Fuck this shit I'm out

Sometimes I’m looking for something online - often “how to” articles - and I want to filter for - like - a website that was clearly built in 2010 at the latest, which may or may not have been updated since then, but contains a vast wealth of information on one topic, painstakingly organized by an unknown legend in the field with decades’ worth of experience. I don’t want a listicle with a nice stolen picture in a slideshow format written by a content aggregator that God forgot. I want hand-drawn diagrams by some genius professor who doesn’t understand SEO at all, but understands making stir-fries or raising stick insects better than anyone else on this earth. I don’t know what search settings to put into Google to get this.

thank you for articulating this cri de coeur for me

ngl these days i’m just happy when it’s not a video

search.marginalia.nu is the search engine you want!

“It is a search engine, designed to help you find what you didn’t even know you were looking for. If you search for “Plato”, you might for example end up at the Canterbury Tales. Go looking for the Canterbury Tales, and you may stumble upon Neil Gaiman’s blog.

If you are looking for fact, this is almost certainly the wrong tool. If you are looking for serendipity, you’re on the right track. When was the last time you just stumbled onto something interesting, by the way?

I don’t expect this will be the next “big” search engine. This is and will remain a niche tool for a niche audience.“

i clicked around for a few minutes searching various things and I now have two fourteenth century pie crust recipes and an apple filling recipe i want to try, so thanks!

it has been twenty minutes and I am deeply in love with this search engine.

INCREDIBLE. I *do* want to know how to test Windows 95 for Y2K Compliance and I am glad that someone is still hosting step by step instructions for that.

tl;dr: search.marginalia.nu for the old or old looking and just plain serendipitous stuff that google or Duck duck go are gonna not find/bury on the 20th page. For perfectly good reasons, but …

My absolute favorite part of having made this post - other than causing people to be introduced to this site - are the people in the tags/comments talking about their interests and stuff they found about their hobbies.

Good luck out there surfing the cyberweb, you crazy cats. I love the shoelace website too - Ian’s Shoelace Site [link], unless there’s another. My personal favorite old-school site is Alysion’s string figure collection [link].

wai kahkhyf nahn vahgem vot zrhygrhahs

translation:

large penis is again in city

or

big dick is back in town;)

someone said kara w a back tattoo so i delivered

herere other options:

"no regerts"

"i h8 my parents"

credits to @servicetopkaradanvers and @thebreakfastgod for all these good tattoo ideas

i might make more in the future coz kryptonian is funky

It really irks me when reading if and I see the phrase, “my cheeks redden”… they do not, I’m black 😭

I saw some people had a few questions about alternatives, so I thought I would throw a few out there! In my opinion, here are some ways to portray shyness, attraction, and being flustered without using terms like “turning red” or blushing, as these indicate having light skin or being pale.

These are just a couple I like to read/use.  It’s good to think about these things so that we have writing that not only doesn’t break immersion, but also writing that doesn’t lean into whiteness as the default.  Hope this helps anyone who might have been curious!

Watch: A documentary is explaining the many ways movies, TV shows and ads makes fat people feel cursed and invisible

When you only see yourself depicted on the screen as a sidekick, a villain, a predator, or a joke, how does that affect the way you view yourself in real life?

Gifs: Fattitude

WATCH THE PREVIEW

I love trans girls for lots of reasons but I think the biggest is that growing up as a girl for me was SO hard. horrible. nightmare. but they make it look happy and enjoyable... they redefine what womanhood is to me from something horrible to something beautiful... very hard to explain... me being a boy is awesome... and seeing trans people love womanhood in a way I couldn't is even better. thank u girls

I look at my mom and ask “what is womanhood?” she shrugs and says “idk, suffering?”  I look at my wife to ask the same question, and she is twirling in place to make her skirt flare out.

I love her

obsessed with this photo series about trans love by photographer landyn pan (source)

Reddit’s nursing forum makes for some pretty grim reading.

[ID: Screenshot of an anon ask that reads: wtf do you mean 'these are all genuine.' End ID]

also it helps me walk or whatever

[ID: a digitally drawn two-panel comic. / Image 1: Text reads: “How I expected using a cane would feel:” Panel depicts a miserable person in tattered clothes, hunched over a cane and shaking as she walks. / Image 2: Text reads: “How it actually feels:” Panel depicts the same person, now standing tall and wearing flowing wizard robes and a long white beard. Her cane is at her side, glowing with magic, and she looks confident and powerful. /End ID]

Ooooh, can you do one for wheelchairs except it’s a throne? Because I definitely feel like I’m cruising around on a throne.

How I think a wheelchair will make me feel:

How my wheelchair actually makes me feel:

That’s it! That’s it exactly!

I haven’t gotten a wheelchair yet (blargh hoops) but I’ve rented and used scooters at places and

how you think it’d feel:

how it actually feels:

If I may add,

How I thought forearm crutches would make me feel:

How forearm crutches actually make me feel:

[ID2: A woman sitting in a wheelchair at an airport looking at something in her lap vs a video game character with purple hair leaning back casually while flying around in a throne-like one-person open craft.

ID3: An old man on a mobility scooter vs a person in racing gear and a helmet whizzing by on a four wheeler.

ID4: A person with forearm crutches staring off into the sunset vs an anime character standing on rock outcrop wielding two swords.]

This!!!!! This is what young disabled people should be exposed to. We are powerful! Fantastic! Hot and cool as hell!!!! Use your mobility aid and discover your inner badass.

Was just informed by my mom that I do in fact have ADHD and the reason I thought I didn’t was because ever since I was seven whenever I got super energetic my mom would have me go chop wood so now when I’m feeling The ADHD I go chop wood and I thought it was just some sort of routine I started when I was little and wanted to blow off steam

I’d also like to point out that my sister has a really hard time staying present (I can’t remember the term because we’ve always called it Tethered at my house) and whenever she’s feeling Untethered my mom has her knead bread and make syrup because they’re repetitive and easy things to do that ground her

Now that I’m thinking about it- my brother has days where he doesn’t talk and doesn’t eat unless he’s prompted, and on those days my mom sits him down in the fish pond in the backyard and plays Mozart and because he’s so used to that being his wake up he always comes back in after like an hour rambling about random things

Oh yeah and when it rains my mom has a required hour where we all have to go outside and run around and whoever finds the most worms for the garden wins and then we go inside and my mom makes us tea and we watch Studio Ghibli movies

Wait!!! When one of us has a bad day at school we make a fire in the backyard and roast homemade sausages and my mom tells us stories until we laugh and then she tucks is in bed like we’re five again and sings us songs

Uh.... wait guys is my mom a witch raising a bunch of fae kids hold on-

your mom is very definitely a witch raising a bunch of fae kids, please tell her i love her in the abstract way one can love a complete stranger.

like yeah yeah Fae but also THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE

work WITH kids' needs to develop comfortable, safe strategies for managing their issues instead of pathologising or trying to hide them, and their needs are much less likely to BECOME unsafe or embarrassing for them.

it's NORMAL to be angry! it's NORMAL to be manic! it's NORMAL to come untethered or to be afraid of something innocuous or to struggle to connect with things or to go non verbal or to get overwhelmed. If it's normal FOR YOU then it's normal! that doesn't mean it's not worth examining or addressing but treating it as a weird aberration isn't going to make it go away! kids who are taught in childhood to find methods that work FOR THEM are kids who grow up able to self regulate and self manage. kids who are taught in childhood that there's A Normal Way to do things spend their lives beating themselves up for not finding those things easy or helpful.

I benefited SO MUCH from my mum being in therapy when I was a kid, because she learnt all this stuff in her 50s which meant I learnt it in my early teens. but some of it's intuitive.

when my brother was little he was fiercely independent and opinionated (we're a very autistic family) but TERRIFIED of doing things wrong. from when he was old enough to point, he picked his own clothes, chose his own activities and taught himself (basically he was Matilda but without the overt neglect). and my mum's friends often expressed surprise that mum 'let' him do that. she said it never occurred to her to do otherwise, because if he wore what he wanted and was allowed to sit in the room and ignore her and do his own thing, he was happy even if that thing was weird. when he was 7 or 8 he decided to be a boy, and mum went 'ok sure' - after about a year he decided to be a girl again and that was also fine. he gets overwhelmed easily and since he was a tiny kid mum's been prepared for the fact that sometimes he'll walk away when he's getting upset and come back when he's ready.

whereas I was a very needy child. I needed a lot of attention but I also got overwhelmed easily. when I got overwhelmed mum would suggest a walk (outside, away from whatever was stressing me but with her so I wasn't on my own) and when I get angry she taught me to look for healthy places to put that. she keeps a box of chipped and broken plates in her shed to throw at the floor when everything gets too much. one time I was getting angry and flappy and overwhelmed so she gave me a hard drive she needed totalled and sent me out into the yard to go ham on it with a sledgehammer. when I was like 7 I had really severe anxiety and depression, and it turned out that the things that calmed me the most were animals and being on the floor, so my mum used to specifically take me and go to our neighbour's house (who to be honest she didn't particularly get on with) just so I could spend hours lying on the stone floor under the table in their back kitchen with their cat. that's still the place I go in my head when I'm falling apart, lying in this old farmhouse gently petting this still, purring cat. my mum found things to do or chat about in our neighbour's house for hours specifically because she wanted me to get that peace, and she didn't tell me that until I was well into my 20s.

good parenting (particularly for neurodivergent and "weird" or vulnerable kids) is, to my mind, about working with the child you've got not the child you though you'd have. me and my siblings are weird adults and not exactly mentally healthy (we've all of us had some bad times) but comparative to a lot of our peers we're very able to work with our weirdnesses, understand what's going on with us and self manage

and understanding MIGHT mean saying "I'm having a manic episode" or it might mean saying "I need to do something active because my brain is buzzing." for me it's often an "I need to sit under a table now" not an "I'm verging on a panic attack" but that's FINE? because sitting on the floor/under a table/in a small space is effective self-soothing for me and it averts a panic attack. I don't really know WHY that works but I don't really need to know why as long as I can figure out what might be a good substitute. But if as a kid my mum had said "why are you under the table, that's weird, behave like a normal person" rather than backing me up when other people questioned it, I would have learnt that doing that was bad and unacceptable and I would inevitably have much more full-on explosive and critical panic attacks and self-injury episodes, which would ultimately be HARMFUL where sitting under a table is harmlessly weird.

and having someone like a parent back you up on these behaviours out help you design them teaches you to hold your ground even when they aren't there. so even coping mechanisms you develop on your own in adulthood benefit from your parents meeting you where you're at when you're a kid.

For the last decade or so, I’ve been routinely attending a ride-on lawnmower race. I’ve always wanted to participate, but the high cost of used mowers is better spent on more practical vehicles, like literally anything else. Sometimes, though, the universe sends you a message. And in my case, that message came in the form of an awkward leg of a huge trade-in scam.

Picture, if you will, the humble redneck. They await the approach of big, fast domestic mowers. John Deeres, Cub Cadets, even weird modified Chinese stuff they looted from Aliexpress. There is jubilance, but that soon comes to an awkward hush. An unfamiliar engine note approaches.

My International 1480 combine harvester, all ten tons of it, is barrelling down the highway at a clip somewhere between “tepid” and “jaunty.” Even though I have shown up for a race, I am sandbagging a little bit, making sure that the bets get settled against my vehicle before I show them the might of a fully operational monster such as mine.

Technically, there is no violation. I had looked at the rulebook from every angle in the previous year: it has the correct number of wheels, the proper agricultural intent, and with precise work on the tiller, it can even (poorly) mow a suburban lawn. Is it modified? Oh yes, yes indeed, but I see the nitrous bottles poking out from the rows of Kubotas at the starting line.

And when I leave the starting line, it is a thing of beauty. At least for a few milliseconds. It seems that the wizards at International Harvester simply did not comprehend of a situation in which the frame of their combine would be launched into the air by means of one thousand eight hundred foot-pounds of supercharger-bolstered torque. I had erroneously believed that the loose soil of the rural community would let the wheels dip in, but now I am facing directly into the sky, having twelve o’ clocked hard on my wheelie, shooting flames from my exhaust and whirling vertical blades of death towards the grandstand.

It’s not about whether you win or lose. Sometimes it’s about how many pages you add to the rulebook.

“It’s not about whether you win or lose. Sometimes it’s about how many pages you add to the rulebook. “

I am but a mild-mannered urban being and have no idea what happened in this story, but with all the Gods as my witness I am getting the above text put on a plaque and hanging it in my living room.

TW death.

* If you see this post, reblog it. Show it to your followers and for a minute don’t care about your own aesthetics, because Palestinians are dying. 

It’s necessary that everyone sees what is going on in Palestine. Everyone should see the horror these people are facing. Children are being killed. The occupiers are playing the victim that they’re feeling unsafe while the most people dying are Palestinians, as you can see on the statistics by the United Nations. 

All those Arab governments, all those Muslim governments, all those countries that were always in solidarity with Palestine such as Indonesia, Turkey and others. Where are you now? Is the economy with the States that important? Does the money feel good? Is it? We already knew that the West wouldn’t do a thing because they showed their lackness with the genocide on Uyghurs, but also how they respond to innocent attacks on Kurdish and Armenian people. 

Where are all the governments? Where is everyone? 

I’m feeling devastated. 

chun wai chan and naazir muhammad on ig

Something about hearing the footsteps involved in ballet makes it seem very real. But unlike when it’s audible over the music, hearing it when there’s no music doesn’t make it lose any of the magic.

Look at the body control these guys have.

I also love the uneven socks to help people see the footwork better.

my man went for it

hey WHAT THE FUCK ARE THESE THINGS

To Answer the question; Those are fresh water eels. They come out of water sometimes because of food, needing to change their habitat, and after breeding. They can survive for a very long time on land as long as they are wet!

This video most likely is one of those cases where the eels school together to go to their breeding grounds! Pretty cool stuff, huh?

Breeding grounds?

More like

BREAD-ING GROUNDS!!

Educational fox lesson 🦊

Need to be mindful for our feathered friends!

I’ve queued this to post around the time that alot of babies will be hatching.

Go buy some frozen veggies and feed the babies

It is baby season right now. A lot of babies are being born right now and people keep bringing them into the sanctuary. Sometimes its best to leave them alone.

“Right now is a great time to sharpen the little skills, Fine-tune the little habits, and find joy in the little things.” [x]

OMG HER WEE FAAAAAAAACCCCCEEEE

CUTE

TERRIFIC stuff by the cat!

i love how the crowd goes nuts

“How we spend our weekend”

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