Hey. Do you need a hug?

Maybe you’re having a stressful day. Maybe you just need a deep breath. Maybe you just didn’t realize how stressed you are. It’s okay! You deserve love and warmth in your life.

Are you comforted by words? 

Do you need to hear some pleasant ambient sounds?

ASMR? Stimming? 

How about a game or activity distraction?

Do you need something soothing?

How about a laugh?

It’s going to be okay. Today may be the worst day of your life - but tomorrow won’t be. Life is a series of ups and downs, and that means there’s going to be good and bad. Drink some water, let yourself cry if you need to, and get a good night’s sleep. You’ll feel better in the morning. 

This is deception

HOLD THE FUCK UP

twitters been on “all crime is legal for 24 hours” since the trump corona announcement

¿Pero que lleva en esa maleta?

Look, actual mimes are the fucking coolest.

they are friends <3

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Friendly reminder to check your breasts while you’re just sitting there scrolling the internet, then reblog so your followers do the same. Two people I know were just diagnosed within the same week.

these are the things that need spread. not fucking ribbons and the words “breast cancer awareness.” we know it exists. just knowing it exists isn’t going to help much.

for everyone who has breasts or is rather busty in the chest area (because men can get it too and not everyone who has breasts is a woman)

Quick reminder for my followers with boobs! I checked mine and I’m all clear.

Also amab people as well! While it is rare, people who are amab can develop breast cancer too, because even though it’s thin [in some cases] you still have breast tissue, just not mammary glands, which is what produces milk :-O

i’ve been having terrible back ache for a week now, but i just did this and i heard a loud POP!!!… back ache is gone folks

i have this on my office wall and gave a copy to the front desk staff who also put it on their wall.

FINALLY GOT ABLE SISTER’S! I have a creator code now! These are all the designs (that i think are decent enough) I have made so far, I hope you like them! <3

— soft memes

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I need to watch this whenever I have a bad day. 

this meme made me realise that other people apparently know how to show empathy without personal anecdotes 

… how…. please teach me

I’m pretty sure none of us will get answers but please…if someone knows the secrets to showing empathy without personal anecdotes please speak up. We need answers

(Me (adhd + autism) can show empathy, but not sympathy. For me, it’s like I do the exact same thing, but as well as showing empathy through anecdotes I show sympathy through empathy).

@decabus @some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat @messynogenderpotato

I have somethin I guess? I’ve been the Support Friend for most of my life so I managed to get it down to a formula. TW: dog death

1. Ask Questions

This is mainly to keep them talking, that way a) they feel like they have a confidante in you, and b) the pressure is less on you to Say Things. In fact it shouldn’t be about you Saying Things at all, it should be you figuring out where they’re at and trying to understand.  E.g. “My dog died, I miss him.” Ask questions, and when they start talking, let them talk. “What was his name?” “How and when did he die?” “Tell me about him.” “What was he like?” “What’s your favourite memory of him?” “When did you first meet him?” “Did you teach him any tricks?” Again the point is to keep them talking, the questions are just to get them on a roll. If you’re worrying about what to say next, listen to what they’re saying and ask details of what they’re currently talking about, or mentally prepare your next question.

2. Listen

Let them talk. The more you listen to them talk, the more they feel like it’s okay to talk to you. If they dwindle off, ask them something else to get them talking again. Upset people usually have a lot to say.

Every now and again you can throw in little sentences like “Wow, what a bitch!” “Aw, so sad.” “What the fuck? Why?” just to prove you’re still listening and following, and haven’t wandered off into space.

3. When they’re done, give it back to them

It’s a technique called mirroring. Sum up whatever you heard in short form - if they’ve talked for half an hour about the little details of their deceased pet, say something like “It sounds like he was a very good boy/sounds like he meant a lot to you/sounds like you will miss him.” It’s been known to make people dissolve into a sobbing mess, because this is the part where you prove you’ve done your homework, you listened, you care, you get it.

4. If you really want to offer a solution, ask first. You can just skip this step altogether tbh.

Only when someone has finished talking about whatever is upsetting them, ask if you can help. “Can I offer some advice?”  Now is the time for SHORT anecdotes. Short. It’s not about you sharing your story, it’s about them getting advice. Remember they don’t have to take your advice, again it’s about them and their emotions, and they know themselves best. “When my dog died, I did this. Would that help?” “I read somewhere about doing this. Maybe try that and see how it goes?”

Hope this helps y’all. The TL;DR of all this is basically listen, and prove you’re listening.

Thank you!!!

That explanation really is so good!

as someone with ADHD: this has saved me

i’m sorry for pushing you away because i can’t handle my feelings

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Recreation of Unnus Annus in ACNH

DOODLES!

A while ago I had to do a presentation about a book for my Cambridge English  class and I chose one of my faves: “History is all you left me.”

I doodled the way I view the main characters in the book for the presentation and decided to upload them since I was p satisfied with these boyos~

(vía https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6RytLVt78hFalQcdZA7BlN?si=eFtkP6uOQTWn732TgwftPw)

Here’s an update from my playlist of pride music to chill during quarentine, feel free to recommend more music to include!, I’ll be posting updates and adding songs that you recommend that can fit the vibe of the playlist, hope u guys enjoy this <3 and happy pride month <3