whenever im trying to do anything

and they’re usually not that brilliant and careful either. 99％ of the time the police are just incompetent! Ted Bundy literally jumped out a window and escaped police custody because they weren’t watching him

A victim literally escaped Jeffrey Dahmer’s apartment naked with a hole drilled in his head and unable to speak but police let Dahmer take him back to his apartment like everything was ok!

And I guess he doesn’t count as a serial killer but Eric Harris had already been making threats and harrassing students to an extreme degree before Columbine- police literally had a search warrant but they just never acted on it. If they had, they would have found the guns and pipe bombs and the shooting could have been easily prevented. They even tried to cover this up afterwards.

Serial killers and mass murders are usually not that smart, police have just historically refused to do their actual jobs.

always remember that the “genius serial killer” narrative is a blatant cover for the fact that the police will always look the other way when it comes to white cis men exhibiting blatantly violent and hateful behavior

It’s been said before, but I really despise how “gaslighting” has changed from referring to a specific domestic abuse tactic to meaning “lying but more sensationally”

it’s also not “this person disagrees with me”

Friendly reminder that gaslighting isn’t just lying or telling a big lie. It is purposely lying or misconstruing events to make the other person doubt their own judgement, perception or sanity like what happened in the play Gas Light, where the term came from.

It is when your confidence in your mind starts to go from ‘I have a good memory/idea of what I know’ to ‘Did that happen? Am I making things up? I don’t remember doing that but what if I did?’ It is the feeling that you MUST have a bad memory/be making things up/forgetting things/really be the villain when someone tells you something, even when you remember things distinctly differently.

People can tell small lies like ‘I don’t remember’ and big lies like ‘I paid the bills’ and ridiculous lies like ‘One time I met Taylor Swift in a bar and she told me I had the face of an angel and the next day I was offered a modeling gig, THE NEXT DAY’ without it being gaslighting because they’re not trying to change your perception of yourself or what you remember or make you doubt yourself.

Gaslighting looks something like this, in real life examples:

- There’s a big life change coming up, and they tell you what the plan is. Life change starts happening, and you’re following the plan. They freak out because you’re not following the plan, then list an entirely different plan. What? You think. You might say so. You didn’t listen to me. You don’t pay attention. Or, You’re terrible at remembering things, they’ll tell you.

- They may recall an event that was very important to them. But, generally this person is emotionally abusive or manipulative. You don’t remember it as a good time. They’ll shame you for forgetting something so important. Not exactly gaslighting, but it happens with the type that does gaslighting.

- They call someone a nasty name. Later, you bring it up. They’ve apparently never said that word to anyone, ever. How can you think so poorly of them?

- If this person frequently starts conflicts, you’ll find that any time you try to backtrack and talk about what happened… either you’ve misinterpreted the conversation, or they never said that, or you forget what the point was. Instead of shouldering the responsibility of their actions, this person will use every conflict to weaken your perception of reality.

Sidenote: they know perfectly well what they’re doing. They’re not innocent. They want you to think they don’t see what they’re doing to you. Trust me. Don’t believe in innocence for this person. Assume that they take the offensive as manipulators, and respond in neither conflict nor agreement. Shrug off the perception they hand you.

Some excellent examples. Also! The point isn’t that you have to believe it immediately, but that it will plant a seed of doubt as your first instinct is to give the other person the benefit of the doubt.

But remember, these confrontations are likely going to be full of insistence that you are wrong. Even if you have a witness or evidence to suggest otherwise. This is part of how abusers work. They know their argument is wrong and illogical, they are trying to make arguing with them such a miserable experience you would rather give up and drop it in the future to keep the peace. And this doesn’t apply to just gaslighting. But extreme ‘jealousy’, anger and paranoia are likely not actually jealousy, anger or paranoia from an abuser. These are lies and illusions they use to shape your reactions so you hang out with X less, so you don’t bring up Y topic again, so you spend all your time with them.

Don’t stay in a relationship with someone who purposely makes arguing miserable because they will deny actual facts and actual reality and logic just to keep arguing. Don’t give them the benefit of the doubt - people doing this are showing they are truly cruel enough to purposely make you feel insane. They aren’t illogical or incapable of seeing reality. They are just trying to make you miserable enough that you will stop trying to argue. They are trying to shape your reactions to their liking, not win the argument.

why does baby yoda have completely different eyes to as an adult...

thank you for equally awful answers

thank fuck this hideous godforsaken decade is almost over. jesus christ. we started with a global economic crisis and somehow it only got worse from there

imagine going back in time and telling 2010 you “they’re gonna invent hoverboards, legalize gay marriage, and kill bin laden, but there’ll also be a global authoritarian uprising fueled by a digital surveillance state and the white house will be run by the guy from the apprentice and his lawyer rudy giuliani. do you wish to proceed”

His name is Steven Udotong.

Imagine taking courses to write effective headlines and then see people who don’t know shit trying to be snarky online.

Guys. For the billionth time. Headlines need to give as much relevant details as possible while still being short enough to be read at a glance or almost, and get people to read the rest. Unless the article is about someone well-known enough that we can safely assume the reader will recognize them, first names do not go in headlines. 

It is not about refusing to write the names of minorities in headlines. It is literally the first thing you’re taught when it comes to writing them.

On the other hand, just look how much funnier headlines could be if we adopted this policy

Seriously, do people think the headline is literally all that exists? There’s a whole article underneath it, you know!

The question has diagnosed the problem.

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