I’m so tired of stereotypes that come along every Black women. And the fact that they were created by the white media really pisses me off! I am very proud of all Black girls and I admire all their accomplishments despite the hate of the modern society.
love really is just "i am thinking of you. i will ask you if you are okay. i remember your favorite flavor of tea. i want to talk to you. i hope your mother is well. i will read to you. i like your laugh. this perfume gives you a headache. i want to help you. i will sit next to you. i got you the chocolate you like. your eyes have gold in them. i think you'd like this book. i miss you when you aren't here." isn't it
leave it behind. you don’t have to take everything with you.
Sometimes "getting better" means it hurts less to get up in the morning. Means it is a bit easier to step into the shower. Means small things make you smile again. This is okay. "Getting better" doesn't have to be giant steps. I'm so proud of you, no matter what.
Normani as Santanico Pandemonium from, From Dusk Till Dawn (1996) for Halloween (2021)
Sure, detransition is real. The vast majority of people who detransition do so because of trans antagonism, not because they were pressured into transitioning in the first place. Most of the detransitioners I know are fully supportive of the trans community. Many of them even plan on transitioning again later in life.
Hope it’s okay that I add to this. As someone who detransitioned, I personally did it due to my parents, extended family, and other people in general. Also, having no support or anyone who wanted to even try to understand. I was too afraid of other people hurting me, so I didn’t reach out more. I just tried to white knuckle it and bottle up all of that pain. After 3 years I thought “is this going to be my entire life? Alone except for people who just add to my pain? Afraid of everyone?” I couldn’t do it anymore. I was just a kid. I couldn’t handle the cruelty.
Thank you for sharing! And for the people asking, this study is from the National Center for Transgender Equality, which surveyed nearly 28,000 people. The results are skewed, of course, but this is still considered the best data we have by research professionals.
my toxic trait is i refuse to use any alternative to tumblr. i will be here literally until it implodes. there will be 4 total posts on the entire platform and i’ll still be here. then when it dies i will take my graceful exit from social media
bring back the habits that made you happy as a child. there’s no reason you should ever have to give up harmless things that bring you joy. you don’t have to age out of having fun. finger paint. write mediocre fanfiction and questionable poetry. put chocolate chips in your waffles. sing in the bath, and while working in the yard, and while washing your hands. hammer tunelessly on a piano. spin in circles until you fall down. climb a tree. just because you’re now in charge of your life doesn’t mean you’re expected to give up on the things that make life feel worth living
If I could impart one thing to a young adult - it would be this. This is literally the secret to being okay your entire life.
