IVF does not make people who want to be parents criminals.
Being an IVF child myself, I would like to clarify some things on IVF.
Consent is given by donors before treatment.
Donors can be many different types of people. My own donor was a college student, a male student just struggling to pay some bills. Some donors just donated to donate. Some for money (giving eggs pays a lot) and they are giving consent when they donate. I have the forms in my house right now, with his name and an signature under a whole list of terms and text explaining what happens with IVF and what will happen to his sperm. Same for women. When my mother signed up for IVF, she has a right to decide what happens to her own eggs.
From what I could tell, many people who are against IVF are pro-life, and care for the child more than the woman itself but before those eggs are fertilized that woman has her own right to decide how she wants to have kids or if she wants to donates them.
I don't know how the other states and countries do donation for sperm and eggs, but if you're donating, you can guess where it going and you should know, and they will let you know that your donation is and can be used in infertility treatments, such as IVF.
Children are a RIGHT of any person, including people who can and can't due to biological reasons and infertility
I see many posts on how Children are not a 'right' for people who can't due to biological reasons such as many in the LGBTQ+ community or those in infertility (men and women) and that they can't create a child. IVF is not creating a child, it's literally just the same as creating one with your partner in your bedroom. You take a woman's eggs and place sperm in the egg and back into the woman's vagina and grows into baby. Just like sex. Sperm goes in egg, egg goes in a woman's vagina and grows into baby. Woman and men have a right to have children, and if they can't 'naturally' it doesn't mean they are lesser than those who can have children without help. You would never judge a woman for wanting to have a child, or can blame men for wanting to raise children. You don't see parents with children conceived 'naturally' get the question 'Why didn't you consider adoption?' Because everyone can adopt a child, infertile or not.
Even I, who wants to only adopt when I decide to have kids, wonder constantly and want to see what pregnancy is like. I do too, wonder to see children that I carried in my own body. But infertility is becoming more and more common. And if you wanted any of The Handmaid's Tale, you can see how many women want children in that world, and I bet many of them in that world sought out IVF. Also noted, that many in the future used 'god' as a way to justify their society of kidnapping and raping woman to get their own children. Do those people who have handmaids in that show deserve kids because of 'god'? That sure as hell wasn't consent, especially for Offred. Unlike that IVF does have consent from the donors or your own (from using your own sperm and eggs).
The TV reference aside, unlike The Handmaid's tale, couples or just people who want to have children use IVF for infertilty and other reasons, and even I disagree with some uses of IVF, like using it only for getting blue eyes, or some other feature, but still you can do what you want with your own body and the donors consented when donating in the first place. One other woman who used the same donor my mother used, was single and just wanted to have a kid without needing to meet someone.
(She even lives in New York, which is hard and very expensive. She's a very nice woman and wonderful mother to her son. She's still is single to this day. Honestly, what a powerful, kickass woman.)
'Oh are your children natural?'
Everything done with science is natural. Sex and IVF both do the same result, pregnancy, and that pregnancy is done the same as one created by sex.
You should never or even dare to question how a woman conceived. Or is it your business how.
Even if your a close friend or just family, you have no right to know or force someone to tell you if they've done IVF. Or especially tell the kids of those parents yourself that they're born from IVF.
IVF doesn't equal lesser children, or lesser parents.
We are all human, and nature always comes with nurture.
I address my biological donor as 'Uncle Bob' or just 'The donor'. As a twin, no doubt my mother has heard the 'Are they natural?' question. My mother is my mother and my father is the one who raised me, not a college student looking for some money.
Why don't you adopt?
Both Adoption and IVF are expensive. Just because you struggle with infertility, doesn't mean adoption is the only option.
Everyone, infertile or not, can adopt someone. I want to encourage people to just adopt more even if they have kids of their own, but I don't force the option. I understand the want to have your own kids and have your own pregnancy.
Just because you don't deal with infertility doesn't mean to pass the responsibility elsewhere. We all have a responsibility to help future generations.
You can adopt, but why force it on others? Why can't you just adopt kids instead of having your own if you don't struggle with infertility?
Adoption is also more complex than you think. Some people are not cut out to adopt kids. Look in-depth to any adoption form and research the adoption process, because it isn't as easy as just picking out a kid from the crowd.
Final Notez
1. Research multiple opinions and facts about IVF, from people who actually go through it and live as an IVF child.
2. When you donate eggs or Sperm, it will most likely go to infertility treatments and as a donor you will know and expect that. If you aren't okay with that, then don't become a donor.
3. Every man and woman has a right to have a kid, if they struggle with infertility or not.
3. Woman and Men have a right to decide where their sperm and eggs can be used, and how they wish to conceive even if you don't agree with it.
4. Don't be like those people in the Handmaid's Tale, God does not determine if you have children.
