trauma victim themselves initiated the experience.

i also think there's a counterintuitive thing where the pressure to label every traumatic or even just upsetting sexual experience as rape actually increases the amount of uncomfortable sexual situations a lot of us subject ourselves to--not to get personal or anything, but like, when i was deep in the depths of that kind of thinking, i had significantly more sexual encounters, on the regular, that left me stressed or depressed.

i was averse to safewording, because in my mind, "being upset during sex" was a "sign" of being raped, and i knew that i wasn't being raped and didn't want to put the responsibility for my discomfort on my sex partners. so i just... didn't safeword, and didn't talk about being uncomfortable when i was, because i didn't want to jumpstart the I Am Being Sexually Assaulted narrative when i didn't feel like it fit my experiences.

this also fed into my pure-O OCD tendencies--sex would constantly devolve into a mental obsession over "am i happy? do i feel comfortable? if i feel uncomfortable, i'm being assaulted. do i feel like i'm being assaulted?" just like. obsessing, on loop, over and over again. i highly doubt this would have affected someone who doesn't have pre-existing trauma and obsessive compulsions nearly as strongly, but i think it's important to illustrate that this sort of thing harms people with pre-existing sexual trauma more than anyone else.

i have now learned that i can express discomfort and genuine upset during sex and it does not need to be about me being sexually assaulted specifically, and this has reduced the number of sexual situations i am uncomfortable in on the regular down to zero!

Just found out my facebook birding group is public because my cousin (a lawyer who is not into birds) casually said to me “saw you couldn’t identify a willet the other day… pretty embarrassing”

“your rent should be a third of your income” well wouldn’t that be nice. wouldn’t it. lower the rent pussy

Casual observation from someone old enough to remember: in the year 2000 financial advice was that rent should be no more than 1/4 of your income.

Until the mid 80s, the advice was that if you must rent instead of owning, then that 20% of your monthly income (oh yes, only 20%) should include all your utilities too.

After all, rent costs more than a mortgage, so it should offer more too.

The housing market is a fucking travesty.

Hmm what happened in the mid eighties....

"I don't like the Jack Harkness test because it means it's okay to fuck Scooby Doo"

yes that's the entire damn point of the Harkness test. The Harkness Test doesn't exist to say you have to fuck Scooby Doo. The Harkness Test exists to say that it is morally/ethically fine for someone to want to fuck Scooby Doo, because Scooby Doo can give informed consent and communicate as such.

the reason you don't like it is because none of you are self-aware enough to realize how incredibly fucking puritan all of you are when it comes to fucking

Tumblr being free is humanity's greatest error.

Then pay me 20$ if you feel so strongly about it

Tumblr is a free website where I am paid $20

Hey tagger are you aware of the existence of any IRL dogs who speak fluent English and solve mysteries? Just curious.

I’m pretty sure the Harkness test is intended for monsters/aliens, not sapient animals.

just a thought.

You are fundamentally incorrect, it is intended for fictional scenarios which could not happen in real life. It is the kink equivalent of The Bechdel Test. It is proposing the absolute minimum of what is needed to ensure that the kink is #nonproblematic: Is it old enough to grant informed consent, and does it have the capability to communicate that informed consent clearly to its partners? If it fits both of these criteria, it passes the JHT and is ethically fine, though thinking it's gross or not liking it is still totally fine--it isn't saying "It's ethical so therefore you're a bad person if you dislike it. It is saying It's ethical and so therefore you should not base your disliking it in the framework of morality and ethics.

Basing your disgust of sexual fetishes and kinks in morality is fundamentally a Puritan concept: It creates the idea of wrongsex, and it justifies a framework of punishment due to perceived moral high ground. It says "You are a better person than someone who wants to fuck Scooby Doo for whatever reason, because that person is inherently morally disgusting for wanting that".

Basing your disgust of sexual fetishes and kinks in a personal dislike is fundamentally the correct ethical response: "I am not a better person for not wanting to fuck Scooby Doo for whatever reason, and someone else would not be a bad person if they wanted to fuck Scooby Doo for whatever reason".

You say that it isn't for "sapient animals", and I fully agree! Regular degular nonhuman animals cannot give an informed consent to us, be it through body language or power dynamics baked into the species difference! There's also the fundamental question of "Is this body language clear because of informed consent or because of biological nature", which is always "No, if it cannot not want to consent, it is your responsibility to ensure that its boundaries are not crossed while it holds impaired judgement".

But Scooby Doo isn't a sapient animal. Scooby Doo is a fully grown Great Dane, yes, but he speaks fluent-if-accented conversational English. He's also clearly intelligent enough to use that ability to solve criminal investigations, which gives him the ability to offer that consent in a clearly communicated way, ie human language.

That's it. I don't wanna fuck Scooby Doo. I think the concept itself is innately hilarious, because of all the things you think are sexy, you landed on the cartoon mystery-solver dog. And I chose him for this example of what passing the Harkness Test can look like explicitly because he was the most incendiary take I could think of. He is an emblem of "Just because you hate it doesn't make it immoral" in this context. It forces you to confront the possibility that you hate certain kinks because you think you have a moral high ground, and why that morality-based justification is completely false and ethically unsound. But it lets you keep your own personal boundaries--something passing the Harkness test doesn't require your approval or even your neutrality. You can totally loathe it. But you have to loathe it the same way you loathe a type of food: There is no good or bad involved. It's just not for you.

That is not a potential counterpoint. Children are not of maturity and they do not have the ability to give informed consent, no more than a drunk adult is. Being a child impairs your ability to know what it means to give this consent.

Unless you (general, not direct) consider children who are being abused sexually as able to give informed consent and of maturity for their species, the problem is not "it passes the test (it doesnt.)", but rather "I don't really think I need nor want to get into the nitty gritty of why that was horrifying to even remotely contemplate".

Fyi this isn’t a dig at people who are asexual or sex-repulsed. Gay sex was literally a criminal act in the parts of the United States Texas until 2003. A healthy relationship to both sex and your body is a major component of the human experience, but especially LGBTQ+ people. Yes this includes people who have a healthy understanding of their boundaries with regards to sex. To try and divorce the fight for LGBTQ+ rights from sexuality is both dangerous and ahistorical.

The “sex” stripe isn’t “have sex.” Mainstream society has no problem with people having sex. We don’t need a flag to declare our right to have sex.

The stripe means “have the sex you want to have, with the people you want to have sex with.”

And that includes “no sex, with no people.”

(For anyone who didn’t know: the pink (sex) and turquoise (magic & art) were removed because it was hard to source those colors for flags, not because of any controversy over their meanings.)

today was my human's birthday but i am just sleepy. my birthday is not until october.