why are gimmick blogs beefing on my post
mm. nothanks. viewing conflict makes me lose my apptite.

why are gimmick blogs beefing on my post
mm. nothanks. viewing conflict makes me lose my apptite.
Psychology textbook diagrams never cease to amaze me
ok y'all this isn't a psych textbook gaslighting you into thinking it's normal and ok for your boss to yell at you, it's specifically about understanding that other people's treatment of you is usually more about them than you. If your boss is pissy with you, it's absolutely more healthy to understand that behavior as a reflection of his mental state rather than of your worth as an employee. It's not a psych textbook's job to advise you how to improve your workplace or say what is/isn't acceptable treatment by a boss. It's an example of detaching your own self-worth from how other people treat you.
^^THIS!
In fact, if you let yourself think of other people's treatment as a reflection on YOU more than it is on THEM, it can prevent you from getting things done.
Or, in other words,
ok, im rb'ing this again because this actually helped me finally be able to take advantage of cognitive restructuring in a way i've struggled to do for a long time. Ive been able to get to the my boss was having a bad day part, but i've always struggled to use that mental change to do something that would improve the situation. but because of this diagram, i THINK ive got it figured out. Here's a rough explanation of how I interperet this.
Real life example:
Boss yelling: My mom is snapping at me, calling me "disrespectful" no matter how I speak to her, and getting mad at me for having missing assignments He was having a bad day: She's stressed due to my grandma being in the hospital He shouldn't take it out on me: just because she's stressed doesn't mean she gets to be mean to me. Unionize: I advocate for myself, saying that I'm not being disrespectful and that it's okay to have missing assignments because I'm doing my best Fuck his wife: I am unapologetically proud of myself for what i manage to do in a day, especially if my mom disapproves of it or doesn't view it as productive, as my own little "fuck you" to her.
End result: no depression.
This actually works and its amazing. Thanks to the meme side of tumblr for accidentally developing a highly effective method for coping with people who treat you like shit
[image id: a pair of outstretched hands gently offering you a poorly edited brown frog with a rather pixelated costume witch hat. end id]
[ID: an image of a hand reaching out with an Oreo edited onto it. The hand is offering the Oreo to you.]
The war between fruits is beginning. Choose your sides now.
I.... Left my home, going on a lovely walk, trying to give away my bananas....
But I find myself...lost?? I do not know where I am...
do you need help !!!!!!?
Kindof... Friend, do you know where I am?? It's... Kinda sandy?
beach? desert? sandbox in a children’s playground? do you remember where you came from? i can bring you to my home
Ooo!! Sandbox!! I think that's what this is... Big blue walls, lots of sand, pretty castles...
I am... I am 3 feet tall... I should not go on anymore lovely walks soon.....
:grabs you out of the sandbox: cmon !! were goin home :) where is your home?
*wiggles in hands*
I live... In smol pretty house... Do you know where Cryptid lives? It close... To there...
i do not know where cryptid lives :( but? you could describe the location maybe?
It's kinda... Dark.... Very, VERY big sticks with big leaves, but also kinda void-ish?....
That was not a very good description... Was it?
Eh... I am sorry, but I am not good with places... I get so caught up in try to give bananas I get lost easily...
do yall need a lift?
Yes please!!!
*hops in car and immediately falls asleep*
[ID: image of the Skyrim intro of a prisoner saying 'hey you, your finally awake'. end ID.]
*a while later*
*wakes up bananas*
I think we are here!
Is this the place?
Me, when I’m reading about an unfamiliar topic
Me too! Have a knife, Frank.
You can get me a knife! :D
(Note: although I’m aware this is some sort of sarcastic comment, I also mean it genuinely.)
“I give x to people” should’ve stopped after like 5 posts
i give chlamydia to people
you should go get that checked out
but it didn’t
