Replaying High school Story... and this exchange seemed apt for this year.
This is the bare minimum of decent human behavior for ANY gender. If you are an adult and someone who is not an adult wants to have a relationship with you, it is your duty to, at bare minimum, turn them away.
and like... having crushes on adults is a Normal Adolescent Thing, but it doesn’t mean they’re ready for--or for that matter, want--an actual relationship with said adult. it’s a goddamn developmental phase for kids working out their sexuality, and treating it as a chance to get laid is fucking monstrous.
Same reason why when a younger kid tries to playfully fight with you, the appropriate response is not to sweep the leg, get them on the ground and then start kicking.
the catholic old white guy asked me to explain lgbtq+ to him and it was honestly kind of funny
“okay! you have 15 seconds to explain non-binary to me if there are only male and female genders”
me: if you lost your genitals would you still feel like a man?
“no”
would you feel like a woman?
“no?”
so you wouldn’t feel male or female
“yeah what’s your point?”
So, you wouldn’t fit into the gender binary of male or female? :)
him:
“so non-binary just means not feeling male or female?”
Yeah basically
“so why do they use “they” so much”?
if you were a woman would you want to be called a man?
“no…”
And the opposite?
“no…”
Why why would you want someone to call you male or female if you’re not male or female then?”
it’s not a perfect way of thinking but i had 15 seconds and i think it got the point across
if someone challenges you to break through a wall within fifteen seconds, you use a wrecking ball, not precision tools. I think you did marvelously.
Greta Garbo and Barbara Kent Flesh and the Devil (1926) dir. Clarence Brown
ALT
“Where do I stand on the – on the WHAT? The “Transgender Question”? Well for one thing, sir, I recall the last few usages of that particular phraseology. A group of millions is not a question – I have not yet finished speaking – not a question, but a demographic.“
“The Romans had their castrated priestesses, the Hindus their Hijras, but my god, let us take to the barricades because Uncle Al came to Thanksgiving in a skirt and pantyhose! It’s the province of rubes. Hayseed reactionaries and the worst effluvia of America’s suburban colon.”
“And Chapelle! My god, Chapelle. Embarrassing as only a true great can become in his declining years – I speak here with complete self-awareness; kindly hold your barbs – as he tires of innovation and falls back into the soporific cushion of the lowest common denominator!”
“One joke stretched until you can hear its joints popping like some poor bastard broken on the rack. “Oh my car has pronouns, I identify as a bird, I’m trans-Chinese.” The laziness of it – shameful. You should see the transgendered roast themselves; there’s true scorched earth.“
macleod
Brilliant.
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the only mfer i respect
gotta look out for number 1
all I'm hearing is you're saying I got a strong, consistent personality
my dark twisted secret is i always use my turn signals whenever possible because i believe they were included in vehicles for a reason. i’m a bit of a freak this way. a weirdo
many funny and true things going on in the notes. but also
what the hell is going on up there.
also when (not if) you do signal, the point is to start it *before* and not during your manoeuvre - the number of times we nearly got killed by lorries on the motorway (aka trucks on the highway) starting to signal when they're already suddenly pulling in front of us in our lane and we have to slam on our brakes so as not to get eaten by their tail
it's to alert others to your intention, it's not a fucking blog post "hi, here's a pic of me changing lanes"
As a rape survivor, I understand the need for safe space together – free from sexist harassment and potential violence. But fear of gender variance also can't be allowed to deceptively cloak itself as a women's safety issue. I can't think of a better example than my own, and my butch friends', first-hand experiences in public women's toilets. Of course women need to feel safe in a public restroom; that's a serious issue. So when a man walks in, women immediately examine the situation to see if the man looks flustered and embarrassed, or if he seems threatening; they draw on the skills they learned as young girls in this society to read body language for safety or danger.
Now, what happens when butches walk into the women's bathroom? Women nudge each other with elbows, or roll their eyes, and say mockingly, "Do you know which bathroom you're in?" Thats not how women behave when they really believe there's a man in the bathroom. This scenario is not about women's safety – its an example of gender-phobia.
And ask yourself, if you were in the women's bathroom, and there were two teenage drag queens putting on lipstick in front of the mirror, would you be in danger? If you called security or the cops, or forced those drag queens to use the men's room, would they be safe?
If the segregation of bathrooms is really about more than just genitals, then maybe the signs ought to read "Men" and "Sexually and Gender Oppressed," because we all need a safe place to go to the bathroom. Or even better, let's fight for clean individual bathrooms with signs on the doors that read "Restroom."
And defending the inclusion of transsexual sisters in women's space does not threaten the safety of any woman. The AIDS movement, for example, battled against the right-wing characterization of gay men as a "high-risk group." We won an understanding that there is no high-risk group – there are high-risk behaviors. Therefore, creating safety in women's space means we have to define unsafe behavior – like racist behavior by white women towards women of color, or dangerous insensitivity to disabilities.
Transsexual sisters are not a Trojan horse trying to infiltrate women's space. There have always been transsexual women helping to build the women's movement – they are part of virtually every large gathering of women. They want to be welcomed into women's space for the same reason every woman does – to feel safe.
Leslie Feinberg, Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Marsha P. Johnson and Beyond
Now, what happens when butches walk into the women's bathroom? Women nudge each other with elbows, or roll their eyes, and say mockingly, "Do you know which bathroom you're in?" Thats not how women behave when they really believe there's a man in the bathroom. This scenario is not about women's safety – its an example of gender-phobia.
Extremely telling shit. Pay attention to this - essentially all Anti-Trans bathroom rhetoric I've seen or heard of is firmly of this type. Not any kind of fear or trauma response, but mockery and snide remarks. They aren't in danger, they don't really believe they're in danger, they just want to police gender roles.
(This makes perfect sense, given that trans people using the toilet that corresponds to their gender doesn't lead to any kind of increased risk. It was an intentional bad-faith smear campaign and nothing more.)
And meanwhile, we just want to piss and shit in peace.
Taking a stab at that Sailor Moon character design challenge that happened a few months ago.
I wanted to approach it from more of a high-fashion angle since SM has always been heavily influenced by Takeuchi’s love of fashion.
i need you all to be aware that a survey on Holocaust awareness in the Netherlands was recently commissioned by the Conference on Jewish Material Claims Against Germany and the responses are frightening.
(as a reminder: more than 75% of Dutch Jews were murdered in the Holocaust, which is the highest percentage of Jewish Victims per country in Western Europe. it’s also where Anne Frank lived and went into hiding before she was deported.)
according to the study,
23% of Dutch Millennials & Gen Z (12% overall) believe that the Holocaust is a myth or has been greatly exaggerated.
22% of Millennials and Gen Z (12% overall) believe it is acceptable to support neo-nazi views.
54% of all respondents do not know 6 million Jews were murdered. 29% believe it was 2 million or fewer (that number jumps to 37% when only looking at Millennials and Gen Z).
only 50% of all respondents support recent efforts by Dutch public figures to acknowledge and apologize for the Netherland’s failure to protect Jews during the Holocaust.
53% of all respondents and 60% of Millenials and Gen Z did not list the Netherlands as a country where the Holocaust took place.
Holocaust denial and erasure is getting worse. I would expect this from the USA maybe, but i’m surprised and very very concerned to see this coming from the Netherlands, which is very highly ranked in terms of education and research. please like and share and post about this, we need people to know.
Old men on grindr: “Want to be my piss slave? Daddy wants to teach you a lesson you dirty slut”
Me:
wereralph
adding video to text posts was an incredible gift
Gay assemblyman calls for Japan to accept same-sex marriage - The Japan Times
An openly gay assemblyman from Aichi Prefecture and his Taiwanese partner, having just registered their union in Taipei, called on Tokyo on Monday to swiftly legalize same-sex marriage to ensure equality for sexual minorities.