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💙still in love with my old url💙 they/them | Kasey | 21 | 🚫transphobes, transmisogynists, truscum, transmeds & aphobes piss off🚫

i have news to break about parasocial relationships. everyone has them. oh did you get happy when you remembered the grocery store clerk who wished you a nice day a year ago? congratulations you've got a parasocial relationship. it's completely normal and something we all do. the word y'all are looking for is "invasive".

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i get what you mean but a parasocial relationship describes a legitimate one sided relationship, not thinking fondly about someone you don’t know. you would have to be devoting your energy, time, and emotion to that store clerk and have constructed a persona in your mind of who you believed them to be before it could be classified as parasocial.

that’s why people describe obsessions with celebrities as parasocial, (parasocial relationships can exist with fictional characters) there’s a persona that you are devoted too completely one sidedly. parasocial relationships are also not inherently invasive. someone can be utterly delusionally obsessed with a persona without trying to pry into their inner life. i’m sure personal information sustains a parasocial relationship but equating parasocial to invasive just isn’t entirely accurate.

break parasocial and invasive down to the latin root ->

para (alongside of, beside)

in (in, on, or not,)

i’m thinking you’re probably tired of people misusing or overusing the word parasocial, i get that. but watering down a word that describes a legitimate social phenomenon does us no good! not everyone has parasocial relationships! and in fact i would say a majority of people don’t really have them at all.

not to sound dramatic or anything but if I had billions of dollars to spend on nothing i would just give it to people tbh if i were a billionaire I’d achieve feats like fixing the housing crisis, preventing earth’s termination and feeding every person on earth forever and I would be so so silly about it

stop believing that you ran out of time to shape yourself into who you want to be! stop believing that its ruined! stop believing you don’t have potential! you are not a fixed being! you have endless opportunities to grow.

Any time I feel the grip of anxiety that I’m too old or don’t have time to do something with my limited hours after work, I just remember the wisdom of the ancients:

Finding out that Elon Musk was forced out as CEO of PayPal in favor of noted vampire Peter Thiel bc Elon Musk was adamant they keep it named "X dot com" instead of Paypal unlocks so much. His space company, his literal child, and now Twitter: it's the world's most inane Rosebud. He actually bought back the URL, like a cherished childhood sled (owning the right to name a website the letter "X")

Some people told him it made more sense to have their banking company have a indicative name instead of generically being called "X" with vague allusions to being The Site For Everything, and he'll prove those fools WRONG by getting the same things yelled at him over a different website's name twenty years later

For twenty two years he's been stewing about people telling him PayPal was a better name for a payment site than X. He was so invested in X dot com at the time they waited to hold the vote until he was on vacation. He has been furious over people saying "it's better for our site to have a name that tells you what it is instead of a letter" since before 9/11. This is his entire life

Pictured above: the only moment Elon Musk has ever been happy, before it turned to all-consuming rage and envy over a single letter

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Is... is THAT why he called his space company SpaceX???

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fr tho, I'm convinced at this point that he got divorced just so he could have another X.

my cat is incredibly sweet and wants nothing more than to be within a 5 ft radius of a person at all times, gently chilling in your orbit. he is also VERY, VERY DUMB 

it’s a slow morning so husband and I are reading, not making much noise. meanwhile, Barold goes downstairs to use his box and when he comes out, he starts yowling like his lil heart done broke. husband goes to to the top of the stairs all worried like, “Barold, what’s wrong?”

kitty zips back up the stairs and just oozes onto husband’s feet, purring high-powered lawnmower style. the realization hit us both at the same time…

this. boy. this itty bitty kitty boy. 

he couldn’t see or hear us for ten continuous seconds, forgot. we. were. home. and immediately burst into tears !!!!

I was just focusing on the fact that you named your cat Barold for the entirety of that post

I want this cat to be named Barold Bluejeans so bad

Good news!

That is exactly his name!

Here is Barold Bluejeans in a bathtub!

The best news ever!!!!!😻😻😻

He’s an orange, that explains everything.

You can hear the dial tone in that gaze.

migrating from app to app is such a sad social phenomenom to me just the fact alone that people put their energy into keeping up with so many changes and so many new services in the first place just to have the presence of complete strangers in their life is so crazy to me.. im not talking abt the ones who pump out these apps anymore the userbase is actually even more insane

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literally like if tumblr shut down I’d just read Wikipedia

you and me together baby

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Anonymous asked:

If Cass only wears one sock does she also only wear one shoe?

gotta free the beans when she's not out the apartment :p

so no, she does wear both shoes and the reasons why is

1) she didn't really think about not wearing both shoes even after getting clawed beans

2) also due to the changes of her appearance, her legs are not completely even, so she wears boots that take that into account

which is also why her boots have heels :p

as to why she'd only wear one sock is because Roger definitely got her (right) socks with paw prints, so she could match with her left foot and that's cute

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Anti-para ppl who think therapy can magically make everything 'normal' r sooo stupid bc I've literally been in therapy for years and I'm STILL a Necrophile & have been for around five years ... you CANNOT change what you are sexually attracted to.

I used to be sooo ashamed of my paraphilia, and I've only started accepting myself within the past 1-2 years, which has since made me notice a huge spike in my happiness and self-esteem.

When I told my therapists about all of my paraphilias, crying and shaking and shitting myself while doing so, thinking that they're gonna tell me to kill myself for being such an awful and disgusting and bad person, they all just went, "Yeah, that's normal. That's fine. You're fine. You're not a bad person. Your attractions and fantasies don't hurt people, your actions do. Kill the puritan inside your brain." People who think therapists will magically make you 'normal' have never been to therapy. I've only gotten weirder since going to therapy! And I'm gonna keep getting weirder!

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Orange cats need to be named ‘just some guy’-esque names. I see orange cats that are named Patrick or Dave or Bob and I’m like “yeah, exactly”. My orange cat is named Tommy even though she’s a girl because she’s truly a Tommy.

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Henry Croutons…..

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trying not to bawl in class over henry croutons

Reuben Wilson ☝️

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*sniffles* he is so beautifully remarkably silly

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Marsha <3

Yeah alright I'll bite (hee hee)

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This is Geoff

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