You know. Some people could really stand to get more comfortable with the idea of “you shouldn’t say that because it’s mean”. Especially with really common body shaming and straight up bullying lines.

“You shouldn’t make ugly bald jokes because what if a transman on T sees it!”

“You shouldn’t make virgin jokes because what if someone who’s asexual sees it!”

How about you just don’t make them because they’re mean. How about people can be balding or a virgin for a number of reasons and also don’t deserve to be routinely made fun of. How about saying that the reason you shouldn’t make x joke because it spares x specific identity’s feelings also let’s them know that you actually have no problem saying or thinking bald people are ugly or virgins are stupid or etc but you’re just not saying it in front of them. How about you understand this kind of body shaming and bullying especially in a very public setting online are always going to have way more unintended damage to people who did nothing wrong than damage to the person you’re upset with.

Sometimes the best reason to not make a bad joke like that is because it’s fucking mean.

Reblog if you’re 30 or older

This is an experiment to see if there really are as few of us as people think.You can also use this to freak out your followers who think you’re 25 or something. Yay!

…Older. :)

*Way* older than 30….

Way older 🎉🎊🪅

ya im complainiong about them i want the COOL PANTS not the MOM OF THE COOL PANTS

Making a Chinese lacquerware bracelet

song: 兰亭序 - 周杰伦

English added by me :)

Please remember whenever you are grinding any kind of mollusk shell to wear PPE to avoid inhalation. Several mollusks share a protein that allows them to bind high amounts of heavy metals ingested through filter-feeding in their tissue and shells. This is harmless to the mollusk, but exposure, especially prolonged exposure, can be very dangerous to humans.

Some artists who have ground shells for their work have been affected by severe, irreversible damage to the lungs. This is already a problem with dust in general (stone, wood, doesn’t matter), but more so with shells of filter-feeders. Please wear the type of mask appropriate for the task.

Ngl the concept of natural talent has done so much harm to our relationship to art and I hate it. No one is naturally talented at anything, get that idea out of your head. Artists are not like, special or gifted or blessed or whatever, we're just people who like art enough to keep making it, and thus there is nothing stopping you or anyone else from making art. You were not born without the artist gene and thus doomed to never find joy in drawing or singing or acting or sculpting, you're a person and people have ALWAYS made art.

It just like, it fucking kills me so much every single time I hear someone say that they would love to draw but they're just "naturally bad" at it and so they can't, especially when they then contrast themselves against me and imply I have some natural talent that means I can be an artist because no!! I don't!! The only reason I'm "good" at drawing is bcs I never stopped. I picked up a crayon as a baby and I never put it down and so I have like 27 years of experience drawing, that's why I'm "good" at it. So please trust me when I say anyone can draw. And cook. And paint and sing and act and dance. You were not born lacking, you're just new to it! You just have to keep going, you'll get better!

I just...it's so fucking heartbreaking to constantly hear the people around me essentually claim that they were born incomplete and thus they can never have fun drawing or singing or just making art. That's a horrible thing to believe, and I know our society does nothing but reinforce it by punishing us for not being perfect and making a mockery of amatures and pushing the talent myth, but trust me, you were not born wrong. There is no "make art gene" that you're missing. As cheesy as it sounds, you actually can learn to do almost anything if you put your mind to it. It might not be easy, but you are not broken. You're just learning.

I've posted this before but I'll post it again bcs he's right:

Making art is human. You can make art. Hell, you can make bad art! You don't have to improve! Art isn't about good or bad, it's about partaking in a human activity because it makes us happy. I really think society would be a better place if everyone was allowed to make as much art as they want, good or bad, bcs this weird dual reverence for talent and disregard for the actual work that goes into art just serves to bolster the capitalist, AI ridden hellscape that we live in today.

Anyway, if you are one of those people who is holding back from trying some kind of art bcs you're not talented, do me the favor of trying again. I want to see all of the beautiful, earnest, imperfect art my fellow humans make. We need that now, honestly. So please, don't give up. Make art. And if you can't, well, at least try to support the people around you who do, even if they aren't churning out masterpieces. Trust me, it's good for you. It's good for all of us.

The "Might as Well" principle for people with ADHD means leaning into your urge to take care of needs immediately when you notice them, and take that task-hopping tendency as an opportunity to "clean as you go".

You were probably raised to think there's only 1 "right" way to be productive. This is false. You don't need to (and honestly you CAN'T) become neurotypical, but you've probably spent a lot of your life striving to achieve success in a neurotypical way. This can be detrimental to your mental health. You have to learn what works best for YOU.

You don't need to feel guilty for not keeping a strict routine and an aesthetically pleasing home. Your goal should be keeping your environment (minimally) livable and safe.

This principle is intended to help with chore struggles, but it can also apply to personal care, and other areas of the ADHD struggle.

Please feel free to add more!!

Waiting for the microwave to beep, or the pasta water to boil? Might as well see if you can get a few dishes done. You can’t empty a full sink in two minutes, but you can set the dirty stuff soaking, or wipe and rise some of the stuff that was already soaking.

Sometimes this leads me to actually finish cleaning the kitchen, sometimes it doesn’t, either way I have a few less dirty dishes in my life.

This is really the only way I manage to clean the bathroom most of the time.

The EU is doing a big survey for LGBTQ people who live in the EU about how it is for them right now. That's the kind of survey that's used for official reports and for laws so it's super important that it has as many people taking it as possible. You can take it in every EU language. (You can change the language in the top right corner) Share it with your friends!

https://www.lgbtiqsurvey.eu/lgbtiq

Its a good survey that uses respectful language. I just took it. It should be said that the survey is also open to people in Albania, North Macedonia and Serbia.

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I, a hearing person who likes subtitles just as a preference, shouldn't have to read a subtitle that's obvious nonsense, go back a couple seconds, and listen again in order to figure out what's going on. An accessibility feature should not be the most half-assed part of a professionally made production. Scripted media has absolutely no excuse for not having subtitles or having subtitles that aren't perfectly verbatim. Professional captioning services should be ashamed of the shoddy work that they put out. Captions should be treated as a part of the production, just like filming, editing, audio balancing, etc - and anything that releases with missing or bad captions should be seen as unfinished

the greatest logo redesign of all time is the mozilla logo

look at that. the old logo was meh they changed it instead you finally get a SERIF FONT. and it says moz://a. you can type that into ur address bar and it sends you to their website. thats cool as hell. a logo that doesnt look like a URL but it is. how the hell do you even do that

That is an excellent piece of graphic design!

And the joke about the URL is that we almost always use http:// as a protocol, but mail:// works too, and sometimes ftp:// but they're all handled in the browser. So Mozilla Firefox can make moz://a redirect to the page at https://www.mozilla.org/en-US/about/manifesto/ -- which is why it doesn't work on Chrome or Safari.

And this is the 30th anniversary of the WWW being released as open source software, and the first widely-available browser, Mosaic, which led to Netscape and eventually to Mozilla.

Single funniest piece of Shakespeare merch I have ever seen.

so embarrassing when i forget im checking someone's blog and i start scrolling through and liking and reblogging shit as if it's just my dash. it feels like wandering into someone else's apartment and not noticing and making myself lunch

reblog if i can wander into your apartment (blog) and make myself lunch (like and reblog as if it's my dash)

Man if i woke up to this in the 1st century you bet your ass I'd tell everyone that demons are real.

due to inflation you must answer my riddles five

due to budget cuts i will grant you two wishes

due to recent layoffs there is only one of me and I lie 50% of the time

Its rly easy to say "minimizing how many opiods we prescribe is statistically saving lives" when you only have to count opiod deaths and not death and illness from withdrawal, addicts switching to other drugs, and people who might have needed opiods and didnt receive them becoming addicted to tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs and taking unsafe amounts of otc medications. Its also rly easy to feel good abt what youre doing when you dont have to think abt the non-lethal impact on addicts and people with chronic pain bc you dont have to put it on your little chart

Oh yeah and its also extremely fucking convenient you dont have a statistic showing how many ppl die or get immensely sick or are robbed of their quality of life because they dont receive the healthcare they need because doctors unilaterally label their behavoir as "drug seeking" or refuse to prescribe them the right medication. Its fucking convenient suicides are basically never relevantly connected to medical malpractice and discrimination

THIS THIS THIS I've been saying this for years!

"Opioids kill people though" SO DOES REFUSING TO PRESCRIBE THEM TO PEOPLE WHO NEED THEM!

"It's good that your doctor won't give you Tramadol, that stuff can be addictive!" Super, wonderful, great, so now I can die at age 42 of a heart attack or stroke caused by the stress of constant pain and sleep deprivation! I can watch my stomach implode in on itself after too many years of too many strong NSAIDs because I can't get anything else! Or maybe I'll manage to pickle my liver first drinking half a bottle of cheap strong booze every night in a desperate effort to dull the pain! Oh, oh, oh, maybe I'll get desperate enough to turn to street drugs which aren't regulated and either die of an overdose or of something dangerous the drug was laced with! Or maybe I'll eventually become one of the countless people who turns to suicide because I can't live with the pain anymore!

Thanks so much for saving me from that terrifying ADDICTION, doc! Now I definitely won't live long enough to get addicted to anything, and you won't even have to write down on your little chart that it was your fault!!!!!

For reference: colors produced using dyes available in the Middle Ages. [source]

A reminder that the clothing of the Middle Ages was less brown (and the people were more brown) than often depicted.

Anyway yes, people who can X should be accomodating to people who can't X. People who can walk should accomodate people who can't. People who can hear should accomodate people who can't. People who can see should accomodate people who can't. And on and on. When that doesn't happen, it's a problem that deserves to be talked about.

But the problem is not and has never been "physical disabilities are more important and deserve more accomodations than mental disabilities"- nor the other way around either.

People love to dunk on folks with ADD/ADHD but you know? As someone with ADD raised by diabetic parents I gotta say there's a lot of similarities here. People with ADD, myself included, often forget to eat and when they do eat they often load themselves up with carbs and sugars because those foods make their brains feel good. People with diabetes have to closely monitor their meals and often crave sugars and need a blend of sugary and protein-rich snacks on hand. This is not to say ADD and diabetes are exact one-to-one disabilities.

But having grown up watching my parents manage their diabetes, I too am very aware of meal times and blood sugar and constructing meals that will tide you over and having a blend of sugary and protein-rich snacks on hand Just In Case. I am able to manage my ADD better in this way because I have experience from watching my parents. I also need access to snacks and to be able to say to my boss "I need to go eat something real fast" without being punished.

I had a training client who was the image of "able bodied mentally ill" outside of the usual creaks and squeaks associated with age, her body worked just fine. But after a series of incidents in her youth- a car accident that left her with a serious brain injury, coming home from the hospital afterwards to immediately have her house broken into and herself raped by an intruder, and assorted medical malpractice while she was healing from both- she has a serious and extreme case of agoraphobia and spent the next 40 years completely unable to leave the house. She would hide and wail and scream when deliveries of groceries and other goods would come, because it meant a stranger (and usually a man) would be at her door. She could not go more than a couple steps outside to get her mail and especially not if other people were outside.

At some point her therapist suggested getting a pet, one that *had* to go outside, to help her. So she got a dog and contacted a trainer (me) and we got to work. And she did improve! The dog has been a huge help to managing her symptoms! But you cannot seriously expect me to have worked with this woman for years and then belittle mental illnesses as being lesser when this woman also shares the inability to even leave her house let alone go inside a grocery store. Even today there are times when she simply cannot, she cannot will her body to move out of her door and into transportation let alone into the building.

When she first started coming to me she thanked me for not belittling her or making her feel bad for classes she had to cancel because she couldn't force herself to take the first step over the threshold. That is when she told me what happened to her and that while it sounds terrible she was really happy to have found a trainer who knew something personal about trauma and brain injuries. She is also a case where I feel her ESA should be considered service dog not because of training or tasking but because her need is so high and she is just completely incapable of doing anything without the dog in her arms.

Anyway I think of her any time someone says "but you can walk through the door". There's nothing wrong with her legs so in theory sure she could. But often she *can't*, not because of anything physical, but because she is very severely mentally ill.

The false division between "disorders of the brain" and "disorders of every other part of thy body" is bullshit nonsense that only serves to shore up institutional ableism. It's exhausting!

If I accidentally eat gluten, my immune system starts attacking my whole body, including my brain! Before I was diagnosed with celiac, I had a terrible temper. I was constantly irritable, like I had sand inside my brain case. I was also paranoid as fuck. It took a LOT of energy every day to not freak out at everybody all the time.

When I stopped eating gluten and my body healed? All of the mental symptoms went away.

So... is that a physical disability or a mental one?

Trick fucking question, because it's both.

Look, I get that it's very tempting for people to give in to the weird Protestant "mental disabilities aren't really all that, it's just malingering, it's not real the way that my physical disability is, it's not crippling," but like, that's internalized ableist propaganda and it doesn't serve anybody.

What's more crippling, the PTSD that can send me to bed for days at a time after a bad interaction with a trigger or the scarred spinal cord that can do the same thing?

(Trick question again.)

Anyway. As with all things, the question is: who does this division serve?

It isn't us, that's for sure.

PSA: i keep seeing posts about staying cool in extreme heat that include advice like "gatorade is bad actually!" and "don't drink fruit juice it'll just dehydrate you!" and neither of these are true!

regarding fruit juice: there's apparently a misconception that Any Sugar At All will dehydrate you, and that's simply not true. yes, sugar will make you pee more when consumed in large amounts, but 1) the natural sugar in fruits won't do this to you 2) great news! a lot of fruit juices exist without any added sugar in them! 3) honestly even having a glass of the fruit juice with added sugar won't completely dehydrate you as long as you're also drinking water throughout the day. if its hot you deserve a cold treat of a drink!!! can't go wrong with fruit juice!!!

regarding gatorade: maybe this isn't an every day drink, but guess what: if it's 110F/40C or hotter outside, and you don't have AC, or you're moving around a lot outside of the AC, and you're sweating buckets: that's when you drink a gatorade.

gatorade exists to replenish all the electrolytes (salt) and glucose (sugar) that you sweat out. YES it is meant for athletes to drink during intensive work outs and not necessarily for people who aren't doing that kind of exercise. BUT GUESS WHAT! when you're sweating buckets because you had to walk to the bus in extreme heat, that's intensive exercise. please feel free to drink a gatorade after that! that's its intended use case!!!!

no: neither of these drinks should be a total replacement for water. but drinking a lot of water and then treating yourself to a fruit juice with lunch is a good idea!!! drinking a gatorade becuase you just had to walk for 20 minutes in the heat is a good idea!!!

Please Stop Spreading Misinformation About Drinks!!! It's fine if you drink things that aren't water!!!! Yes you should probably always be drinking water but drinking something else As Well isn't going to hurt you!!!! okay!!!! its fine!!!!!!

honestly so long as you are consistently getting Any (non-alcoholic) fluids in you, you're doing great!!!!!! okay!!!! i love you stay safe <3

#most drinks are mostly water!#it's fine!#don't try to hydrate with alcohol because alcohol is not mostly water!#otherwise: please drink lots of fluids#water is ideal but whatever gets the hydration in you#literally take a sip babes

Gatorade, to me, tastes like trash unless I need it, in which case it tastes so delicious. might just be me, but like... if the Gatorade tastes like the most delectable thing you've ever had?

Have another one, and also some water.

I've had a mild case of heatstroke before when camping at a summer festival. No matter how much water my friends helped me drink, I didn't feel much less dizzy or delirious; even as they managed to cool my body down in other ways (if you've got access to a cooler, ice packs or cold cans/bottles under the armpits is a godsend for heatstroke). The first thing the medics did when they got there was feed me Pringles and a bottle of Gatorade; that salt and sugar hitting my tongue was more like finding water in a desert than the actual water. I went from slurred speech and brain fog to cracking jokes in about five minutes. If you have a choice between water and Gatorade, drink both.

Dude I wish I were faking my disorders, do you know how annoying it is to live like this? Lmao.

Someone once told me that I was annoying because I couldn't focus or remember anything and all I could think to say was "at least you can walk away- I live here"