I think one of the most damaging ideologies towards children is the conviction that having children isn’t a calling but a moral obligation.
Not to be a crazy radical or anything, but children deserve to be deeply wanted by their parents.
ivan-fyodorovich-deactivated202
parents who tell their daughters they are ugly are bad parents
ivan-fyodorovich
everyone who is replying to this with some variety of “that’s just how life is”
no
your parents fucked up and should not have treated you that way
they were wrong and you should say it
This includes implied ugliness.
- you need to lose weight
- you’ll attract more boys if
- you’re wearing that?
- i wouldn’t wear that
- this will flatter you more
- you should wear more makeup
You are not "wasting your potential" because you took a break, or because you're exhausted, or sick or you are struggling to find purpose. Please, take some time off, take care of yourself, listen to the needs of your body and your mind. Do the things you want to do to make you happy and fulfilled, not what others think you should, not what's more successful in their minds. You aren't wasting your life, nor wasting your potential. You are still deciding how to live it, what is the purpose of it, and you will find motivation to fight for what you want when you figure yourself out, but please take your time and don't listen to the pressure of people around you to comfort to their expectations of success.
“In school we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.”
— Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
being a jack of all trades master of none is actually so awesome bc i can make the shittest clay sculpture and the ugliest drawing and the sloppiest painting and the worst hand stitches and the wonkiest earrings and it's like. who cares + now im surrounded by lots of different silly things i made with love and care etc
My great uncle, who loved cooking and engineering and traveling and far too many other things, always used to say:
"Among the cooks, I am the best engineer, and among the engineers I am the best cook."
I love that. It's one of the things I try to live by.
*person who has rich parents* you can do like anything you want in this world you can literally drop out of highschool and go to Europe for a decade and come back to build a family and start a small business but it's like you have to want it you can't just expect things to come to you without you putting the work in
*through gritted teeth* every day i choose to be kind *barely restraining myself from violence* i choose to have compassion *tamping down the vicious bloodlust inside me* i choose to care and to be kind and to love
brown is such a good color and the best things in the world are brown !!!!!!! capybaras. trees. potatos. bagels. bears. coffee. chocolate. dirt etc !!!!!
what is it about drinks that is so tantalising... boba tea with all the sexy toppings.... iced coffy.... new flavour of iced tea or sparkling water u never tried before... milked shake the childhood favourite.... smoothie for vitality and strength..... and let's not forget about coca cola!!!
You deserve to let go of trauma, but in the ways that work for you. If that means that you need the time and space to feel what happened to you, to voice it, to take action, then you deserve all of that. Being told to "just let it go" on someone else's timetable is invalidating. You never deserve toxic positivity - you deserve healing on the terms and timeline you need.
i love you buttered toast i love you omelette i love you hashbrowns i love you croissant i love you pancakes i love you waffles i love you bagel i love you oatmeal i love you muffin i love you breakfast
You don’t have to be positive all the time to prove you’re trying or healing. It’s okay to just say “this fucking sucks right now”. No one is positive all the time. Please don’t expect that of yourself.
lustloveandliars-deactivated202
You deserve love now. Not once you lose weight. Not once you accomplish that thing. Not once you move. Not once you get on medication. Not once you start therapy. Not once you get that job. Not once you're more like them. Now. You don't have to earn the right to be loved. You deserve it right now, and always have.
okay i need everybodys opinions on all of these foods: pineapple pizza, avocado, hummus, candy corn, nutella, and dark chocolate
it’s not your fault if people are ableist towards you.
you could be the most “cringe” disabled person in the world and you wouldn’t deserve ableism.
you could be the loudest or most assertive disabled person in the world and you wouldn’t deserve ableism.
it doesn’t matter who you are, what disability you have, or how you act… no disabled person is asking for ableism. you shouldn’t have to earn basic human respect and decency