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Okay so uh someone from Reddit? A refugee? Wanted us to spread around this link around.
We couldn't donate anything ourselves, so we'll try to see if we can help via spreading it online.
Hey! I made a linktree that will be consistently updated with not only petitions but gofundmes, cashapps, shops, art commissions, by trans people! If you want to be added, reblog with your link!
https://linktr.ee/transdefensesquad
Wait are people still even referencing demo systems as a thing??? I thought that died awhile ago
Whats a demo system??? /gen
They’re not really a thing. Demo was a typo of Endo on a tiktok, and people just went buck wild. Theories about what it meant, trolls using the label to piss everyone off. It was annoying
Oh. Yeah that sounds like syscourse in a nutshell
I just made this poster to spread awareness!!
Ditto for this one,this is also a very good one against the dangerous bill that earn it is
one of many frustrating parts of trying to talk about being a trans man online is if you get even a little upset or angry about the marginalization and discrimination you face on a personal or systemic level people get all "look at this self-absorbed trans man being ANGRY at WOMEN.... typical violent man. You didn't even experience that you can't be oppressed you're a man shut up about your experiences" and it's like. one of us is leaving this interaction without a skeletal system and it isn't me
Periodic reminder to trans people who use minoxidil/rogaine on their face:
Make sure to wash your hands afterward, especially if you have cats. Also, please keep it off your lips. You don't want to ingest it (it also tastes like hell, take it from me). If you're prone to dry skin, invest in a good moisturizer, something that agrees with your skin and will keep it feeling nice.
Carry on. I wish you all the best of luck in whatever you do to promote hair growth 💛
Do you ever have that kind of feeling where you know there are cis women who consider themselves anti-terf because they definitely see trans women as women who deal with mysogyny. But then they cannot fully wrap their heads around the issues of feminism being so binary sometimes that it's difficult to talk about intersex, nonbinary and trans men without those people having to misgender themselves and or being alienated from the conversation. And it's almost like, transphobia specifically for people who are choosing to 'reject' being female?
Yuuup
Frustrating how specific issues that affect more than just cis women have to be centered entirely around cis women or they throw a fit about “erasing womanhood!!1!”
Like maybe the medical misogyny affecting you is also having an impact on me and maybe I’d like to not center other people when discussing issues that directly affect me. Maybe everyone being harmed here should be centered.
the whole narrative of nonbinary people being AFAB people who "reject womanhood" completely ignores AMAB nonbinary people. it completely ignores the intense solidarity and similarity of experiences that AMAB and AFAB nonbinary people often share
i have also noticed that the people who voice these binaristic, marginally-transphobic views often also react very negatively to anyone bringing up the fact that even some cis men also deal with many of the same issues women do, issues that include things like sexual assault, being socially conditioned to "people please" and ignore their own needs, or people talking over them or explaining things they already know to them in a condescending manner.
i think the problem here is that people get attached to the idea that there is a gender binary and men are more privileged than women
nonbinary and trans people throw a wrench in this because our experiences inherently span both genders to a degree.
but the idea even breaks down if you strictly look at gender-conforming cis people. gender-based oppression is never a simple binary, even when there are strong tendencies and trends, there are always complexities and exceptions.
rather than getting all pissy about it and lashing out at anyone who questions your rigid interpretation, it is a lot more empowering to band together and include everyone, and work together to end all forms of oppression.
if you are a cis woman and you have struggled with shitty socialization, being subjected to sexual assault, having men talk over you, facing major barriers in receiving good medical care because of your gender, and all sorts of gender-related bullshit small and large, we nonbinary and trans people are your allies. cis men who have also been subjected to some of these things? they are also our allies. we can all band together and we will be a hell of a lot stronger if we listen to each other with an open mind and a sense of solidarity and mutual support. let go of the gender binary, it is keeping us from banding together and tearing down the bad systems that hurt all of us. without it, this stuff is a lot easier to fix.
When people ask, “How can I tell if someone is disabled or just lazy?” I think about my parents.
My parents have known me my whole life. When they’re not actively contemptuous of me, they do seem to be somewhat aware of my general personality and character. In one of his nicer moments, my dad has called me “sweet-natured.” They can tell that when I make them a surprise breakfast or lunch that I enjoy being helpful and doing nice things for people.
They know from watching me grow up that I have always had trouble keeping my room clean, getting homework done, and keeping my desk tidy at school.
The longest I can push myself past my limits is about nine months. Then I collapse and end up less functional than I was before I pushed myself. This has been a pattern throughout my middle and high school years. I would go to public school for about a year, and then collapse and have to do the rest of my education at home. My work history follows this pattern, too.
I once sat in a therapy session with my dad to talk about the constant struggle we were having at home because he wanted me to help out more and do better in school. When he asked me why I didn’t do things, I broke down in tears, because I couldn’t explain it. “I just CAN’T. I want to, and I CAN’T.” Nobody listened.
My mom asked me why I don’t do things, and I said, “I just can’t. I sit there for hours trying to convince myself to do things, and I can’t. Move.”
And she said, “Don’t think about it, just do it,” completely missing the point.
When I got older I found words for the things I was dealing with. I got professionally diagnosed, and I’d look up information about my diagnosis and e-mail articles to my parents explaining what my disability is and why I can’t do things.
My parents have firsthand information about my character (helpful, likes doing things for others) and my history with disability (can’t consistently keep things clean, can’t manage a daily schedule). I’ve talked to them extensively about my diagnosis and given them information about it. They have known me my whole life, and I’ve always been this way. And they still, STILL choose to believe I’m just a bad person who doesn’t try and doesn’t care.
My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.
People like problems they can yell at. They like having a target for their frustration. They don’t want to admit disability is real, because they want problems that they can either solve, or blame someone else for. And the disabled person themself is their scapegoat, someone who can’t ever opt out of their role because the disability is never going to go away.
My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.
My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.
My disability isn’t invisible, people refuse to look at it.
“The longest I can push myself past my limits is about nine months. Then I collapse and end up less functional than I was before I pushed myself.“
Oh.
“They don’t want to admit disability is real, because they want problems that they can either solve, or blame someone else for. And the disabled person themself is their scapegoat, someone who can’t ever opt out of their role because the disability is never going to go away.”
Well this resonates 🫠
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Identity alteration in DID/OSDD.
I think a lot of people are confused about what identity alteration is in the context of DID/OSDD and how it differs from identity alteration for people without DID/OSDD.
When it comes to CPTSD and BPD, however, the lines become much more blurred, as there is huge overlap between these and DID/OSDD. I won't be getting into that in this post, as it's not something I can really confidently talk about, nor is it really possible to draw a hard line between the differences. I also do not have BPD, so I wouldn't be able to accurately give a detailed explanation of what identity alteration is like in BPD. This post is purely about identity alteration in the context of DID/OSDD.
I've done my best to format this post in a way that wasn't too confusing and difficult to read, but I'm not sure I did the best job at that, sorry if this post is formatted so terribly.
VERY LONG POST WARNING
i will never forgive the internet for what it did to the word “mansplain”
mansplaining is a very specific phenomonon wherein a man who is NOT qualified to talk about a topic assumed he knows better than other people who ARE qualified, purely because of sexism.
sharing a fun fact you learned isnt mansplaining. infodumping isnt mansplaining. adding your relevant personal experience to a discussion isn’t mansplaining, (as long as you remain respectful of others’ experiences as well, but that’s always true). correcting someone who is objectively wrong and spreading misinformation REALLY isn’t mansplaining.
stop telling men that all of their interests and attempts at socializing are insulting and unwanted, your gender essentialism is showing.
people in my REAL LIFE i have had to convince i like to hear them talk, really:
- trans men talking about their oppression
- trans women talking about their oppression
- autistic men infodumping
- perfectly kind cis men who are answering a question i literally asked, or getting passionate about one of their interests
people who AREN’T self-conscious about this:
- men who actually fucking mansplain, oh my god the whole POINT is that they dont care about other people’s thoughts, why do you think whatever this fucking campaign is would bother them
this is making the rounds again and the amount of people in the notes accusing me of being a man is hilarious. like no i just dont like being mean to people and alienating my friends, sorry.
I would like to add men of colour talking about their oppression.
[Plain text: I would like to add men of colour talking about their oppression.]
Happy Xenogender Visibility day.
If anyone is an ass to anyone xenogender because of their gender today, the asshole becomes invisible as an exchange
saw a tweet the other day that was like "outlawing diy hrt would kill trans people" which, yes, i agree. however it is already illegal for trans men. which is something i feel like people just ignore in discussions about diyhrt. i've also seen tweets along the lines of "it's easy to access and dose and it's not explicitly illegal so if you're concerned about us anti trans laws you're being stupid". which, the first part is completely untrue when it comes to testosterone, and the second part shows a mindblowingly uncompassionate view on anti trans legislation and is a genuinely bafflingly horrible thing to say to people who are scared for their lives and their futures
had to add these tags bc the last time i went to the doctor and tried to up my t dose so i could start stockpiling she said she couldn’t do it since my t is within normal range. sometimes stockpiling is literally not an option unless you just straight up skip doses, which is also not an option for a lot of us. i can’t even get more than a month’s supply of t at a time bc my insurance doesn’t allow it. and that insurance just got banned from covering my t as of august of this year. so like. it’s really not as simple as “just stockpile!” or “just get it from overseas!”
Pharmacy technician here and trans man.
Testosterone is a schedule III controlled substances. This is the same class as Ketamine, Codeine, and Suboxone, as well as injectable estradiol. That's one step below schedule II drugs, which only a pharmacist can dispense (Adderall, Oxycodone, Percocet ect.). Even then there are lots of restrictions on how many times a schedule to can be filled, the time between fills, and if/when it can be transferred between pharmacies.
It is reasonable for people to be scared. It is entirely unreasonable to dismiss those fear and tell people to just 'diy' or 'stockpile'
I diy my T.
First, I'm not in the USA, but I suppose if someone will try to do it there, it will look a lot with my situation.
I write this with two objectives: give perspective about how fucking hard it is to get my T, and show how I do it, in the case it can help.
Its almost fucking impossible.
I literally depend on finding a specific kind of drug dealer, that works with products for body builders, like steroids and anabolics . Every time I need to find a new one, because the last link/contact stopped working. Having somebody that is a body builder can help, because its something that someone knows a guy that knows a guy... But this is very different than get recreational drugs. Its much more slippery than that.
You need cash. Its expensive, and you need to have a way to do quick monetary transactions that dont left much trail. The last time, I "officially" expended 400 bucks on plant food and substrate, but actually it was T.
How much you want to take health risks is a thing. I decided to thread cautiously, so I don't use injectable - this male it less dangerous, but still dangerous. I got gel T, and if I'm lucky, the qsp is pentravan, that give you the best absorption. I just got the biggest dosage I can find, and pray for the better. Because when you get something from a fucking drug dealer, you dont have a "guarantee or your money back" . I got a batch that made my face more squared in a way that totally meant there was a bigger dose than it was was supposed to have, and a batch that was clearly a much lower dose than it should be that clearly slowed changes in my body hair. With luck at your side, you get a box of official androgel. Its more expensive than the manipulated, but you know exactly what you got.
Its all pretty fucked. And at least I have protections as an user, in my country. Its illegal, but only sell it is a punishable crime, not having it as an user.
Asking for the tests to measure your T levels is complicated too. I'm looking for a place where you can just go, ask a test, no questions, get your result and gtfo, since the one I used last time closed. I know that in USA this is not an option, because your health system is totally inhumane.
Getting testosterone is hard as fuck and difficult to measure, dose and control. And sometimes, it is just impossible. Doing it alone means dealing with a very unstable treatment. You risk not finding a dealer, having a bad batch, its absurd that we need to be subject to this. My dignity goes to hell. I feel dirty. Not because I'm doing something ilegal, since I've been forced to illegality. But because no one should need to submit to this conditions to get treatment for anything.
And I'm not doing this diy thing because my government is screwing with trans people. It's because I dont have money to pay for a specialist, and there's a queue very long to get them trough the public system.
This is caused because we don't have enough specialists that are not transphobes or jackasses that prefer to work only with weigh loss and cosmetics. The doctors that will work with hormone therapy are fewer than the need for them.
Trans woman saying transmascs never, and are in fact unable to, experience misogyny (with a few additions from others).
"You're literally a man trying to tell women you understand misogyny"
I just... I don't even have words for how rancid and ignorant this take is. Why are you so angry that people other than you can be hurt by misogyny? Why do you think people who've been raised and seen as women their whole lives, who will still be treated as women by strangers, family, doctors, and the government, have never experienced misogyny and don't even understand it? We've been raised in a misogynist society as girls, the moment we could have a sense of self and coherent thought, we've been mistreated, abused, and taught to hate ourselves for being women. Just because we aren't women, which most of us didn't know for a very long time, sometimes almost our entire lives, doesn't mean what we experienced wasn't misogyny.
Growing up being called a slut for wanting BC for my horrific periods, being called fat when I wasn't even eating enough, giving myself scars trying to keep my body free of hair, waking up early despite my sleep problems just to put on makeup (but not too much then I'd be a slut again), being told my sexual assualt was a compliment and I should be happy he likes me, being subject to physical and sexual abuse my cis male sibling was spared from, having my ideas and voice treated as lesser, being catcalled and groped by strangers, having cis men follow me to work or block me on the sidewalk demanding my number, being called a whore for showing skin but called lazy and ugly for wearing baggy and covering clothing, being followed home by cis men, having cis men try to get me into their cars or houses when I'm just out for a walk (or when I was walking home from the bus stop as a child), being hit on and/or told to smile more at my jobs, being judged any time I wasn't presenting or behaving "feminine enough."
Even now, as an adult with a beard, I am constantly misgendered. People who refer to me by my chosen name revert to my dead name when they see my ID. I can dress masculinly and still get referred to as a woman because of my voice and huge tits I can't safely bind or afford to get rid of. I am in danger of getting irreversibly pregnant if I am assaulted again. I am rarely seen as a man by anyone who isn't another trans person. I fear using either bathroom. Not to mention trying to find a job or being respected by medical professionals. My life hasn't suddenly become privileged and perfect because I ask people to call me he/him.
I guess I made it all up. That was all just transphobia, I guess.
this is another example of what I was talking about re: "trans men have never experienced misogyny" rhetoric. Trans inclusive radfems believe that gender is this inherent quality people have that can never change (which is, imo, even stupider than sex essentialism). Trans women and men have always been their gender, and it supercedes any physical experiences they may have had. This is used to defend trans women's status as oppressed by misogyny, and then also gets used to attack trans men as Male Oppressors who are basically cis men but with a pussy, to devalue our experiences with misogyny and control everything we do or say by reminding us we're Intrinsically Oppressive and the best we can do is be allies to women with no voice of our own. That's why they say "you are just experiencing transphobia"; its the idea that trans men experiencing misogyny are only experiencing being misgendered, because they are Inherently Men and misogyny is about Women, so the only crime here to a TIRF is that a man is being mistaken as a woman. Because essentialism is the ideology of fucking toddlers.
Men and women are not fundamentally different. Gender is a construct and not a natural biological force that governs the type of oppression you are capable of experiencing. Trans women ARE oppressed by misogyny, but that's not because "woman" is some Real inherent natural trait that separates you from Males, no matter how affirming it might feel to buy into that idea.
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told an ai to make a foxgender flag
WHY IS THE U.S. FLAG IN THERE HELP?
The foxgenders shall take over the USA
hey transfems you can have a life beyond your 20s that you're happy with and feel fulfilled by we can choose good endings
part of the way they try to keep us down and killing ourselves is by keeping us from having stories about ourselves beyond 1) being sex objects, 2) being constantly funny or performing in some socially acceptable way despite how tiring that can be, 3) being fucked up and mentally ill and creepy and gross (which can be fun to wear and take and turn against them but can also be sad sometimes), or 4) as dead bodies
there's an entire psychic component to genocide and like i think this is true across most genocide attempts against lots of different groups but i can't speak for them like i can ours
staying alive is praxis and the trick to staying alive is to build community and the trick to building community is to build fun interests and hobbies and then share those with others and be sweet to each other and the trick to doing that is to be sweet to yourself and the trick to that is to know when to push yourself to expand and grow and when to curl up to be safe










