I wish Hugh Hefner could have been tortured to death

Hell is too good for people like him.

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I've already made a TBI post and linked this there, but I think this new info deserves a new post just for itself

sometimes I see people claiming misogyny has nothing to do with the female body, and then I remember the word “hysteria” comes from the greek word for “uterus” (hystera) and how as an individual pathology, it was believed to be caused by the uterus wandering around the body

I’m glad feminism has had significant wins over the past century, but I’m appalled and dismayed at how the patriarchy has suppressed feminist knowledge and history to the point that those wins are now taken for granted by a lot of women, well-intentioned women who now have a completely ahistorical view of misogyny. and a movement cannot be built on good intentions alone: lacking a critical understanding of where misogyny originated and how women were materially disenfranchised doesn’t just render the movement useless, it makes it dangerous.

we cannot replicate the exact same forms of activism used decades (centuries) ago and expect them to get the same results today as they did in the past. it is necessary that we study contemporary society and the ways in which women are oppressed now. we can’t and shouldn’t even expect feminism to look the same in different parts of the world. but that in no way means disregarding centuries of female struggle for liberation.

feminism has had significant wins over the past century, but many of the same institutions that were built to ensure our oppression are still standing. we cannot defeat the enemy without knowing its history, and its history in this case is strongly tied to gaining control over the female body.

Must be nice to be a man and feel absolutely zero guilt or concern while you sit on your arse in front of the tv as your wife frantically runs herself into the ground with the never ending grind of holiday cooking/cleaning/gifting/wrapping/decorating/tidying/arranging/crafts/familial politics

it always bewilders and offends me that at family gatherings all of the women are up cleaning, cooking, clearing the table after dinner, bringing snacks out, etc., and all of the men are just relaxing and sitting around. I’m also up cleaning, clearing peoples’ plates, etc., because I’m expected to do that as a female, while my male cousins get to sit around and chill. Even the male relatives that I like just sit around and chat and don’t seem to notice that my sister and I are constantly being called into the kitchen and they’re not.

so anyway yeah if you’re a male you should seriously try to pay attention to who’s doing all the work and who’s allowed to sit and chill (probably you) and maybe like, get up and insist on helping…

I’m sure a LOT of women (if not most) can relate to the experience of loving the holidays as a child only to be unceremoniously snatched up into the kitchen one year, after someone deemed you old enough to join the women.

I was si excited, once again, to go to my grandparents’ for Thanksgiving; my brothers and I knew everything we would do: watch the parades on TV (as usual), play board games or play outside (as usual), get cleaned up five minutes before sitting down to be served dinner (as usual), then excuse ourselves after the pie and go watch the animated tv specials until it was time to get in the car and fall asleep on the way home (all as usual).

I will NEVER forget the painful shock of being taken by the shoulders that day and steered into the kitchen, where I spent the holiday prepping the meal and serving the meal and cleaning up after the meal, while my brothers had no change in their holiday schedule.

I was 11 years old.

Don’t forget to show the children what it takes to put on a meal (and who’s doing it).

and this is true not just for holidays but also any time guests come over. i have observed far too many men offer food/drinks to their guests, even insist when they refuse without realising that its the women who will have to actually make it.

and often, the women are the last to sit and eat. So when you are being hospitable and insisting that your fellow male guests take one more serving, you may not realise that there won’t be enough for the women.

And i think a lot of the times this is subconscious. So please from now on, be more aware… and make and effort to stop this ‘tradition’

There’s been a massive fall in FGM rates across the African continent for girls under 14.

The figures are all taken roughly 20 years apart, in the mid 90s and then in the late 2010s. The rate in Western African has gone from 74% to 25%, in Northern Africa it’s gone from 60% to 14%.

Across the continent the overall rate has gone from 71% to 8%. 

This is just huge. I’m finding it difficult to wrap my head around the scale of it, the number of children those percentages represent. It feels like such a huge shift. It’s millions of girls growing up safer and healthier. 

And the researchers are saying their mothers are the driving force.

29 countries!! 20 years apart!! what a sample size

they point out that there may be underreporting recently but that’s still a huge win :)

Abusive men pave the way for lazy men to get wives and girlfirends.

Lemme clarify, how many times have you heard your overworked female friends and relatives say “Yeah, Jerry drinks beer every evening after work while I cook dinner and clean up after everyone and does the bare minimum to help me raise the kids but he’s such a nice guy. He’s never beat me in my life. I couldn’t ask for a better guy in my life.”

Like no, Sally, your husband is a common stone among turds and you know it.

I try to explain this conceptually to people as a thing that happens not saying that this is good but it’s a thing that happens.

This is what male privilege is and how all men benefit from it.

This is why you are not exempt from statements about “all men” even if you are overall good.

You benefit from the bar constantly being lowered by systemic issues within the gender.

The expectations on you are always lower than they should because “at least you’re not X”.

That…is the best response I’ve seen to the “not all men” thing. Thank you.

Loving to Survive: Sexual Terror, Men’s Violence, and Women’s Lives discusses this!!

That's a guy

This man is 32

TikTok is the worst thing in the world. it’s a misogynistic cesspool where boys and men mock women and talk about how much they hate us. and women share their 30 step skincare routines, the surgeries they’ve had, before and afters of their BBL’s. any girls who look slightly different to the slim tanned cosmetic surgery“it girl” has they/he pronouns and has intentionally distanced herself from womanhood. every video by women is about her appearance, clothes or cleaning. every video from a man is just him making fun of women or ranting about how we are useless and how men rule the world. rn i just can’t see things getting better. we are staring down the barrel of the tiktok and porn generation & it is fucking bleak.

Well this explains some things.

Damm what happened

Radblr needs to start talking more about drag queens, transracialism and the fine line between satire and misogyny.

I can’t rlly be asked to write an essay rn but the general things I’ve noticed have been:

- dozens, literally, of drag queens on RPDR coming out as trans and nonbinary within 2-3 years

- white male drag queens using caricatures of black women and black femininity in their drag

- cognitive dissonance in terms of satire and gender roles. Is it still satire if they’re getting plastic surgery to look more feminine?

- the overwhelming male domination of the genre, despite the message being progressiveness

- why drag kings haven’t been nearly as popular (we know why)

- the fetishisation of femininity, and how it can be separated from other gnc gay men

Feel free to add on!

This is what made me make this post like HOW is this not blackface

When will men be held responsible?

All of the accounts cited in this article are just horrific. I am horrified. Porn is an epidemic.

“A couple weeks ago, an 11-year-old boy admitted seven counts of rape and sexual assault on boys under 13 after he watched similar explicit images online. Legal officials involved in the case said it was clear that internet porn had sparked the sex attacks.”

“Last November, a boy was convicted of repeatedly raping his younger sister after becoming fascinated with online pornography. The 14-year-old, who was only 12 at the time of the crime, pleaded guilty to six charges of rape in court. His internet browsing history showed he had searched and watched porn relating to incest.”

“In August 2014, a judge condemned the “corrosive” influence of pornography after a boy who visited hardcore pornographic websites abducted and raped a girl in his town that was just 10 years old.”

“In [a] survey, many boys revealed that they wanted to copy the behavior they had seen watching porn. More than a third (39%) of 13-14 year-olds who responded to this question – and a fifth of 11-12 of year-olds (21%) – wanted to repeat porn acts. The interesting part? These answers came despite more than 3/4 of the kids agreeing that porn didn’t help them understand consent.”

I recently watched a documentary on young sexual offenders in juvenile prison and one fourteen year old boy said he’d started watching porn around age nine and he, quote, “looked at my four year old sister and knew I could use her”.

Porn has to be destroyed.

I think it’s evil to try and make women feel insane for not wanting their boyfriends and husbands to watch porn

Women’s Strike for Equality, August 26, 1970

Let’s bring that energy back.

A+ example of how the media manipulates people for clicks and anger engagement.

Put lead on your face and toxic pigments on your lips. Break and bind your feet. Pluck your hairline. Crush your organs. Cover yourself. Expose yourself. Give yourself chemical burns to make your hair lighter. Use a different toxic chemical to make it darker, or redder. Restrict your food to be thin. Force feed yourself to gain weight. Bleach your skin. Deprive yourself from feeling the sun on your skin so that you won't wrinkle or get darker. Give yourself cancer at 25 through incessant tanning. Remove every hair on your body. Wear heeled shoes that deform your tendons until you can't wear anything else. Have dangerous surgeries to put plastic in your breasts, rearrange your fat, trim your labia, and have your ribs removed.

Beauty is a cage. It always has been. We've harmed ourselves and our daughters, wasted our time and energy, and literally and metaphorically hobbled ourselves in order to fit ever changing ideals - to get a morsel of acceptance in a patriarchal society. We look at women of the past and think that the things they did for beauty were extreme even though women today are doing things that are essentially the same or worse.

The only way for us to escape this hellish, constant treadmill is if enough women refuse to participate at all, but with solipsistic "choice" feminism being so prevalent and how appearance obsessed the internet is, I'm not holding my breath. We can only hope that someday soon, a significant number of young women will rebel against YouTube/Instagram/TikTok hyperfemininity.

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And marital rape still legal in India

it’s 2022 and marital rape is still legal

this show feels like a prank bro I can’t

TIL about female urinary incontinence in China

I was so shocked the number (30%) was so high for women. Then I looked at the UK statistics and saw it went up to 40% of women.

Men will never understand how important bathrooms are for women. They literally piss in public and piss in bottles the moment they feel like it. Women will regularly go for HOURS until they get Utis or wet themselves, and we STILL have to fight to keep the few bathrooms we have left away from men.

I went to a club a couple weeks ago that had 'gender neutral' toilets. One bathroom was full of urinals and cubicles, the other had a couple of cubicle loos. Men used the one with urinals, and without malicious intent or any realisation, also crammed into the toilet that had 2 cubicles...the only bathroom that women were comfortable and able to use. It's like this everywhere all the time and it is literally making us sick.

Female toilets matter so much. Without them we will remain in poverty. How can you not wake the fuck up and peak ?

Gender neutral can't exist in a world where male is the default. Invisible women

Looked up these numbers before reposting, and yeah, it’s true. Mayo Clinic also says that as many as 75% of women over 65 have these issues. So most of all elderly women, and an unexpectedly large percent of all women. Check mens stats and it’s about 10% overall, and acknowledged across the board as not at all close to the numbers women have this problem.

It makes sense… our anatomy first of all… just by nature of having a smaller urinary tract, then we’ve got pregnancies which Damage pelvic floors and cause alllllll sorts of pelvic problems that can cause the probs, then our high risks and instance of UTI That can damage you all the way up your urethra, the bladder, the kidneys.. soooo many reasons

Then we get 5 stalls and they get a row of ten urinals and the same stalls… what the hell this just sucks for us health wise.

The bathroom problem is obviously a huge issue when you don’t have the capacity for women, especially in places like stadiums or bars where you have to pee often, or just anywhere and we don’t really have an option to pee discreetly or in a bottle or something… the women at Amazon who couldn’t pee in bottles when that controversial worker issue was going on, obviously had lower work stats than males (who shouldn’t have to pee in bottles, but could) so that probably effected their pay and hiring and numbers stuff…

But even more than that, why isn’t the medical industry talking about this more? Or trying to fix it more? If men had this problem, no doubt it would be addressed

some other good points made in the notes i’d like to share:

the fact that men are given more options and units with which to relieve themselves with when our restrooms force us to form lines like we’re at the fucking dmv really is ridiculous when you lay it all out like that

Yup these numbers are worsened by disability. My entire day is planned around bathrooms.

"According to recent analysis from News1, sales of cosmetics, hair products and other beauty-related apparel by Korean women in their 20s has dramatically declined between 2015/2016 and 2017/2018.

Plastic surgery — another common playground for young South Koreans — has declined by 64.4 billion won."

Cosmetic sales have gone down by 53.5 billion Korean won in that period.

Escape the corset

The women doing this are facing severe social penalties in their careers and in Korean media.

But they're toppling patriarchal industries to the ground.

In the west, we have the same power to do what they're doing. But we lack the class consciousness and group motivation to get it done. Korean women take on career penalties because they know toppling patriarchal industries is for the collective good of all women. But in the west, women say "I need cosmetics to get tips at work. I need cosmetics to get a promotion. I need cosmetics to put food on the table." Western women put their individual needs above the needs of the female sex class.

Western patriarchy has sold us the lie that "feminism is about individual choice." And that's why we're the biggest consumers of beauty products and cosmetic surgeries in the world.

i miss when you could make political art without placing personal identity (and the self) at the center of everything

this piece (“artist bio” by anna daliza) sort of perfectly sums it up. the emphasis on identity politics and tokenization in art/music/performance spaces feels reductive and exploitative- like it offers a sort of racial tourism for the wealthy white patrons. none of what im saying are original thoughts btw go see White by james ijames

the irony in this art piece is staggering