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Jess

@jessicaoakley

5.8.15 | Forever and Always | Unconditionally

Okay, this is fucked up. There is an ad on YouTube that begins with a face whispering in a creepy voice, “Click skip and die.” Over and over again. If you have anxiety over these kinds of things or get scared easily, please watch out for this ad or stay away from YouTube for awhile. I know that, personally, the first time I saw this ad, I was not paying attention to the screen and I almost started crying and freaking out afterwards. PLEASE WATCH OUT FOR THIS AD AND STAY SAFE EVERYONE.

Dear Depression I don’t exactly remember when I met you, or what life was like before you. But I remember the dark shadow you cast over me, and the heavy chains that hold me down. I can feel the heaviness on my chest when you begin to take over or how you chant your destructive words into my ears. how you break me down at every chance you get, how you remind me that I will never be enough, ever.. Every single day you are there when I am trying to focus on the light and you are the only one whom I can count on to be around at night, A sad reminder of my empty heart. laughing at me as I cry on the floor at 2am; as the blade touches presses up on my skin My mind is always hazy. I wish you never came here. I fight with a mind that wants to die, and a body that is so full of life You took the only thing that I ever wanted My happiness.   Goodbye dark demon, for you are not welcomed here anymore. With each passing day I light another candle within my soul; to brighten the darkness you cast over me One day you will see your fate. My mind is no longer a welcomed playground for your games. You don’t own me anymore.

PSA;

It’s summer time or at least nearing it and I felt like maybe it was time I talked to you guys about body confidence and feeling good about yourself. I want to start of with saying that firstly I am not the smallest person in the world, I may stand at 5ft 2″ but i’m a UK size 18-20. I have always been a bigger kid, even when I was young and I have been bullied for it and it took my a while to say fuck you to those people. And while I have my doubts about my appearance I have come to be relatively comfortable with my weight and my appearance. Even if I still have doubts about people finding me attractive.  

I put on a pair of shorts today for the first time in 3 years and yeah I feel self-conscious about how large my thighs are and the marks on my body, but I want to get over that so i’m doing it. What I want you guys to realise is that no matter how small or big or short or tall you are, no matter what colour your skin is, not matter if you have fat rolls or stretch marks, no matter what your body looks like you are beautiful. I’ll say it 1000 times or more if I have to. As an art student I’ve found that while I may not love my own body I find that bodies that are larger, bodies that are smaller, all sorts of bodies are beautiful. I want you guys to be able to feel comfortable in your own skin and I want you to be able to wear what you want. It’s not about what other’s see when they look at you, it’s how you feel. 

When it comes to other people most are not arseholes who’re going to grab at your fat like i’ve experienced, most are people who aren’t going to care what you wear or how much you weigh. And everyone has preferences, I am as attracted to a built guy as I am to a chubby guy or a lanky guy. What you perceive as unattractive might not be the same as another person. You are attractive. You’re beautiful. You’re handsome. You’re hot. You’re a unstoppable goddess/god that will have people bowing at your feet. All I want is for you guys to feel that comfortable and that confident, to be able to do as you wish without thinking ‘i’m too ____ to pull that off’ You can pull everything off. You are amazing.