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@jujucoo42

So many fandom so little time. Not gonna lie I'm hella bi. Slytherin šŸ
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When I worked in a tea shop, I actually got a few people coming in requesting jasmine tea. Why jasmine? Because that’s what Uncle Iroh would drink on Avatar: The Last Airbender.

So here’s something to think about:

Even though he was royalty, Uncle Iroh was a master of preparing his own tea– even after he left with Zuko, he could always be seen preparing it on his own, eventually opening a successful tea shop when the one he worked at turned out to be awful.

For a firebender, heating a pot of water wouldn’t be difficult– a few seconds of rage and you’d have it at a rolling boil– but a rolling boil would ruin the tea.

The secret to a good cup of tea is often in the temperature of water that you use.

Jasmine, green and white tea tends to need between 160-180* F (71-82*C)– go any higher than that, and you’ll scald the leaves and wind up with bitter tea. Let it steep for too long, and it’ll scald anyway. So you can’t just boil the hell out of it and walk away; to be really good, a cup of tea needs a lower temperature and a softer flame. It needs patience and attention.Ā And that’s where Uncle Iroh excelled.

It was such a wonderful character detail, and I love it so.

…I…wait…I just…b…

*Gags*Ā ā€œThis tea is nothing more than hot leaf juice!ā€

ā€œUncle…that’s what all tea is.ā€

ā€œHow could a member of my own family say something so horrible?ā€

DO YOU MEAN THAT ZUKO NEVER PREPARED A GOOD CUP OF TEA BEFORE BECAUSE HE WAS TOO IMPATIENT TO PROPERLY HEAT IT AND THAT IROH PUT TWO AND TWO TOGETHER RIGHT THEN AND THERE?

ā€œWe’ll have to make some major changes around here!ā€ — His next line which he says firmly, grabbing the teapot and looking at Zuko as he turns.

Like literally after this the main plotpoint between these two is Iroh teaching Zuko how to be more patient/kind/open-minded while also teaching him how to properly work in the tea shop and I just…do you mean to tell me those two were actually not just random meshing plotpoints but were a direct correlation?

ARE YOU KIDDING ME, BRYKE!?

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i have to reblog this again because ugggh.Ā 

THIS is how you do it. this is how break down a people. like the beginning. strip them of their language, along with everything else that makes them who they are.

and then they are yours.

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White colonizers are evil

people in america think afrikaans IS the native language but it’s actually mostly dutch and a little german. that’s why my translator friend picked it up in only a year from his native language, german.Ā  then again, a lot of americans think africa is a country, not a continent, so

For anyone wondering what we mean by ā€œdecolonizingā€ ourselves, this is it. It’s the effort of undoing centuries of beating our own cultures out of us.

Learning our ancestral languages, cultures, and traditions is an important but very difficult thing for us to be able to do.

This is why I refuse to listen to ANYONE that says I must stop speaking my language around them.

God Bless him for remembering what he could.

the biggest lie, i think, the internet perpetuates about D&D is that a skinny little twink of a bard just needs to roll a nat 20 to seduce a dragon

like a dragon…a creature with more wealth and power than any other creature on the planet…a creature who is easily an 11/10 when they deign to take humanoid form…would look at your skinny little 8 STR half-elf Bard whose own father doesn’t even love them and go…yeah I’d like to fuck that

Counterpoint, my good man:

Dragons fuck

Dragons fuck, clearly, but not just any joe blow schmoe with a big Charisma stat. If I’m Joseph J Dragon sitting on a small hill of gold and jewels I’m not gonna waste my time boning every monsterfucking tiefling twink with a lyre. I would have standards.

Counter-counterpoint: dragons are SUPER horny

Counter-counter-counterpoint: even if dragons are SUPER horny they’ve got better prospects than spindly little bards!!!! They could be off fucking cloud giants or beholders or planetars!!!! They could be having sex with kraken in the middle of the ocean or fire giants in the mouth of an erupting volcano!Ā 

There is a wealth of sexual excess and opportunity available to dragons; so much that they do not need to be slumming it with an adventurer who hasn’t washed his ass in a month and a half and is probably covered in kobold blood by the time they get to the dragon’s lair!Ā 

Seriously!!!Ā 

I don’t care how many times you cast Charm Monster, the Elder Dragon who has probably slept with more princesses than there are princedoms is not going to bite! When you have bedded the most beautiful mortals on the Prime Material Plane on a pile of gold and jewelryĀ you are not gonna be looking twice at any MOTHERFUCKEr who can’t at least True Polymorph to make things interestingĀ 

triple-counterpoint:

you’re right but please shut up you are actively ruining my 10 strength half-elf twink bard’s sexual prospects with this post

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OP is right and they should say it

Actually… 

As we can see from this most excellent chart, dragons can and will fuck anything. Even humans do not compare. The only species that can match dragons for horny-ness is, in fact, nymphs.Ā 

Therefore your twinky-ass lil bard has as good a chance as anyone. Go forth and thot your way through your DM’s carefully planned Big Bad encounter andĀ 

fuck the dragon.Ā 

I’m not even sure where I stand on this argument but I absolutely need to keep that chart for reference, so

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The concept of ā€œloiteringā€ is violent and evil

The privatization of nature itself, of the outdoors… It’s violent to insist we can only legally be in a place if we (1) bought it, (2) payed our way to be there via goods. It’s violent to remove a human’s place outside and insist they have no community with the spaces that make up our world. Imperialism and capitalism have ruined ruined ruined our harmonies with nature and with our communities

a few weeks back i looked up the source ofĀ ā€œwe deserve a soft epilogue, my loveā€ because it’s such a lovely, evocative line and i wanted to know the name of the poet who wrote it and it was. from captain america fanfiction.

ā€œin whatever manner it comes to be, love is never wrong, especially between one who has so much of it to give, and one so desperately in need of itā€ is from a naruto fanfic we’re living in a web of lies

The other day I politely returned the question ā€œhow are you doing?ā€ at a driver who asked the same of me, and he replied ā€œoh, you know, same soup just reheatedā€ and I can’t stop thinking about that

ā€œ[I]t is actually more expensive to be poor than not poor. If you can’t afford the first month’s rent and security deposit you need in order to rent an apartment, you may get stuck in an overpriced residential motel. If you don’t have a kitchen or even a refrigerator and microwave, you will find yourself falling back on convenience store food, which — in addition to its nutritional deficits — is also alarmingly overpriced. If you need a loan, as most poor people eventually do, you will end up paying an interest rate many times more than what a more affluent borrower would be charged. To be poor — especially with children to support and care for — is a perpetual high-wire act.ā€
— It Is Expensive to Be Poor | The Atlantic

ā€œPoverty charges interest ā€ holy hell. Ive never read$heard someone put it that way before. But its so friggen true.

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I am asking other men to please pay attention to this. Sexual predators and airplane creeps, a thread: https://twitter.com/joannachiu/status/1110079640998023168?s=21

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Here are the links from the above tweet, just in case: Bystander Tips (stopstreetharrassment.org):Ā http://www.stopstreetharassment.org/resources/male-allies/bystander-tips/Ā  What bystanders can do about harassment on public transportation by @EndingViolence @_AngelaMarieMacĀ :Ā https://www.bwss.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/BWSS-Transit-Tuesday-Brochure.pdf Sexual Harrassment Training Doesn’t Work. But Some Things Do. The Upshot, New York Times:Ā https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/11/upshot/sexual-harassment-workplace-prevention-effective.html

Good news everyone it’s taken a while but I have a solid explanation for theĀ ā€œwhat was her nameā€ moment from Diego it’s an inside joke that’s been going on since the one time when they were all 14 and hypothesising about their adult lives. Even though Klaus was So Obviously Not Straight Luther mentioned him having a wife and Diego thought it was so fucking hilarious that now any time Klaus hooks up with anyone Diego is likeĀ ā€œoh who was she? have you finally met your future wife?ā€Ā 

Luther: We’ll all be this big happy family and it’ll be great I’ll have barbecues and invite everyone. Klaus and his wife will bring booze and we’ll have a great time.

Everyone else:Ā 

Klaus, with his pyjama shirt tied into a crop top, Allison’s boa wrapped around his neck, and glitter eyeshadow: My what

Luther: so when you and your wife visit—

Klaus:

Ok but can we talk about how emo, as a genre, defied gender roles in a big way? Like, everything about the culture, from the guys wearing makeup and womens’ skinny jeans, to the way they got unabashedly emotional in spite of theĀ ā€œmen aren’t supposed to cryā€ narrative they’d obviously been socialized with, was just this completeĀ ā€œfuck youā€ to the idea that there’s a certain way to be aĀ ā€œmanā€.Ā 

And a lot of their detractors called themĀ ā€œgirlyā€ orĀ ā€œgayā€. And they didn’t give a fuck! Fall Out Boy has a whole song entitledĀ ā€œGay Is Not A Synonym for Shittyā€, which referenced a famous Pete Wentz quote, where he basically said that if you thought his band sucked, to just say it sucked, and not be aĀ ā€œhomophobic assholeā€ about it.Ā 

And, then, geez, My Chemical Romance took it a step further, and Gerard Way outright kissed one of his bandmates at concerts purely to infuriate homophobes who were at his shows.

Ā A lot of these bands were openly for LGBT rights, for womens’ rights. I remember one instance where some band MCR was touring with asked women to flash their tits in exchange for backstage passes. And Gerard was so horrified by this, and told his female fans toĀ ā€œspit in the facesā€ of misogynists in the rock scene.Ā 

Like, god, these bands were so progressive. And they still are. Right after the Pulse tragedy, Brendon Urie literally danced around in a pride flag and told his queer fans what they meant to him. Pete Wentz said thatĀ ā€œUma Thurmanā€ was meant to show his female fans that they could beĀ ā€œbadassā€, too. And Gerard pretty much admitted in an interview to somewhat identifying with the labelĀ ā€œnonbinaryā€.Ā 

That’s the most lasting impact that emo is going to have. Showing fans of all genders that there’s nothing wrong with being whoever the fuck you are, that there’s no specific way to be a man or woman. And, god, I just fucking love that.Ā 

ā€œSo every day during my set, when I’m playing my own shows, I talk about people that are transgender. I talk about it a lot because everyday basically I say: ā€¦ā€

- Gerard Way, Soundwave, Melbourne, 2015

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I feel like disco and emo should team up and that should be the next big music thing, sort of a defiant apocalyptic dance party, because disco did this sort of thing too, the rejection of straight white male heteronormativity, and that was basically why it was killed, so, like, emo plus defiant zombie disco would be the perfect thing to play in the Mango MenaceĀ era.

Also Brendon and Pete are queer. Brendon is pan and Pete is bi. A lot of folks ignore that because they’re married to women which is really fucked up.

I feel like the best way to respond to someone you’re friends with making gross, racist, sexist etc. jokes isn’t to argue with them or call them out directly, but just to kind of wince at them like they just did something incredibly inappropriate and awkward and try to change the subject. Like, almost in an exaggerated way, like you’re just really disgusted and want to forget they said it. Arguing with them lets them 1) shoehorn you as aĀ ā€œSJWā€ and shut themselves off to you 2) defend their opinion or feel like they did and 3) lets you end up categorized as the person who did the inappropriate thing by making a ā€œbig dealā€ out of it. But acting like you would with any extremely gross and inappropriate thing makes it harder for them to mentally defend themselves and thus to avoid feeling weird and ashamed. It prevents them from getting in any way satisfied by your reaction or validated in their views. It makes them the person that broke a rule. And anyway, it is really gross and inappropriate to joke like that. It has to be a taboo, not just a viewpoint or a style of humor that some people don’t like. If you argue, it frames the issue as an opinion. If you just show disgust and displeasure and treat the offensive material like you would a pile of dog shit on a sidewalk you’re walking down, it’s not arguable. It’s an action, with nothing intellectual about it, and there’s nothing for them to defend against.Ā 

Anyone have any thoughts? Has anybody tried this?Ā 

like….not 2 get into this really but..freedom of speech means that the government can’t tell you what you can and can’t say. freedom of speech does not protect you from the social/private repercussions of your actions

furthermore: freedom of speech does not entitle you to a soapbox and a bullhorn. people don’t have to listen to you. they don’t have to give you a platform. you’re allowed to say what you want but no one is required to listen to you or help you say it.

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they really put Carol in a full face of makeup and skin tight clothes right after Captain Marvel where she dressed like a lesbian…

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hatecrime.

What the FUCK IS THIS

bro it’s the fucking lipstick that does it

With eye makeup/face makeup I can chalk it up to typical movie fashion— ā€œenhancingā€ the feature that carries the most emotion.

But bold lipstick???? That makes me think that the character themself has chosen to put it on. I can’t digest it as ā€œjust a partā€ of the character. And maybe it had a lot to do with the coloring or filter on the movie but >:( I don’t think battle ready or jus-flew-over-in-a-rush carol would have the time to pop on a pouty berry lip. (Especially when she had t before—)

I’m sure people change and carol can do as she pleases but….. the straightened hair and bold lipstick is jus so….. blah