popping in after the gemini comment to say as a virgo that’s completely true. geminis do not deserve that level of hate. gemini placements are far from the worst sign!!
agreed! i think a lot of people see geminis as two faced when we’re really just adaptable and love to talk 💀
ALSO INDIANS CAN BE JEWISH THANK YOU BYE
Child free weddings are so weird to me.
Imagine not inviting a member of your family to your wedding because...what? Ngl this is like a white thing to me. To keep children out of a family event and to keep them from seeing family, older relatives and cousins is weird to me. To make people choose between your wedding and childcare when that's not plausible is a white upper class thing.
Thank you for you addition, and honestly I should mention that it isn’t just a white thing, and I am guilty of looking at it from the “black” persepctive. So I should say that as a black woman, childfree weddings aren’t a thing in our community (not saying they don’t happen).
Usually kids will gravitate towards grandparents or a family member who typically loves being around kids (either an aunt, grandpa, etc.), and who want to know them. Again, it’s usually grandparents, or great-grandparents. It’s such a privilege for younger kids to meet their older relatives in our community, so weddings are a good time for that.
And then there’s the fact that not everyone in our community has weddings, so the oportunity to take children to see weddings is really important. Not that people don’t drink, but in my experience and my knowledge, it’s usually during the afterparty, or if there is drinking, there’s other to watch kids.
We look at it like “it takes a village” to raise a kid, so there’s never an expectation that someone won’t be there. We keep kids close for reasons starting from slavery to our spiritual beliefs!
I wanted to explain myself a bit, as well as acknowledging that this isn’t just a white thing, and I shouldn’t have assumed that.
According to my memory, traditional Chinese weddings rarely had young children present.
Even if there were children there, they would be together in a separate location apart from the adults who were active participants in the ceremonies.
Granted, things are probably different now in year 2022. But children having a children's space apart from the adults' space for occasions meant for adults has very much been a thing in traditional Chinese culture.
I remember how horrified I was, at the first dinner my husband and I had as husband and wife with his parents and two sisters, when his sisters' kids insisted on sitting not only with us but also in between us, the newly wed couple. Because of how I was raised, where I was from that would have earned those kids a serious scolding for having the nerve to even suggest something so outrageous, because they didn't know their place and were being completely rude to intrude upon the just married couple. And I felt so disrespected when their mothers insisted that I should let their kids sit in between their uncle and new aunt, that they were just kids trying to be sweet.
My family would have had a children's table for them so they did not "bother" the adults who were celebrating a major milestone for a daughter of the family. I told the story to my grandparents, and they were epically pissed. They made sure to let my husband know that I had been treated poorly by my new in-laws as a new member of their family all right.
Yikes, sorry about that! As I said above, I should have added context and mentioned that as someone who’s black, it’s something that’s not very common to me. Though I think there’s also just an uptake of unwarranted child hate that I’ve seen recently correlated with this, but not in reference to you or your tradition.
I should have made that clear too. The specific child free weddings i’m referencing are in relation to things i’ve been seeing on social media that are often coupled with child hate.
Yeah I totally get you, bestie! ❤
Marriages and weddings are huge deals to the Chinese, especially the older generations, so they take them very seriously. But children are a huge deal, too. I think childfree by choice was practically unheard of in China prior to the 21st century. Which is why I can cut my grandparents some slack for getting on my case about adopting after I told them I can't physically bear children.
There is that whole respecting your elders thing that's such a huge deal across Asian cultures. Asian kids are very strictly taught from birth to be respectful to adults because they're kids and not on the same level of adults. And my family is pretty old school. My status and rank within the family changed drastically after I got married, because I became a wedded woman and was no longer a maiden.
Some of it gets ridiculous even for me, lol! But millennia of cultural traditions sure run deep.
Emily Dickinson’s Herbarium.
Dickinson’s favorite flowers include the gentian, the crown imperial, the geranium, the rose, and the Indian pipes that her friend Mabel Todd painted to adorn the cover of the first edition of Dickinson’s poems in 1890. Dickinson also compared herself to a daylily (“red like her auburn hair”). (x)
ANGUS CLOUD as FEZCO Euphoria | 2.03 “Ruminations: Big and Little Bullys”
girl what’s your take on the whole recasting t’challa thing ?
It’s disrespectful. Chadwick didn’t just play T’Challa, he had a lot of input on the movie as well. The scene with them dancing on the river boats? Chadwick’s idea. We got “Bury me in the ocean with my ancestors” because of Chadwick. The reason they speak Xhosa? Chadwick. If he wasn’t T’Challa that movie wouldn’t have been the masterpiece that it was (not saying it couldn’t have been good, but it wouldn’t have been THAT.)
So how fucking dare you people be so disrespectful as to want to recast him? Everybody crying about “we need representation” can kiss both sides of my yellowbone ass.
AND I REPEAT…
Y’all wouldn’t dare do this to RDJ or CE or one of y’all’s favorite white boys if they had passed so show some goddamn respect and get over the fact that T’Challa in the MCU is no more.
I’m glad Marvel put their foot down and said absolutely not instead of listening to you people.
If you miss T’Challa, go read the comics or play the video games or watch the movie or even the tv series with Djimon Hounsou…but leave MCU T’Challa alone.
Zendaya attends the Dune Premiere at the 78th Venice International Film Festival
On Wednesday, September 1, 2021, Texas’s new law, S.B. 8, went into effect. This law effectively bans abortion in the state AND asks private citizens to act as bounty hunters to “enforce” the law.
Then, in the dead of the night, the Supreme Court turned its back on 50 years of precedent, rendering Roe v. Wade effectively meaningless in Texas. The Supreme Court allowed Texas’s unconstitutional six week abortion ban to go into effect. Six weeks is before many people know that they’re pregnant.
This is an attack on human rights and Texas law sets a dangerous legal precedent and could clear a path for states to override people’s constitutional rights. If the courts let this bill stand we can expect to see similar bills introduced in states across the country.
Abortion is health care. Yet politicians are consistently attacking access to that care (even during a pandemic).
Tumblr, let's rally our voice and speak out against this ban.
Ways to take action:
there is nothing too big or too small for you to manifest.
like, you gotta know you are the rock, the sun, the moon and the star. you deserve everything in the entire universe and more. there is nothing in this life that you cannot have. dream big, as the life is truly your oyster.
you want your dream job? you can manifest that! you want the perfect partner? your wish is my command! you want a fat ass? the world is your oyster!
don’t ever, ever, EVER, settle for less! you deserve every single one of your desires, and with just the right mindset, everything you could wish for will be right in the palm of your hand.
dream big, my love.
Comic on having long-COVID as a young person. Sending love to others who may be similarly suffering.
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