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A lot of stories of wlw discovering their sexuality later in life focus around denial. Stories of obviously being into girls, but pretending it wasn’t attraction. Stories of your puppy crushes on your best girl friend, your female teacher, the cute girl in your class, that you told yourself was anything but a crush but retrospectively definitely was.
That’s great, and sharing “baby gay” stories is lots of fun, but it isn’t applicable to all wlw. For some, they had no stories from their childhood/teen years that involved repressed feelings for girls. Their attraction to them truly is a recent thing, something very “sudden”. If that applies to you, it’s easy to think you’re faking it, because if you were really a wlw, wouldn’t you have signs of it earlier on?
The answer is: not necessarily.
There’s no time limit for discovering your love of women. Even if you were alive for 20, 30, 40, 80 years without having any attraction to women, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible for it to happen now. For some people (but not everyone!) sexuality can be fluid, and you can discover and nurture a side of you previously unknown to you.
Maybe you were never really into boys but only recently figured out that you were into girls instead. Maybe you were married for 20 years and after your divorce, you fell in love with a woman. Maybe you never met a girl that’s “your type” but now that you have, you’re falling for her, and hard. Maybe your best friend coming out to you made you see her in a new light that you had never considered before. Maybe your partner realizing she was a trans woman opened your mind to to the possibility of loving a woman, because you love her as a person and you realized that gender is no barrier to that. Maybe you recently came to terms with being a trans woman, and your newfound comfort in your gender identity gave you the chance to explore your sexuality.
No matter what your story, it’s never too late to discover your sexuality. You do not need to have signs of liking women early on in order to be “legitimate”. Even if you never had a reason to believe you were anything but straight, if you find yourself starting to wonder if you’re not, you deserve the space to discover yourself and your identity.
And to other wlw who knew early on: you may be tempted to brush off these women, saying they aren’t really wlw (or not really bi, lesbian, etc.) or that they give a negative impression of the community overall, but try to be understanding. Our journeys do not all look the same. Be understanding of your fellow wlw even if they discovered themselves at a different pace. Someone’s past does not necessarily dictate their present, or their future.
Part 2 of Gender Recognition is stupid and arbitrary.
(I’m he/they/ze)
So, this blew up on TikTok and you would not believe (I’m being sarcastic) the amount of people trying to tell me I’m fat, ugly, and mentally ill. I’ve got people claiming I’m “pumping myself full of synthetic chemicals” (I’m pre- T), people claiming my voice “gives it away” (I’m Deaf), several people telling me either to kill myself or that seeing this has made them want to kill themselves, and that my hands and “way of talking” prove I’m a woman (I studied theatre and I’m autistic).
It’s very interesting. Who’s more a threat to society? Me or the people threatening violence?
When I was a kid, I regularly lost reading privileges for "having an attitude" and "acting out".
It wasn't as simple as being told not to read during other activities- one of the first times it happened, I remember being six years old, watching my stepfather pull fistfuls of books off my bookshelf and throw them to the floor in a heaping mess while I cried and asked him to stop.
It was weird. Every other adult I knew described me as exceptionally well-behaved, but at home, it was the opposite, and it was blamed on "learning bad habits from that shit you're reading".
Because I couldn't read at home, I spent all my free time at school in the library, reading with my friends.
When I grew up and moved away, I realized that my family life was toxic and abusive, and the "attitudes" I was being punished for were standing up for myself, standing up for my younger siblings, and resisting actual, real-life psychological abuse. Because I'd learned from what I'd read that my family wasn't normal, not like my parents said it was, and in my stories, the heroes were the people who spoke out when it was hard to.
It is insane to me that there are students right now who can't access books. It is insane that books are being outlawed. It is perverse that we are stealing away an entire generation's ability to contextualize their lives, to learn about the world around them, to develop critical thinking skills and express themselves and feel connected to the world or escape from it, whatever and whenever and however they need.
That is not how you raise a compassionate, thoughtful, powerful society.
That's how you process cattle.
It's fucking disgusting.
its wild to me when people act like extremism is actually effective in convincing kids to do what you say because the real relationship between strictness and obedience is a parabola
just thinking of that time as a kid i heard my mom talking to another mom and say that she couldn’t believe that some people treated off-screen sex in movies like it wasn’t inappropriate because kids could guess what you were implying happened off screen and then IMAGINE it so it’s just as bad really. and i just remember thinking well if not watching sex on screen is just as bad as watching sex on screen i might as well watch hardcore porn now. and then i did
[id: a parabola with the y axis labeled “likelihood that kids will try it” and an x axis labeled “severity with which conservative parents try to scare children away from somethin’“ end id]
Well, you know, some bathroom graffiti offers insight.
Red marker handwriting on a bathroom wall. Text reads:
“Boss made a dollar Granddad made a dime But that was a poem From a simpler time.
Boss made a thousand Gave pa a cent But that penny paid the mortgage Or at least it paid the rent
Now Boss makes a million And gives us jack Smugly blames the workers For the labor that he lacks.”
And the words of the prophets are written on the subway walls and tenement halls.
movedtowhiteworms-deactivated20
this is a transgender zone you either support trans rights or you die dude
I look at the news and I read the news and I eat the news and the news gives me tummy ache and there’s no purging it
i love y'all but u gotta quit putting men as kens for being men ken isn't ken because he's a man. barbie isn't barbie bc she's a woman. ken is ken because he's maximum babygirl and barbie is barbie bc she's maximum girlboss. Naruto is a ken but Sasuke is a barbie. princess bubblegum is a barbie marceline is a ken. house is barbie wilson is ken gatsby is a barbie nick is a ken howl pendragon and Sophie are both Barbies zuko and sokka are ken4ken. are you getting it
Elon Musk bankruptcy arc, likes charge, reblogs cast.
I love the taste of white tears in the morning.
"Our tax dollars are being wasted to defend against this" hmm i can think of a possible solution
From the article: Chief George Ginnish of Natoaganeg said private landowners in New Brunswick need not worry.
"We are not looking at taking your homes, cottages, or properties. Our assertion of title is against the Crown and a small number of companies using industrial freehold lands in which the Crown still asserts an interest. We will be seeking compensation from the Crown for the loss of use of private lands," said Ginnish, according to the news release. Kat didn’t read the article but it’s funny to think that she had and she’s panicking over the prospect of *checks notes* land not being plundered for profit.
Woah the indigenous people actually own all the land that you stole from them? What a radical idea! Even though its literally just a consistent application of your own bourgeoise morality if you weren't a hypocrite about it.
congratulations! you’re now a pirate. your seventh most recent emoji is the symbol on your flag. mine is ™️
I’m still thinking about John Leguizamo declaring his support for trans people in the form of a photograph of himself with yellow text over the top saying he’s all for trans and lgbtq+ because love is love
how did he select this picture and did he make this himself or did he have a member of his team make it for him. I think he made it himself.
don’t make me tap the jen silverman essay!!!!
I wonder if this confusion has to do with the widespread postmodern feeling that moral guidance cannot and will not be found through religion, formal education, law, or public discourse. The rising distrust in all our institutions leaves us instinctively looking to art as a moral code. But it isn’t art’s job to BE our moral code. Art is a process that helps us TEST moral codes against human experience and imagination. Art helps us unearth and experiment about morals, but it fundamentally ISN’T morals.
did i tell u guys i got into an argument on twitter bc i said foxes are dogs and someone tried to bring up their actual fuckin. classification or whatever and i just said “foxes are dogs cause they are fluffye” and they kept arguing with me. the entire time i was like “you will not survive the immigration to tumblr you are lucky we are not there right now”
This is especially funny because they aren’t even right. Foxes *ARE* dogs.
No they aren’t.
yes they are. because they are fluffye.
OK yes they are.
mr-system-of-a-downer
Dog
Different family, but same order as @pictures-of-dogs
zarabithia
No, they are the same family. They are the same kingdom, phylum, order and family. They separate at the genus.
They’re a dog.
yeah they’re fluffye
theyre literally not dogs theyre not even fluffy. can we get science tumblr over hear or what!?
checkmate athiests
fluffye
okay but they literally are dogs, for those who are confused
If foxes are dogs, then so are wolves, coyotes, dingoes, jackals, and several other extant and extinct species.
Behold! A dog.
of course it’s a dog you buffoon. it’s fluffye.
Why on earth would someone think “BUT IF THEY’RE DOGS SO AR -”
Like yes of course wolves are dogs, where have you been. Jackals are excellent doggies! So are coyotes. Why is this confusing.
#‘but if they’re dogs so are [proceeds to list dogs]’